Mavuto a mgwirizano wa banja 1 chaka

Pamene banja lovomerezeka latha zaka zopitirira chaka chimodzi ndipo chilakolako choyambirira chimafika, mkaziyo ndithudi adzapeza njira yobweretsera chidwi cha mwamuna wake wokondedwa. Kuti achite izi, amafunika mphamvu, nthawi ndi ndalama. Mu mkhalidwe wofanana, munthu adzafunikira zocheperapo - kungolakalaka chabe ndi malingaliro. Amuna samaphunzira magazini a amayi, samamvetsera malangizo a maganizo ndipo samakambirana bwinobwino za banja lawo ndi anzanu anzeru. Iwo samabwera ndi lingaliro loti ayambitsenso mgwirizano ndi zovala zamkati za silika zakuda ndi makandulo mu chipinda chogona. Amachita zinthu zosavuta, koma nthawi yomweyo zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Chifukwa chifukwa cha mzimayi wotero, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi chikhumbo chofuna kukondana naye. Momwe angachitire izi zimadalira kutalika kwa moyo waukwati. Ndipotu, banja lililonse, ngati wamkulu aliyense, likukumana ndi mavuto ake: chaka chimodzi, zaka zitatu ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri. Vuto la mgwirizano wa banja kwa chaka chimodzi ndilo mutu wathu lero ndi lero.

Mavuto a chaka choyamba

Inde, izi zimachitikanso: Kuthamanga kwaukwati pambuyo pake kumapita, ndipo mtsikanayo amayamba kuyang'ana mwamunayo mwamuna wake ndi ... kuzungulira. Ndipo kodi iye akuwona chiyani? Kutanganidwa kwamuyaya ndi zochitika zapabanja za mwamuna kapena mkazi, banja losangalala limene, zikuwoneka, liri ndi chakudya chamtendere ndi mpando wofewa ndi TV. Ndipo "kumbali" mkazi wamnyamata akuwona abwenzi osakwatirana omwe amakhala moyo wawo wokondweretsa, chakudya chamadzulo sichimasangalatsa munthu aliyense ndipo amachoka pamtunda kunja kwa tawuni ali ndi abwenzi. Gawo loyamba la chikhomo chaukwati la mkazi wake amatchedwa "Chifukwa chiyani ine ndikufuna kukwatira?". Ngati panthawiyi mwamuna wake samapanga ndi kusintha, ndiye kuti zonse zidzapitirira kuwonjezeka, ndiko kuti, zidzangowonjezereka. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Inu mumangokhalira kuponyera nkhuni mu moto woyaka wa chikondi, chirichonse chomwe chingamveke ngati. Chifukwa chikondi, ndithudi, sichidutsa, koma pang'ono kuti musiye kusiyana pakati pa kusanakwatirana ndi moyo waukwati wa mwamuna kapena mkazi wake sikungalephere. Mkazi wanzeru amasiya mwachidule zochitika zake ndikubwerera kwa mkazi wake chikondi ndi chisangalalo chomwe chimalimbikitsa mgwirizano wawo panthawiyo. Anali ndi chiyani? Kuyenda palimodzi, kumayenda limodzi, madzulo. Komanso pamodzi. Ndipo ambiri, mau ambiri achikondi ndi opanda pake. Kawirikawiri milungu iŵiri ya "kukwera" kotereku ndi mkazi wokwanira kwa nthawi yaitali. Chaka chonse pambuyo pake, akhoza kugwiritsira ntchito "kulowetsedwa" kumeneku, ndipo mwamuna wake kachiwiri ndi chikumbumtima choyera adzalowetsa mu ntchito ndi ntchito zamakhalidwe, adzakhala pa mpando madzulo ndikudya chakudya chake chamadzulo. Dziwani kuti vuto la banja 1 chaka ndilofala.

