Kawirikawiri atsikana, amagwiritsa ntchito makhalidwe awo akunja kuti akope munthu. Kuphatikiza pa nkhope yokongola, mafupa obiriwira, bulu wosasuntha, miyendo yochepa, atsikana nthawi zonse amalandira zodzoladzola kuthandiza, zipangizo zosiyanasiyana, zovala zosankha bwino zomwe zimatsindika makhalidwe abwino okha, ndi kubisalakwitsa. Atsikana samakhalanso ndi zida zokhala ndi zovala zokhazokha, abwenzi abwino omwe nthawi zonse amapulumutsidwa, komanso ndi malingaliro apamwamba kwambiri, amatha kupanga mapulani osalongosoka, momwe angatembenuzire mutu ndi kumunyoza munthu wabwino.
Amuna samagwiritsa ntchito mapuloteni, savala zovala zambiri, amakhala ochepa pooneka maonekedwe awo, sangathe kudzitamandira ndi mawere akuthwa, mapazi awo m'makutu awo amamveka ngati chinachake chalakwika. Kodi ali ndi njira zawo zenizeni ndi njira zotani? Kodi munthu amachita chiyani kuti akope chidwi cha mkazi?
Mu arsenal ya anthu, palinso njira zingapo zomwe amagwiritsa ntchito kuti akope chidwi cha mkazi wokongola. Njira yoonekera kwambiri komanso yotchuka kwambiri kuti akope chidwi cha amai mwa amuna akadali malo awo. Amuna nthawi zambiri amakhala kuti malo amtundu wawo amagawidwa. Kotero iwo akuyesera kuti asonyeze ulemu wawo wamwamuna okha, momwe izo zikuwonetsera izo, ngakhale ziri zobisika pansi pa zovala, koma amasonyezanso kuti ali olimba mtima. Izi zikuwonetsa chidwi cha mwamuna ndi mkazi, zimasonyeza kuti iye anatsegula kusaka kwa mkazi yemwe iye ankamukonda. Izi ndizopusa kwa amai athu, komabe ife tiri ndi njira zofanana zomwe sitingathe kuziwona ndi maso a zida, mwachitsanzo, kuthamangira patsogolo pa chifuwa, kulimbitsa mimba, ndikugwirizanitsa chithunzicho.
Pa izi, njira zokopa mkazi kuchokera kwa mwamuna sizitha. Kodi munthu amachita chiyani kuti akope chidwi cha mkazi, kuwonjezera pa malo ena oyankhulana? Kawirikawiri amuna amadzipangira yekha zida zathu, kuseketsa ndi kuseka. Imeneyi ndi imodzi mwa njira zabwino kwambiri zokopa chidwi cha munthu amene mumamukonda. MaseĊµero osayenera, mwinamwake wonyansa, ndipo mwinamwake osadzikonda, amakhala ndi munthu watsopano nthawi zonse, zimakhala zosavuta kukwaniritsa izi pamene munthu ali wokondwa kwambiri ndipo ali otseguka kwa omvera. Ndipo, monga amayi amadziwira, amakonda ndi makutu awo, ndipo zonse zimasangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa. Choncho, izi ndizowoneka bwino, chifukwa chinthu chachikulu ndikumvetsa mfundo zofooka za wogwidwa.
Phunziro ponena za mkazi amakonda kumvetsera makutu bwino, mawuwa amachokera ku mibadwomibadwo. Iye nthawizonse amakhala pa khutu la aliyense. Kotero kodi munthu amachita chiyani kuti akope chidwi cha mkazi wokongola? Palibe chabwino kuposa kuyamikira kuti wapadera mkazi, kuti asonyeze kuti ndi wapadera komanso wapadera, monga iye, panonso, kapena munthu amene sanakumane nawo. Kupereka mkazi ndi mayamiko ndi njira yabwino yopezera chidwi chake, komanso mwayi wopeza ulemu. Inde pali mwayi woti mkazi sangayamikire zoyamikirika ndi kuyesayesa kwa munthu chifukwa chakuti iwo anali banal, koma amuna samata mtima ndikubwera ndi njira zowonjezera kuti apange mkazi wabwino, anene zomwe sananenerepo kale, ndipo amazipeza .
Mukamayankhula ndi mwamuna, sitimayi yachikazi sichidziwikanso kumbuyo kwake, ngati kudzipangitsa kudzimvera chifundo, amuna samadandaula za miyoyo yawo, mabwana awo ndi mavuto ena. Iwo ndi ochepa chabe pa mawu ndi nkhani zokambirana, koma izi ndizo zomwe amagwiritsa ntchito kuti akope chidwi cha mkazi wokongola. Amuna samagwiritsa ntchito chifundo, chikhumbo chokumvetsa, chifundo. Koma amakondwera kuti amayi amalankhula komanso samakhala chete. Choncho, munthu wanzeru, pofuna kukopa chidwi, mkazi adzakonzekera bwino pamsonkhano, kuganizira zokambirana, ndi zokambirana zomwe zingakambirane.
Kodi munthu amachita chiyani kuti akope chidwi cha mkazi osati kudzera mwa munthu, koma mwachitsanzo? Foni yam'manja ndi njira zabwino kwambiri zogwiritsira ntchito munthu. Ndipotu, tikamalankhulana pa foni, sitingathe kuona khalidwe la munthu, kuyenda kwake, manja, nkhope, tingathe kuziganizira pokhapokha chifukwa cha mawu. Kuphatikizanso, kulankhulana kwa foni nthawi zambiri kumakhala kochepa pakapita nthawi, sizingatheke ngati mutagwirizana. Mosiyana ndi zokondana komanso kulankhulana ndi amayi, abambo pa kulankhulana pa foni ndi osiyana kwambiri ndi akazi. Amuna omwe ali pa foni nthawi zambiri samawongolera, mwachidule. Sikuti alibe chilichonse choti anene, ndi njira imodzi yokha yochezera chidwi ndi munthu wawo. Asanayitane mkazi, mwamuna angaganize kangapo zomwe adzalankhule naye. Koma pofuna chidwi ndi kukopa mkazi, mwamuna sangakambe nkhani yamaola, ngakhale ali ndi nthawi yochuluka. Ngati mumamvetsera, mukhoza kuona kuti kuyitana mkazi mwamuna nthawi zambiri amasiya kukambirana foni, sizomwe zimangokhalapo. Pambuyo pake, khalidweli limayambitsa kuyankhulana kosakwanira, kusagwirizana, ndipo mkaziyo ali ndi chidwi ndi izi, chifukwa amwazikana ndikulankhulirana, monga apa akuuzidwa nthawi yomweyo. Zomwe mwa izo zokha zimapangitsa chidwi chachikulu kwa mwamuna, chilakolako cholankhulana ndi iye, kukumananso, akuyembekezera kuyembekezera kwotsatira ndi kuleza mtima.
Osanyalanyaza amunawa, ndi anzeru kwambiri komanso amanyenga, ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri amadziyesa wopusa. Mwinamwake iwo ali, koma mwinamwake iyi ndi imodzi mwa mfundo za ndondomeko yawo kuti akapolowe mtima wa mlendo wokongola yemwe amawakonda.