Muyenera kudziyesa nokha kuti ndinu ndani. N'zosavuta kunena! Ndipo momwe mungakwaniritsire izi?
Momwe mungagwirizane ndi inu nokha, kodi izi ndi pamene miyendo yanu yayifupi ndipo mphuno yanu ndi yaikulu kwambiri? Kodi ndi liti pamene mukupita kwa azidindo atatu kwa zaka khumi, ndipo pulogalamuyi imakhudzidwa ndi fumbi lakale? Mwanayo akamabweretsa chiwombankhanga chimodzi, ndipo mwana wamkazi m'munda amamenyana?
Mwamwayi, ambiri a ife tinakulira ndi kukhudzidwa kuti chikondi ndi choipa, cholakwika, chosayenera. Tiyenera kulingalira za ena poyamba, ndiyeno tokha. Ambiri amakhala monga chonchi ...
Kodi munayamba mwadzifunsapo chomwe chiri kumbuyo kwa mawu oti "kudzikonda": chikhumbo chenicheni chothandiza munthu popanda kuganizira za zofuna zanu, kapena kodi mukuyesera kuthawa kuchoka kwanu? Chinthu chimodzi ndi chosavuta kusiyanitsa: muyeso yoyamba, munthu ndi wogwirizana komanso wokondwa. Pachiwiri, iye akukulungidwa kwamuyaya, wokwiya, wokhumudwitsidwa ndi dziko lonse lapansi, yemwe "samayamikira" ndipo "samamvetsa." Mulimonsemo, munthu amakhulupirira kuti "adawapatsa mphamvu ndi unyamata," ndipo sakuyamikira! "
Ndipo kuti mudzidziwe nokha - kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo, moona, wowopsya. Mwadzidzidzi mudzapeza chinachake chosasamala! Kotero iwe uyenera "kudzikankhira" wekha kumbuyo, ndi kumanga pa chopondapo cha ena ... Inu simukuzikonda izo? Ndiye phunzirani kudzisamalira nokha, ndikubisala kumbuyo kwamuyaya "inde ndikanafuna, koma ..." ndikupanga pasitepe yoyamba kwa inu nokha.
Kudana kwathu tokha kuli ndi zigawo ziwiri - kunja ndi mkati. Yoyamba ikuwonetsedwa poyera poyera pamtundu wa zokha, zofunikira ndi luso. "Mukuganiza kuti ndine wabwino, koma ndikudziwa kuti si zoona." Ndipo sizosadabwitsa kuti pakapita nthawi ena ayamba kuvomereza ndi izi!
Zomwe zimafala kwambiri kwa akazi sakonda ...
- Kusayamika kwabwino ("O, kuti, ine sindikumvetsa kanthu, ine ndikuganiza mwangozi").
- kupereka kwa ena ofunika, zomwe ziridi, koma ufulu ndi wanu ("Popanda izo, sindikanapambana mu moyo").
- chizoloŵezi chosagula chinachake payekha payekha, kukhulupirira kuti ndi bwino kugula chinthu ichi kwa wina ("Ndizovuta kwambiri kwa ine, ndichita izo").
- chikhumbo chodzilungamitsa nokha pa zomwe mukuyang'ana ("Zovala izi ndizochepa ...").
- chilolezo chodzitcha okha zochepa zowonongeka - mawu okhumudwitsa, koma makamaka kulemekeza mayina ("hrynya", "wopusa", "donut").
Tsatirani nokha. Ngati muchita chimodzimodzi, sintha maganizo anu ndi momwe mungachitire. Kusakondana kwa mkati kumachokera ku kudziyerekezera kwamuyaya nokha ndi ena, "zabwino." Musayang'ane kwa mnzako (chibwenzi, bwenzi lanu), koma kwa inu nokha, koma pachigawo chapitayi: chaka chatha ndinayamba kuphunzira chilankhulo, ndipo ndikuyankhula izi momveka bwino; anali mdindo - anakhala mtsogoleri. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti muyese bwino zomwe mukuchita ndikudzikuza. Phunzirani kudzipatula nokha, wapadera kuchokera kuunika ndi kuzindikira za kupambana kwanu ndi anthu ena. Izi ndi zinthu zosiyana kwambiri. Mwamuna wanu akusiyani inu, mutaya ntchito yanu, inalephera pulojekiti - zonsezi sizikupangitsani inu kukhala woipitsitsa. Aliyense wa ife ndi wapadera - ichi ndi chifukwa chachikulu chodzikondera wekha. Ngati munabadwa, zikutanthawuza kuti ndiwe, monga momwe muliri, omwe akusowa dziko lino. Dzikumbutseni izi mobwerezabwereza - ndipo zonse zidzakhala bwino.
Kuti uzidzikonda wekha, iwe uyenera kuti udziwe bwino. Zambiri mu moyo zomwe timachita "kwa kampani", "osati kukhumudwitsa". Ganizilani zomwe mumakonda: nyimbo zamtundu wanji zimakondweretsa, ndi mabuku ati omwe mumakonda, zovala zomwe mumakonda, zimakukhudzani bwanji, ndi chiyani chomwe mukufuna kusintha?
Musayambe kudutsa mafunso "osatha". Kodi mumalota chiyani, kodi mumayamikira chiyani, zomwe mumayesetsa, zomwe mwakwanitsa? Mayankho owona mtima adzakuthandizani kumvetsa komwe mukuyenda tsopano - ku zolinga zanu kapena kwa iwo. Kumbukirani: yemwe amadzikonda yekha, njirayo ikhoza, ikuwombera, koma nthawi zonse imatsogolera.