Chithunzichi chimayamba ndi kunena kuti woweruza akulengeza chisudzulo, ndiye mwamuna ndi mkazi achoka ku khoti ndi kupita limodzi ku hotelo - nthawi yomaliza kugonana. Mwinamwake iwo ali masochists? Mwina mmodzi mwa iwo? Nchifukwa chiyani mukulankhulana mwachangu, ngati mawu onse akunenedwa ndikupitiliza kuyenda njira ziwiri?
Kutonthoza
Monga momwe amuna ena amanenera, kugonana pakati pa kugonana kapena kugonana kumagwirira ntchito pofuna kutonthoza mkazi. N'zoonekeratu kuti kwa wina amene akupitiriza kumva chinachake kwa wokondedwayo, kuchoka kumakhala kowawa kwambiri. Ndipo kugonana kotereku - njira yothetsera "wokondedwa". Osachepera kwa kanthawi. Zoona, nthawi zina mumadandaula pano kusiyana ndi chitonthozo. Ndipo popanda kukhalapo kwauzimu (iye anasiya kumukonda iye, kapena mosiyana), njira iyi ya "kutonthoza" sikugwira ntchito nthawi zonse. Apa pali chinthu chimodzi chofunika kwambiri: nthawi zambiri akazi mofanana ("Ndichitireni chifundo, wozunzika, ndikuwombera!") Mukufuna zolinga zenizeni. Mwachitsanzo, amayi achikondi amakonda kutenga "chidutswa" cha wokondedwa mwa mawonekedwe a mwana kuchokera kwa iye. Amatha kutambasula kugonana, kutengera mwayi wawo wogonana. Ndizo zomwe mzimayi wamng'ono amene amawerenga ma adiresi amkazi adzachita ndi mwanayo, palibe yemwe akudziwa - ngakhale iye mwini. Pang'ono chabe "choipa" cha moyo wake wolephera chidzawonekera - ndipo kokha.
Chifundo ndi Kubwezera
Chodabwitsa kwambiri, koma kugonana kwaokha kapena kugonana pakagawanitsa kumatha kukwaniritsa kuyamikira komanso kukana kupitiriza chiyanjano. Pamene kumverera kumangokhala kokha, kuthokoza chifukwa cha kudzipatulira (kapena, poopa kukana kukwiyitsa wokondedwa wake), yemwe adalola kuti azikonda amagwiritsa ntchito kugonana pofuna kuchotseratu wokondedwayo. "Ndikupatsani usiku - ndipo mumasowa moyo wanga." Kugonana koteroko ndiko zotsatira za chilolezo, kuchita chifundo kwa chikondi chopanda chiyembekezo. Mungathe kuziwona ngati zolembera, monga njira yochotsera fanasi wosokonezeka. Ndipo kulandira kapena ayi "mphatso" yotereyi ndi nkhani yachinsinsi kwa aliyense. Koma cholinga chonyansa kwambiri ndi kugwiritsira ntchito kugonana kwaokha pofuna kubwezera. Amagwiritsidwa ntchito, monga lamulo, pazochitikazo pamene mwamuna achoka kwa mkazi wina. Atamugoneka pomwepo, wokondedwa wake "mwachangu" amasiya zikopa pa khungu la munthu, akulira ndi zina zotero zokhuza kugonana. Kwa razluchnitsa anaona: mwamuna wake anali m'manja mwa wina! Zikuwoneka kuti kubwezera pang'ono kungakhale koopsa kwa donjuan wosasamala. Wokondedwa watsopano sangamkhululukire iye kupita "kusiya" ku chilakolako choyambirira. Amayi omwe ali apamwamba kwambiri amagwiritsa ntchito kugonana kwaokha komanso njira yothetsera kugonana. M'kati mwazo muli zinthu zatsopano zamagetsi ndi mavidiyo, ndipo wokondedwa wanu amatha kulipira kuti asunge chinsinsi.
Kodi mukukumbukira?
Kugonana musanapatukane kumakhala kowala kwambiri, ndipo mukamaganizira. Anthu omwe akuchita nawo chibwenzi chisanafike, ndiye mutha kulingalira momwe kugonana koyenera kumayenera kukumbukira kufikira ukalamba. Apa, ndithudi, chirichonse chimadalira chikhumbo chimodzimodzi ndi kufunitsitsa kuthetsa chiyanjano pa cholemba "chapamwamba". Pachifukwa ichi, zinthu zonse zidzasintha: zovala zonse zogwiritsira ntchito, zolemba za "tepi" zosayenerera, zoyenera mkati. Monga chithandizo choimbira, chinachake chimamangiriza. Nthawi zina kusiyana kotere kumakhala chiyambi cha ubale watsopano. Koma kodi n'zotheka kwa inu - zokondweretsa komanso zokongola - kuchoka chifukwa chakuti zinamuwoneka: kodi ubale wanu unatha? Pambuyo pa kugonana kotereku, iye afunanso kubwereranso, ndipo mobwerezabwereza ...