Osachepera monga momwe ife timachitira. Koma asayansi atsimikizira kuti palibe. Posachedwapa, akatswiri a zachikhalidwe cha ku America apeza kuti amuna akuvutika ndi zovuta pamoyo wawo kusiyana ndi akazi. Anna Barrett wa yunivesite ya Florida ndi Robin Simon wochokera ku yunivesite ya Wake Forest anakambirana ndi achinyamata ndi atsikana oposa chikwi ndipo adapeza kuti ngati banja likufika nthawi yovuta, zovuta zokhudzana ndi kugonana zimakhala zambiri, ngakhale sizikuwonetsa poyera. Kuphatikiza apo, amachitira bwino kwambiri maukwati achikondi. Chikondi chotere chimabweretsa mtima wokondweretsa kwambiri ndipo amathandizira kwambiri thanzi labwino. Zoonadi, kufufuza sikukudziwika kwathunthu. Asayansi anawerenga mafunso okhudzana ndi ophunzira okhaokha, ndipo pamene kufufuza kumeneko kunkachitika pakati pa okwatirana, kusiyana kwakukulu pa zochitika za abambo ndi amai sizinali zochitika. Koma izi zowoneka zikuwoneka zokhulupilika. Ndipo, zikuwoneka, tili ndi zifukwa zomveka zokhulupirira ziwerengero. Osati kukangana ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikupangitsa chikondi cha mtendere?
Ndipo kambiranani
Akatswiri ofufuza a ku America adanena kuti chifukwa chachikulu chomwe amasiyiratu amuna pamapeto pake ndi kuti mzakeyo akudziwonekera mwachangu. Ndiko kuti, ziribe kanthu momwe ubale wake ndi mayi ake ndi mnzanu ulili wabwino, mutsegule moyo wonse, iye yekha angakhoze. Ndipo inu, mosiyana ndi iye, muli pafupi ndi enieni ndi abwenzi, makolo ndi dokotala wanu wa mano. "N'kosavuta kuti mkazi athe kukwanitsa kulankhulana mwachinsinsi. Amuna ambiri amatha kuchita izo movutikira - amakakamizidwa ndi mantha a chibwenzi, ndipo kutseguka kumaonedwa kuti ndifooka, "akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Alexander Kuznetsov. Kuyankhula momasuka komanso moona mtima komanso panthawi yomweyo sitimva ngati zigoba zathu okondedwa athu angakhale ndi ife, chifukwa ifeyo timagonana. Ndipo kugwirizana ndi amuna sikukutanthauza kukambirana kwa nthawi yaitali ndi kuvomereza kodabwitsa. Akusowa chithandizo chambiri, chidaliro ndi kumvetsetsa mwachibadwa.
Zonse zikatha
Phunziro la akatswiri a zachikhalidwe cha anthu, pali kufotokoza kochepa, koma kofunikira - amuna amakhala ndi mikangano ndi chisokonezo m'banja, pamene akulekerera kusiyana. Koma, malinga ndi momwe katswiri wamalonda Elena Lazarenko ananenera, kupatukana kwapatsidwa kwa iwo mopanda phokoso, chifukwa kawirikawiri samaganizira ngakhale kuti amalingaliro otani amakhala nawo. "Poyang'ana pa zomwe ndakumana nazo, amuna nthawi zambiri amapita kwa amayi kuti athandizidwe maganizo pamene chikondi chikutha. Kuwonjezera apo, iwo akadali ochepa kwambiri kuti akacheze katswiri wa maganizo mudziko lathu, "iye adatero. Malinga ndi wotsogolera, izi ndi chifukwa chakuti anthu amakhulupirira kwa nthawi yaitali: maubwenzi amafunika, poyamba, wokondedwa ndipo, chifukwa chake, ayenera kuwasamalira. Koma pamene pali kusiyana, kwa iwo ndizodabwitsa kwakukulu kuti kumverera kopanda pake, kumene iwo akuyamba kukumana nawo. Akazi, mosiyanitsa, amadziwa bwino kufunika kwa maubwenzi komanso ngakhale