Malangizo a katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena mawu ake abwino, osapindula amakhala ofunika kwambiri. Nthawi zina mabanja amakhala osokonezeka mu ubale kotero kuti potsiriza amasankha kupita kwa katswiri wamaganizo. Pang'onopang'ono, mawu omasulira, amavomereza choonadi kuti chinthu chachikulu mu banja ndi mgwirizano, katswiri wa zamaganizo amawawonetsa momwe mitundu ina ya maubwenzi amakhalira muzaka zapitazi.
Amuna ayenera kuwerengera ndi kuti ndife olingana nawo kale. Chofunika kwambiri mu mgwirizano ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Zinkakonda kukhala serfs ndi akazi - zoipa kuposa serfs. Tsopano ndife ololedwa kuti tikhale ndi malingaliro athu omwe, ndipo chofunikira kwambiri, ife nthawizonse timakhala ndi maudindo athu, kupatula omwe ife timasewera mu banja. Sikuti timangokhala amayi komanso akazi okhaokha, komanso timaphunziro apamwamba kapena ochepa chabe - ofesi ya ofesi :) Olimba ndi ofooka, oleza mtima komanso okhwima - koma adziyimira okha, atha kukhala opanda munthu, ngati palibe njira zina, kupatula ukapolo wamtendere ndi nkhanza .
Kodi maubale "osagwirizana" amachokera kuti?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amadziwa kuti chiwerengero cha amuna pambuyo pa nkhondo ndi chimodzi mwa zovuta kwambiri. Amphawi anali ochepa, anali ndi mtengo wapadera. Izi zinkaonekera makamaka mwa ana, omwe azunguliridwa ndi amayi anga. Ndimo momwe akazi adasewera ndi "mayi wamkazi".
Inde, komabe pali malingaliro awiri oopsya - kaya mwamuna-abambo, getter, yemwe akufuna, amene amasankha mafunso onse, kapena mwana wamwamuna, amene akufunikira kudzisamalidwa-kuphunzitsidwa, ndi kuphunzitsidwa kuti azilamulira.
Pankhaniyi, onsewa ndi amayi ena amalimbikitsidwa kuti akhale pa ntchito yachiwiri kapena yoyamba. "Okhazikika" amvetsetsa ndikumvetsetsa. Kumbukirani kangati munamva mawu akuti "Ndili ndi ana awiri - mwamuna ndi mwana." Eya, samaphika pelmeni ndipo samatsuka zovala zake?
Ndipo amachitira nsanje "abambo aakazi" ndikuwaika monga chitsanzo - apa, iwo amati, mkazi uyu! Kwa zaka makumi awiri ndipo sadziwa kumene kulipira nyumba! Musanene kuti ndi zosavuta kwa amuna awo. Ndipo "ngati" mkazi sangakhale amodzi - ali woponyedwa kumbali ya moyo.
Momwe mungakhalire ubale wathanzi, wamphamvu ndi wamakono?
O, mgwirizano, makamaka mkhalidwe wathu - ndizojambula bwino. Nthano, zenizeni. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi, "amawona" mkazi, amafuna "mapewa odalirika" kapena ngakhale magawo ogawanika. Ndipo apa - "Mwamuna wa mnyumbayo akukhala, akusewera gitala ...", monga momwe amachitira ndi Satirist Zhvanetsky ...
Chofunika kwambiri mu chiyanjano, katswiri wa zamaganizo adzanena nthawi yomweyo. Pali zenizeni zenizeni zomwe zimatsimikizira mtundu umenewu wa ubale. Ndipo chinthu choyamba chimene chikubwera m'malingaliro - chiyanjano chathunthu - mwatsoka, sichigwirizana. Kufanana "m'zonse" ndizotsutsa-chitsanzo cha mgwirizano. Koma kuthandizana wina ndi mzake, kuthandizana, kuthandizana ndi kumvetsetsa ndizofunikira kwambiri mu mgwirizano pakati pa banja.
