Kotero, ndi liti pamene pamayenera kubweretsa mwamuna mnyumba ndikuwonetsa bambo ndi mayi anu. Chabwino, ndithudi, simuyenera kuumirira kulankhulana ndi banja lanu m'miyezi yoyamba ya mnzanu. Zidzawoneka zachilendo ndikukayikira. Mwinamwake simukuwona chirichonse chosazolowereka mu izi, koma kwa mnyamata wodziwa ndi makolo amveka ngati chithunzi choonekera: tsopano akukudziwani, kotero inu simungakhoze kuchoka kwa ine kulikonse. Ndichifukwa chake, ngakhale mukufuna, kudziwana ndi banja ndi bwino kubwerera patsogolo. Zindikirani kuti mnyamatayo mwiniyo samadziwa chomwe akukumva iwe ndi momwe ubale wako udzakhalire. Inde, tinganene kuti izi zikumveka ngati nkhanza, komabe, zoona. Ndi atsikana okha omwe amakonda kukonda chirichonse ndi hyperbolize. Tikadziwana ndi mnyamata wina ndikumukonda, zikuwoneka kuti amamva kuti amamverera mofananamo komanso amapanga zolinga zambiri. Ndipotu, chirichonse chiri kutali kwambiri ndi momwe ife tikuwonera kupyolera mu magalasi okongola a chikondi. Kawirikawiri mnyamata wina pa nthawi yoyamba ya ubale samaganiza za chirichonse. Amangolankhula ndi inu, amayamba kuyanjana ndikuyesera kumvetsetsa ngati kuli kofunikira kuti apange ubale umenewu. Ngati mubwera ndi ndondomeko yoti mupite kunyumba, imwani tiyi ndi abambo anu ndi amayi anu, amavomereza kuti ndi kuphwanya ufulu wabwino ndipo akhoza kungochoka. Choncho, musachedwe, dikirani mpaka atakuyenderani, adzalumikizana ndipo ubale wanu udzakhala wovuta kwambiri.
Ndifunikanso kuti musakhale woyamba kuwonetsa choyamba pazomwe mukudziwana ndi banja lanu. Chowonadi ndi chakuti pamene mwamunayo mwiniyo akamba za kukumana ndi amayi ndi abambo, zikutanthauza kuti amatenga ubale wanu mozama. Kudziwa bwino ndi makolo kumatanthauza zambiri kwa anyamata. Iwo amadziwa kuti amayi anu tsopano amamupatsa udindo, ndipo samakhala chibwenzi chanu chabe, koma mnyamata yemwe ayenera kuteteza wokondedwa wake ndipo nthawizonse amuthandize. Chifukwa chake, perekani nthawi yachinyamata kuti iye mwiniyo abwere ku lingaliro ili, ndipo sanapite kunyumba kwanu pafupi ndi kuperekeza. Ngati mumakumana kwa nthawi yaitali, koma mnyamatayu sakuyesa kuyesera, yesetsani kulankhula naye mosamala. Koma musamatsutse mwanjira iliyonse. Ingonena kuti mukhoza kupita kwa makolo kumapeto kwa sabata, chifukwa adamva zambiri za iye ndipo akhala akufuna kudziwana bwino. Ngati mzimayiyo akudziyesa kuti samvetsa mfundo kapena kukana mwachindunji, kambiranani naye molunjika ndikumupempha kuti afotokoze zifukwa za khalidweli. Mwina iwo adzakhaladi ofunika, ndipo mutseka funso ili.
Mwamwayi, chifukwa chake msungwana saika pangozi kumudziwa mnyamata ndi makolo ake angakhale banja. Pamene akunena, sitimasankha makolo, kotero timayenera kupirira ma quirks awo. Ngati mukudziwa kuti banja lanu ndi losamvetseka pazifukwa zina, yesetsani kufotokozera izi. Koma palibe chifukwa chobisa chilichonse ndipo usachite manyazi. Ngati amakukondani, amavomereza aliyense komanso makolo ake. Inde, musamachite manyazi ndi makolo anu, ngati ali ophweka, kapena mosemphana ndi pang'ono, amodzi. Mulimonsemo, awa ndi banja lanu, omwe akufuna kudziwa ndi omwe mwana wawo wamkazi amakumana nawo. Koma kuti adziteteze ku zochitika zosiyanasiyana zosamvetsetsana ndi mikangano, mchenjezeni munthuyo za makhalidwe a mayi kapena abambo. Inde, mwinamwake inu mudzakhala ndi mantha pang'ono, koma kumbukirani kuti palibe chabwino. Choncho, simukusowa kuganizira nthawi yachiwiri yamadzulo ndikupatseni chibwenzi chilolezo chomwe khalidwe lake lidzajambulapo mphindi iliyonse. Nthawi zambiri, mumuchenjeze za zomwe simuyenera kuchita, ndi nkhani ziti zimene siziyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito komanso zomwe siziyenera kuchitika. Kumbukirani kuti ngakhale ngati chinachake chikulakwika, mukhoza kungochokapo nthawi zonse. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti kulola zovuta ndi zovuta.
Zikhoza kukhalapo pamene mutha kudandaula kuti mnyamatayo adzachita chinachake cholakwika ndipo makolo anu sangavomereze. Pankhaniyi, mufotokozereni bwino kuti zinthu zina zomwe banja lanu silingavomereze, choncho mumamupempha kuti asamve mawu kapena zowonjezera. Mulimonsemo musamamuuze mwamunayo ndipo musamumange. Ngati mutachita izi, ndiye kuti adzalandira manyazi kuti ali ndi manyazi komanso akufuna kuchita zomwe makolo anu angafune. Gwirizanani, malingaliro amenewa ndi osangalatsa kwa munthu aliyense.
Mulimonsemo, muyenera kusintha muzochitika zonse. Choncho, kuyamba kukumana ndi mnyamata, musati muzindikire nthawi yomwe mudzamudziwe bwino ndi makolo ake. Mwinamwake, mumangomvetsa kuti munthu uyu sali mnyamata wabwino yemwe amamufuna kuti azigwiritsa ntchito nthawi yake, koma zina zambiri, gawo la banja lanu. Ndipo iye, nayenso, adzamva kuti akufuna kuti adziwe anthu omwe anakulera iwe ndikukuphunzitsani kukhala wolungama. Ndi pamene nthawi yabwino idzafika kuti mnyamata akakomane ndi makolo anu.