Nkhani yachilendo, ife timakwatirana, monga lamulo, mwa chikondi ndi chiwawa, koma mwamsanga nthawi zambiri maukwati amapereka chinyengo chodziwika bwino, motero amakhala akuvuta m'banja. Onse awiri mwaima, monga momwe munkachitira, kupanga mphatso zabwino, zodabwitsa, kulankhula za momwe mumamvera, momwe simungathe kuchita popanda wina ndi mnzake. Zamoyo zonse zozungulira iwe zinayamba kukhazikitsidwa pokhapokha pa zopempha zowawa ndi zokoma. Kubwera madzulo kulikonse kuchokera kuntchito, mumayesa, musalankhulane komanso musagwirizanane ndi mavuto anu, ndipo ngakhale ngakhale kukambirana kosafunika kwenikweni kungasanduke chisokonezo padziko lonse. Inu nonse munayamba kudzigwira nokha mu mafuta, kuti pokhapokha ngati mumamuwona mwamuna, mumachepetsa nkhawa zanu ndi mitsempha. Apo ayi, mumangokhumudana. Kugonana, m'banja mwanu, kwakhala chinthu chosaganizira komanso chopanda pake, ndipo mwa kuyankhula kwina, kwangowonongeka m'moyo wanu. Mwamuna amatsutsa mkazi - mkazi wa mwamuna ndi choncho tsiku ndi tsiku. Iye wakhala atasiya kumverera wotetezedwa, wokondedwa, wofunidwa ndi wofunikira kwambiri. Iye anadzipeza yekha mkhalidwe wofanana. Apa si chikondi ndi kukwanira kwathunthu kwa okwatirana. Monga iwo akunenera, mphamvu apa sizikumva fungo. Pano iwo ali, mmodzi mwa ochepa, zizindikiro zomwe mwamuna ndi mkazi sakondana wina ndi mzake.
Zifukwa izi, pogwiritsa ntchito psychology, kwambiri. Tiyeneranso kuzindikira kuti kuti abwererane ku banja lawo, okwatirana akhoza, monga chaka cha moyo wawo wothandizana nawo, komanso pambuyo pa zisanu, zaka khumi kapena kuposerapo. Zoonadi, panthawi yaitali yaukwati, chisokonezo ichi cha kukhumudwa kotere kumakhala kochuluka kwambiri kusiyana ndi magawo oyambirira a ukwati. Tiyeni tonse tibwerere ku zifukwa, chifukwa chikondi chomwe chili m'banja pakati pa anthu okwatirana nthawi zambiri chimatha. Choyamba, ndikufuna kunena kuti ife eni timadzipatsa okha chimwemwe komanso, malingaliro athu. Ndipo, mobwerezabwereza kuposa, ife eni tikuwononga chikondi chathu, potero tikukakamiza mzathu kuti apereke maudindo awo ndikugawana chikondi chanu ndi inu. Mwachitsanzo, kusakhutira nthawi zonse ndi wina ndi mzache, kudzudzula ndi mikangano - awa ndi oyamba "opha" omwe timamva. Mavuto a m'banja kapena kusagwirizana kwa anthu omwe ali nawo, amangotenga mbali yofunika kwambiri. Ponena za anthuwa, nthawi zambiri anthu asanalowe m'banja sangaphunzirane, ndipo kale moyo wokhudzana nawo, wokhala ndi mphete pa chala, umasonyeza anthu omwe ali ndi mitundu ina.