Ife sitiri ofanana ndipo si ofanana
Mwatsoka, kuti afotokoze kuti chinthu chachikulu mu mgwirizano, akatswiri a maganizo amagwirizanitsa ... chikazi. Pogwiritsa ntchito mkazi wothandizira, iye adagwira ntchito, ndipo Moor yemwe anachita ntchito, amatha kuchoka. Chifukwa mmalo mofanana zimasanduka mtundu wa kuseka - kukokera bulangeti pawekha ndi "kuyeretsa" zopindula.
Koma amuna a "khosi" ameneŵa mokwanira kuntchito! Ndipo pano kunyumba - chimodzimodzi!
Amuna ndi akazi ndi osiyana kwambiri. Amalankhulana m'njira zosiyanasiyana ndi zolinga zosiyana. Ndipo kupatukana mu "malire" osiyanasiyana sikungakhale kwanzeru, popeza tikukamba za mtundu wina wa polojekiti, ndipo makamaka - banja. Choncho, chinthu chachikulu mu mgwirizano - musapite kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo - m'mudzi.
Chiyanjano chikugwirizana ndi cholinga chimodzi. Ngakhalenso ngati mkazi akukhala ndi chigamulo ndi ana atatu, ndipo mwamuna wake amawatenga onsewo. Ndipo kunyoza "Ine, iwe, oglovodov, chakudya" sichiyenera kukhala - ngati chiganizo chopeza gawo lachitatu chinali mgwirizano komanso woganizira.
Kuchokera kumodzi malinga ndi luso lake ...
Mfundo yotsatira yofunikira ndi kugawa udindo. Pambuyo pozindikira kusiyana kwa kugonana (iye amamvetsa mapu, iye - ndi chotupitsa pamsewu) adzagawana nawo malingaliro. Pambuyo pa zonse, simukufuna kupeza muzama mbale imodzi ndi theka yosasamba - kwayekha komanso kwa mwana wamng'ono ...
Kuti mugawire maudindo mokwanira, muyenera kumvetsetsa bwino yemwe akuchita bwino, yemwe ali ndi zolinga zirizonse. Mwinamwake mkazi, yemwe (kachiwiri, akuganiza) akukhala mukumayi, ali wopambana kwambiri mu mawu opanga. Ndipo kumusokoneza iye kulembetsa Harry Potter miliyoni zambiri sizimveka.
Kapena amafunseni mwamuna wake kuti amenye mazuti tsiku lililonse, ngati atenga "ntchito" yopita kuntchito - chifukwa mawa akhoza "kusewera" ndikubweretsa ndalama kuti asawonongeke.
Kumvetsera wina ndi mnzake
Kuti "tigwedeze" ntchito yaying'ono kuchokera kumapeto otsiriza a ntchito yathu, tidzakhala tikuphunzira kumvana. Musamangomvetsera kumapeto kwa tsiku - koma ndi mafunso owongoka kapena owongoka kuti mudziwe zomwe mnzanu akufuna. Kuti muzitha kufotokoza nokha.
Ndipo kuti "kutanthauzira" ndi kugwedezeka kosapeŵeka kwa zofuna sizinasandulike kukhala swara, ziyenera kutuluka thukuta. Pakapita nthawi kuti mudzipangitse nokha - ngakhale ngati mukukumana ndi chisoni pamphepete - osapweteka kwambiri, koma mvetserani.
Ngati ndikofunikira - kumvera. Ngati zimathandiza, yesetsani nokha. Osakhudza kapena kunyoza mnzanuyo.
Aliyense wa ife ndi Munthu!
Ndipo ndi izi zomwe zikuiwalika m'banja. Onse ali pafupi kwambiri, ozoloŵera komanso ozolowereka - kumalo aliwonse omalizira kumbali yamanzere, yomwe ndi yovuta kuwatenga. Tinawonana wina ndi mzake m "mchitidwe wosiyanasiyana - mu matenda ndi mu thanzi, tinawona zolakwa za wina ndi mzake ndipo, tawonani, timadziwa kuti ife ndife opanda tchimo ...
Zovuta, zochitika, miyambo yakhazikitsidwa ndi njira ya moyo - zonsezi zingakulepheretseni kuwona Munthu wina ali ndi kalata yaikulu. Choncho, kupeŵa kutenga mozama, monga wokwanira ndi wofanana. Muloleni iye amene sadziwa kudziwa ngati malaya ake ali nthawi yoti asambe ...