Mu nthawi yathu lingaliro la "Ubwenzi wa Akazi" muzinthu zambiri zimayanjana ndi mpikisano, kusakhulupirika, kunyengerera. Komabe, funsoli nthawi zambiri limakambidwa m'mabwalo a amayi osiyanasiyana, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti liri ndi mkangano wosatha "kwa" ndi "motsutsa." Izi zakhala zikukambilana kwa zaka zambiri ndipo palibe gulu lingathe kukhala ndi lingaliro lofanana.
Amayi ambiri samagwirizana ndi akazi ndi abambo, poganiza kuti mavuto mu ubale nthawi zonse, ziribe kanthu momwe aliri amphamvu komanso oona mtima. Malingana ndi zomwe afukufuku amachititsa, 56% mwa anthu omwe anafunsidwa adanena kuti.
Popanda bwenzi - kuwala si kokoma.
Ndipo pafupifupi onse ofunsidwa mwachifundo amayankhula za abwenzi awo. Pambuyo pake, ndi bwenzi mumatha kuseka mwamtima pazopusa, kambiranani anyamata, bwana, apongozi anu ... ndi aliyense! Chinthu chachikulu ndichokutsimikizirika kuti palibe wina koma inu awiri adzadziwa za izo. Kodi mukufunikira kuwerenga ndakatulo paki, kuchotseratu masitolo kapena kuwonera filimu yakale - mumathandizira mnzanu nthawi zonse.
Palinso mdima wakuda moyo, pamene kusokonezeka kwa mlungu ndi mlungu ndi chirichonse chikugwa kuchokera mmanja, ndipo dziko likuwoneka lopanda ndi loyipa. Ndi nthawi zovuta kuti mnzanu nthawi zonse azikhala osamala. Amatha kumvetsera mavuto onse a tsikuli ndikugwirizana ndi inu muzonse, zomwe zimamupangitsa kudzidalira komanso kudandaula ngati dzanja. Kapena mwinamwake iye akhoza kung'ung'udza, kufuula, kudzipanga yekha kudzikweza yekha palimodzi. Icho, chosamvetseka, chidzagwiranso ntchito. Monga Aristotle ankakonda kunena kuti: "Bwenzi ndi moyo umodzi wokhala ndi matupi awiri."
Thandizo lachibale la achibale likufanana ndi zokambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti bwenzi ndi lingaliro losagonana. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti pali chidaliro, ulemu, kuwona mtima mu ubale. Ndipo mwamunayu anali ndi wina woti azitsanulira moyo wake yemwe angamuyembekezere komanso yemwe angakhale naye chimwemwe. Pambuyo pake, adziwa kale kuti ndi bwenzi lenileni la iwe, komanso iwe mwini. Ndipo ndani akufuula mu foni ndikudumphira padenga pamene akupeza kuti wakupangitsani chopereka cha chibwenzi? Bwenzi lapamtima. Kotero, pali chibwenzi chachikazi pambuyo pa zonse?
Ndalama kumbali ya ndalama.
Ali mwana, agogo aakazi, amayi ndi aphunzitsi amachititsa kuti ife tikhale ndi chikondi chaubwenzi, tikhale ndi malingaliro a anthu onse, kukhulupirika ndi kuthandizana. Ndipo samayikira kuti kukhalapo kwa abwenzi, koma kumatsindika kwambiri kuti ndikofunikira kukhala mabwenzi "monga choncho." Osati ndi ndalama komanso udindo wa munthu mumtundu, kapena maulendo aulere m'mabwalo a usiku ndi zinthu, koma monga choncho! Amene akudziwa, mwinamwake ndichifukwa chake pali mikangano yokhudza ubale wa chikazi, kuti poyamba unamangidwa pa chinyengo ndi phindu. Ndipo n'zotheka kuti asungwana amasiku ano samangosintha ubale ndi abwenzi. Ndipo, ndithudi, pamene pali mikangano, kusakhulupirika ndi miseche yosiyanasiyana, ambiri amadzifunsa funso ili: Kodi pali bwenzi lachikazi?
Kusakhulupirika ndi kukangana kambiri pakati pa iwo omwe amakana kukhulupirira ubale wa akazi. Sizodziwikiratu mu bizinesiyo kukhala ndi okongola. Amakonda mabwenzi onse awiri, moti amawaiwala za zaka zosangalatsa komanso mabwenzi okondwa. Apa ndipamene mpikisano wotchuka pakati pa abwenzi abwino, omwe amayamba kukhala adani.
Anne Lindbergh amakhulupirira kuti: "Amuna amasewera ubwenzi ngati mpira, ndipo amakhalabe osagwirizana. Akazi amasewera ndi abwenzi, ngati galasi lamoto, ndipo amatha. " Mwinamwake ndi momwe izo ziliri? Poyambirira, asungwana amayamba kukhala mabwenzi ambiri, amalota pamodzi, amakondana kwambiri, kenako mwadzidzidzi, ndipo abwenzi omwe ali ngati kagalu wakuda akuthamanga. Mtima uli wovulazidwa ndi wowawa, mkwiyo kwa dziko lonse lapansi ndi chikhulupiliro chosatsutsika kuti palibe ubale wa chikazi - ndicho chomwe chimatsalira. Koma pakadalibe kutayika! Zowonongeka, zosasinthika za imfa ya chibadwidwe. Zimakhala kuti popanda chibwenzi mmoyo, palibe!