Zikuwoneka kuti mkaziyo ndi mavuto anabadwira nthawi yomweyo. Kapena kodi timafuna kuti tiwaone pazinthu zonse zomwe zimatizungulira? Kapena tili ndi mphatso yosatsutsika kuti tipeze iwo komanso kubwera nawo pamene sakupezeka? Kapena mwinamwake iwo amafunikira akazi kuti azisunga amuna kumapazi awo?
Chirichonse chomwe chinali, simukuyenera kukhazikitsa vuto popanda kanthu. Ngakhale "ichi" palibe chofunika kwambiri kwa inu nokha. Ndipo ndithudi simukuyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro anu enieni komanso maonekedwe. Choyamba, muyenera kudzikonda nokha, chifukwa momwe mumadzichitira nokha zimadalira mmene ena amakukonderani. Chachiwiri, dziko lamakono liri ndi njira zambiri ndi njira zothetsera chirichonse ndi chirichonse chomwe simukuchikonda: kuchokera ku mawonekedwe a mphuno mpaka kuimitsa matako. Ndipo, potsiriza, kachiwiri, zina mwa zomwe amayi amanena ku maonekedwe awo ziri zopanda maziko.
Imodzi mwa mavuto ovutawa imakhudzanso kachigawo kakang'ono ka chifuwa. Ndipo zimakhumudwitsa kwambiri mafunso osadziwika a atsikana aang'ono monga awa: momwe angakumanitsire ndi mnyamata, ngati kamphindi kakang'ono? Mkazi wachikulire, ngakhale wamng'ono, kulira uku kwa moyo kumangokhala kumwetulira. Kodi msonkhano ndi mnyamata ndi mawere ukukula bwanji? Kapena kodi mumakonda kwambiri a Pamela Anderson? Kapena kodi izi ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa mwamuna wowonetsa maganizo? Kodi amakondwera? Ndipo kodi chikondi chimenechi, ngati iye ndi chikondi chake?
Inde, ndi bwino kulankhula ndi omwe ali ndi chidziwitso cha moyo kumbuyo kwa mapewa awo ndi okondedwa awo. Koma kwa zinyama zambiri, chifuwa chaching'ono chimakhala vuto lalikulu, chifukwa cha zomwe atsikana amakumana nazo ndikusiya kusonkhana ndi achinyamata, amanyazidwa ndi chibwenzi. Ndipo, kawirikawiri, iwo sali ndi mlandu wa kuphulika ndi chitukuko cha zovutazi - zonena za kugonana ndi zokondweretsa zachinayi kukula zikugwira ntchito yawo. Ndipotu, ngati intaneti si malo, angakhale atatuluka nthawi yaitali kuchokera ku zithunzi ndi mavidiyo okongola kwambiri omwe ali ndi mabasi omwe sagwirizana kwambiri ndi lens. Osakanikira kumbuyo kwa Webusaiti Yadziko Lonse ndi magazini ofunika, mafilimu ndi anime. Chabwino, nanga achinyamata angaganize zotani ndi kuukira kwakukulu kotereku? Inde, mabere aang'ono ndi olakwika.
Ndipo momwe zinthu ziliri kwenikweni? Kodi ndi kulakwitsa kapena mphatso kuchokera ku chilengedwe?
Monga tawonetsa kale, zinthu zonse zapadziko lapansi zili zochepa ndipo zimaphunzira poyerekeza. Popeza palibe zofanana pakati pa amai, kotero palibe iwo ndi amuna. Winawake amakonda amayi omwe ali ndi mawere, koma wina amakonda mawonekedwe oyenerera, omwe amachititsa mkazi kuoneka ngati mtsikana. Koma apa ndi zomwe zakhala zikuwonetsera ndemanga za anthu osiyanasiyana - makamaka, ochepa chabe ngati chifuwa chodziwika bwino. Kotero, monga akunena, kuposa olemera, omwe ndi okondwa.
Inde, ndikudziganizira nokha, kodi ndizoona maganizo a mnyamata yemwe kuwala kwake kumagwira pachifuwa cha amayi kungatengedwe mozama? Kodi ndizoyenera kukumana ndi zoterozo? Kodi maubwenzi angatani kuti banja likhale lolimba ngati chikondi cha mwamuna chimakhala kukula kwa chifuwa chanu? Sizosangalatsa? Ndipo nchifukwa ninji muli pachibwenzi ndi mnyamata? Kodi ndi chifukwa cha bedi? Kodi si chifukwa cha kulenga banja ndi kukhala ndi ana? Ndikhulupirire, zabwino kapena zoipa iwe udzakhala mkazi ndi amayi, zimadalira inu, osati pa kukula kwa kwanu.
Kuwonjezera apo, dziko lathu ndilopadera, choncho zonse zili mmenemo zili ndi ubwino ndi zovuta. Mwachitsanzo, zifukwa zosayembekezereka za chifuwa chaching'ono zingaganizidwe kuti zimakhala zotalika komanso zotsekemera ndipo sizingatheke pokhapokha atabadwa, osati ngakhale zokhazokha. Ndipo ngakhale chifuwa chaching'ono chimayambitsanso mkazi, mukhoza kugona ndi m'mimba mwako, ndizosavuta kuthamanga, kukwera ndi kukwera njinga. Komanso, nthawi zonse anthu olemekezeka ankayenera kukhala ndi zochepa, zomwe pang'onopang'ono zinawathandiza kuti asinthe. O, zinali zovuta bwanji kuti akhale azimayi okongola!
Choncho chinthu chachikulu si kukula kwa chifuwa, koma chifukwa chakuti nthawi zambiri amayi sawona zoyenera zawo, koma amayang'ana zofooka mozama. Ndipotu, palibe vuto ndi chifuwa chaching'ono, pali zovuta zokha. Ndipo zimapangika mu ubongo wa msungwana chifukwa cha chilakolako chokumana ndi zowonongeka ndi zowonongeka za kugonana komanso kupanga zofuna zogonana. Omwe amapanga izo, nkuwonekeratu, nkofunikira - iwo akuwombera mwamphamvu. Koma n'chifukwa chiyani muyenera kugonjetsedwa ndi zombie ndikuchita manyazi ndi zomwe zaperekedwa mwachibadwa? Zonse zomwe msungwana amafunikira ndi chifuwa chachikulu kuti akumane ndi mnyamata ndikumagonjetsa zovuta zake ndikuzimvetsa: ngati amuna ankakonda oimira mabasi akuluakulu, umunthu ukafa zaka mazana ambiri zapitazo.