Vuto la chaka chachitatu

Chaka chachitatu chokhala pamodzi, malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, ndi chovuta kwambiri. Ngati mkazi saganiziranso ntchito, ndipo banja lake limaganizira ntchito yake yaikulu, ndiye kuti m'chaka chachitatu cha ukwati wake amayamba "kuwombera" pang'ono. Mwachidule, amayamba kutopa ndi mwamuna wake. Amadziŵiratu zomwe adzanene, akuganiza momwe akumvera komanso maganizo ake. Kodi ndi zabwino? Zimasangalatsa. Tsiku lililonse ndi chimodzimodzi: mwamuna. Iyi ndi gawo lachiwiri la chikhomo chaukwati. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Sizingatheke kuthetsa kutopa uku ndi kusungulumwa nokha. Chinsinsicho ndi chosiyana kwambiri - gulu lanu laling'ono liyenera kuchepetsedwa. Mwamuna wanzeru, kuti asathamangitse matendawa, amasankha chithandizo chabwino. Iye amapita ndi mkazi wake ku maphwando a magulu, kumene kuli anthu ambiri, ndipo, mbali zambiri, osadziwika. Amapita naye pa bwato ndi kampani yaikulu, imene iye, mwamuna, akhoza kutayika. Koma izi ndi maonekedwe okha: iye ali pano, ali pafupi ndipo akuyang'ana theka lake, yemwe sadziwa za izo komanso amasangalala ndi maonekedwe a ufulu. Chofunika kwambiri ndi chakuti mwamuna wachikondi sadzamupatsa mkazi wake "kudyedwa" ndi abwenzi osakwatiwa ndi osudzulidwa, omwe adzawathandiza kuthetsa chiyanjano. Zotsatira zake: zokhudzana ndi zatsopano, mkazi watopa, koma osati kuchokera kwa mwamuna wake, koma kuchokera kwa makampani, mabwenzi atsopano ndi achikulire ambiri, kuchokera kununkhira, mawu ndi nthabwala. Tsiku lina sadzafuna kupita kulikonse madzulo, ndipo amupatsa mwamuna wake chakudya chamtendere pamodzi m'nyumba yake. Kugonjetsa! Chifukwa idzakhala nthawi yayitali kuti mupumule pambuyo pa "spree". Zaka zochepa. Izi sizikutanthauza, ndithudi, kuti pazaka izi mwamuna sangamupatse chidwi, pitani naye kuti akachezere ndikusangalala, sangapite ku nyanja yotentha ndi zina zotero. Koma kusintha kochepa-iwo nthawi zonse adzakhala pamodzi; ocheza nawo, opezeka pa tchuthi, ndipo msungwana wa sukulu, atengedwa kupita ku zisewero, ndizo, zamtundu.

Vuto la zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri

M'mabanja ambiri, gawo lachitatu la chikhomo chaukwati, chosasangalatsa kwambiri, chitha kuchitika. Chifukwa chokwatirana kale, ndipo mwamunayo, mochititsa chidwi, adabwereranso. Koma sanangotenthedwa, monga momwe zinalili kale, komatu anali wovutikitsidwa ndi mawu odzikonda. Kodi izi zikutanthauzanji? Msungwanayo adakwatira pambuyo pake, ndipo amaperekedwa (zakuthupi) bwino kwambiri. Wokondedwayo adapatsa mnzako Porsche watsopano ndi ochepa chabe, ngakhale kuti woyandikana naye sali mkazi wabwino, ngakhale anganene kuti. Ndipo kotero. Gawo lachitatu ndilo loopsya kwambiri m'banja, chifukwa ngati mwamuna alibe nthawi yogwiritsira ntchito nthawi, zinthu sizikhoza kutha ngati m'mabuku a chikondi, omwe, mwa njira, mkazi sanangowerenga, koma mwachibadwa, chifukwa amaiwala chakudya chamadzulo. - madzulo. Kuphika kumangoima.

Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?

Choyamba, chimene OSENERA kuchita. Musanong'oneze m'makutu a chifundo. Musalonjeze mapiri a golidi. Komanso, musayese kubwezeretsa malo a mkaziyo pabedi. Zonsezi - njira yopita ku mphepo, ndiko kuti, kugonjetsa. Choyamba, mwamuna wachikondi adzakhala kwa kanthaŵi, akuyang'ana mwakachetechete theka losasintha, osati kuyesa kukhazikitsa maubwenzi kapena kupeza chifukwa chake chakumva kwake. Ndiye, mosayembekezereka kwa iye, iye adzabwera kunyumba osati ndi maluwa, koma ndi maluwa okongola modabwitsa. Ndiye akugula ulendo, koma osati ku Turkey, koma kuzilumba zina zosaoneka, zomwe dzina lake adaziwona mu bukhu lina za chikondi chomwe chinasiyidwa ndi mkazi pa usiku. Chida chodabwitsa pazinthu izi - mphatso zamtengo wapatali, koma ndi amene ndi ndalama zomwe amaloledwa. Komanso, pofuna kutonthoza amuna omwe ali olemera, tidzadziwitsa kuti akazi awo sakhala ozoloŵera kwambiri, choncho ... Ndikofunika kuwapatsa zomwe iwo amagwiritsa ntchito, ngakhale m'mabanja awo, komanso m'maloto awo. Maloto a amayi odzichepetsa ndi osaphunzira amakhalanso odzichepetsa. Pambuyo pake, mphatsoyi ikhale yopita kwa mwamuna wake mukhoza kuchepetsa pang'ono ndikusewera mkazi wa mnyamata. Iye kale alibe kukwiya adzazindikira ndi kukonda m'makutu, ndipo ngakhale kuwerenga ndakatulo. Adzabwerera kwa mwamuna wake popanda kumusiya mwakuthupi. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, chirichonse chidzakhala monga poyamba, isanafike gawo lachitatu la kuziziritsa. Atalandira mwamuna kapena mkazi wake, mwamuna wanzeru ayesetsabe kuti achite zomwezo. Pambuyo pake, kodi poyamba anali woyenera kwa iye? Ndipo iye anali wokondwa ndi iye, ndipo sanafune chifundo kwa abwenzi ake, ndipo sanawerenge zolemba zachikondi zotere ... Pali amuna ochepa amene angafune ndi kusintha. Koma kukumbukira nokha kuti ndinu wamng'ono komanso wobwerera nthawi imeneyo ndibwino. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, ndizofunika: chimwemwe mu moyo wanu sizinapweteke aliyense.