kuwanyengerera. "Amuna nthawi zambiri amabwera kwa ine ndi kuvomereza koteroko:" Ndinamenyana ndi malo otentha, ndikuyenda padziko lonse lapansi. Ndili ndi bizinesi yopindulitsa. Palibe ndipo palibe wochita mantha. Koma sakanakhoza kuganiza kuti popanda iye izo zikanayamba. Ndiuzeni, vuto langa ndi liti? Ine ndimaganiza kuti ife tidzakhoza kupatukana ndipo chirichonse chikanatha. Ndipo tsopano sindingathe kugona popanda izo, sindingadye! "- Anatero Elena Lazarenko. - Ndiko kuti, munthu amene sadziwa komanso sakudziwa zosowa zake za mumtima, pamapeto pake amadalira kugwirizana kumene zosowazi zimakhutira pang'ono. Kawirikawiri izi zimachitika ndi a donzhu, omwe amasintha akazi nthawi zonse, omwe samalola aliyense kukhala ndi chibwenzi komanso kukana kufunikira kwake. "
Misozi
Ife tikhoza kumalira mofuula. Ngakhale pagulu. Ndipo amachotseratu nkhawa. Amuna amasunga zochitika mwa iwo okha. "Nthawi zina ndimangochitira nsanje chibwenzi changa. Adzaphwanya mbale zingapo pakhomopo, nthiti ndikukonzekera, - Evgeni avomereza (27). - Ndipo sindingathe kuponyera mbale kapena kuponyera mipando, chifukwa ndili wamphamvu, zochita zoterozo ziwoneka ngati zachiwawa. Iye amangowopa. Mwinamwake, ndicho chifukwa nthawi zonse ndimasowa, nthawi yochuluka kuposa chibwenzi changa, kuti ndipulumutse ku nkhondo yotsatira. " Mmodzi adzayesa kuthetsa nkhawa m'maganizo, wina - akumwa mowa, ndipo wachitatu adzayang'anitsitsa pa TV ndipo adzadikira kuti idzidutse yokha. Anyamata kuyambira ubwana akuuzidwa: osalira konse, ndiwe munthu wam'tsogolo. Kuwonetsa chikondi, mantha, chisoni, chiopsezo kwa ambiri a iwo n'zosatheka. Ndipo chotero malingaliro omwe ndi ovuta kufotokoza, amuna, kawirikawiri amatengera malo omwe amadziwika bwino ndi otetezeka - mkwiyo kapena ukali. Koma nthawi zambiri samanena zakukhosi kwawo momasuka ndikusiya mtima wamkati mkati. Zotsatira zake zingayambitse matenda opatsirana, maganizo, mantha.
Zabwino kwambiri
"Nthawi zambiri timakangana ndi mkazi wanga woyamba. Zifukwa zinali tsiku ndi tsiku: Ndani adzapita m'mawa kukayenda ndi galu, amene anathyola ketulo ya magetsi ndi zomwe angasankhe chatsopano, choti achite pamapeto a sabata? Maganizo athu amasiyana kwenikweni ndi zonse, - anatero Anton (32). Poyamba ndinaganiza: zonse chifukwa tili ndi zofanana kwambiri. Koma kenako ndinadziwa kuti ndinaphedwa ndikuti sindinali ulamuliro wake. Ngakhale ndi teti. " Mikangano mwa awiriwa imakhudza kwambiri kudzidalira kwa amuna. Ndipotu, timakhalanso osasamala ngati sitimamvetsera mwa maganizo athu kapena (zoopsa kwambiri!) Poyerekeza ndi ena. Koma kwa wokondedwa, mikangano ndi chisokonezo zimatanthauza kuthetsa kwake kwathunthu mu gawo la chikondi. Ndipo kupulumuka kulephera kwa wina amene ankadziyesa yekha wopambana si kophweka. Kwa munthu, kulephera mu bizinesi yopindulitsa kwa iye ndi vuto lalikulu lodzidalira kuposa la mkazi. Malingaliro a "kupambana" ndi "kugonjetsedwa" amamusangalatsa kwambiri. Ndicho chifukwa chake amuna amathyola mofulumira komanso kwautali. Zimakhalapo kuti kugonana kolimba kuli wamphamvu kuposa ife muzonse, kuphatikizapo kumverera. Mwa ichi iwo sangavomereze.