Chifukwa china ndi chakuti okwatirana amangophunzira wina ndi mzake kuchokera kutalika mpaka kutsika, atataya chidwi chilichonse. Ubale wawo wataya chikondi chachikulu, maganizo, zochitika. Ndipo, monga mukudziwira, moyo, wopanda nthawi zokondana, umasokoneza chikondi pachimake. Mkhalidwe umenewu, mwamuna ndi mkazi amatha kukondana wina ndi mzake, kuyesera kudzipeza okha mwa okonda anzawo. Pano, ndiyenera kuwonjezera. Amene amakoka, mwamuna ndi mkazi kumanzere, nthawi zambiri amasokoneza malingaliro awo ndi chidziwitso, komanso ngati iwowo sangathe kuyankha funso losavuta: "Kodi iye amamukonda ndani pakanthawi?" Kuchokera pamwambapa, tazindikira kuti pali zifukwa zambiri zosakhutira ndi moyo pamodzi potsutsa chikondi. Zonsezi ndizomwe zimakhazikitsidwa, zimakhazikika ngati maziko abwino a mikangano m'banja, zomwe zimawonekera kumapeto kwa malingaliro otere monga chikondi, kuzinthu zowonongeka. Ndipo, monga chomaliza, mkazi ndi mwamuna amayamba, osangotengana wina ndi mzake ku mzimu ndikukhala ngati kamba ndi galu pansi pa denga limodzi. Choncho, moyo si wokoma. Inde, kuti asamamuzunze, osati yekha, vutoli liyenera kuthetsedwa posachedwa. Ngati mwakhala motalika komanso mosakayika kuti mwakhala osadziwika kwa wina ndi mzake, yambani kuchitapo kanthu. Musaope kusintha chirichonse, chifukwa poonjezera kuti mutenge katunduwu, pitirizani kukhala ovuta kwambiri. Inu basi, mwamsanga kapena mtsogolo, yambani kudana ndi mwamuna wanu, ndipo iye ali ndi inu ndipo mpaka izo zitachitika, muyenera kuchita chinachake. Kukhala opanda chikondi m'nyumba imodzi ndikuwonana wina ndi mnzake tsiku lililonse sikovuta kwa mkazi kapena mwamuna.
Ngati banja lanu liri ndi ana, dziwani kuti simungayese kusunga banja lathunthu, simungapindule konse. Zili ngati kukhala ndi keg ya ufa, yomwe tsiku lililonse ikhoza kuphulika. Kuwonjezera apo, mwanayo, poyamba, amamva nkhawa chifukwa cha kuyanjana pakati pa makolo. Ndi bwino kuti mwanayo asakhale m'banja lonse, koma mwamtendere mokwanira, osamvetsera kukangana kwanu ndi zolakwa zanu. Mwanayo, akamakula, amvetsetsa yekha. Chinthu chachikulu sikumudziwitsa yemwe ali woyipa komanso yemwe ali wabwino. Afuna kuwalola kuti alankhule ndi bambo kapena amayi ake, osadalira kuti makolowo ali pamodzi kapena ayi.
Inde, m'banja lirilonse vuto liri lokha ndipo ndilo, poyamba, kuti zonse ziyenera kukambidwa pa tebulo la "banja". Kumva maganizo amodzi pa nkhaniyi. Ndipo, potsirizira pake, sankhani ngati mukufuna kupitiliza kukhala limodzi chifukwa cha ana, kapena njira yabwino ndiyo kungoswa. Inu mukhoza, ndithudi, kupanga kupuma kuchokera ku moyo wa banja ndi kumasuka wina ndi mzake, pokhala mutakhala moyo mosiyana kwa nthawi inayake. Monga momwe chiwonetsero chimasonyezera, nthawizina chimagwira ntchito. Kukhala kutali ndi wina ndi mzache ndi malingaliro awo, anthu amawona kuti kumakhala kosavuta kumvetsetsa okha ndi kumvetsa zomwe akufuna mu moyo weniweni. Mwinamwake ndizokuti banjali lidayipidwa ndi wina ndi mzake ndipo ndi chifukwa chake iwo akusokonezeka mukumverera kwawo, ndiyeno mawu! Mwamuna ndi mkazi sakondana wina ndi mzake "amangotayika. Ndipo, monga mukudziwira, mtunda umachiza matenda alionse okhudza matenda. Ngati muwona kuti banja likugwa kwathunthu ndipo simungathe kulibwezera mwanjira iliyonse, ndiye kuti pali njira imodzi yokhayo - kusudzulana. Dzimasulireni nokha ndi iye ku chifuniro cha chikondi chatsopano.