Pofuna kumvetsetsa ngati kuli koyenera kuthandiza anyamata kuthetsa mavuto awo, m'pofunika kuti athe kusiyanitsa zovuta za moyo weniweni kuchokera ku misampha, yomwe munthu wamba ayenera kupirira. Kumbukirani kuti mnyamatayo amafunika kukhala wolimba komanso wodalirika. Ngati mumasankha zambiri, iye adzaleka kufooketsa. Choncho tiyeni tione mavuto omwe angaganizidwe kuti ndi ofunika kwambiri, komanso zomwe muli ndi ufulu wotseka maso anu.
Choyamba, chinthu choyamba chimene timakumbukira nthawi zambiri ndi chisokonezo chomwe chili mu gawo. Mwachitsanzo, kodi ndi bwino kuthandizira mnyamata ngati alibe njira zothetsera nyumba, kuphunzira kapena zina zotere. Choyamba, dzifunseni nokha ku funso: momwe thandizo lanu lingakhudzire vuto lanu. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti izi zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi moyo pa mkate ndi madzi kwa miyezi, kuyembekezera pamene mudzathamangitsidwa m'nyumba kuti musapereke malipiro. Mwachibadwa, mumamukonda ndikufuna kuti akhale wosavuta komanso wabwino, komabe simusowa kudzipereka nokha. Kuwonjezera apo, mwinamwake, mnyamata angakane thandizo, podziwa kuti izo zidzakuvulazani. Ngati amavomereza, ndi bwino kulingalira za momwe munthuyo amakukonderani komanso zomwe amadzifunira yekha. Pankhaniyi mukamvetsetsa kuti mutha kuthandiza mnyamata popanda kudzidalira nokha, yankhani moona mtima: Nchiyani chomwe chinayambitsa chikhalidwe chokhumudwitsa cha mnyamatayo? Mwachitsanzo, ngati akufunikira kuthana ndi mavuto a banja lake lalikulu, alibe makolo kapena banja losapambana, choncho mnyamatayo amagwira ntchito mwakhama, koma mtundu wina wa mphamvu umayambitsa mavuto ngati amenewa, ndipo chithandizo chingakhale chofunikira. Mkhalidwewo ndi wosiyana kwambiri pamene mnyamatayu amangokhala ngati sakuchita chilichonse. Kotero samapita kusukulu, amathera ndalama zake zonse kwa abwenzi ndi zosangalatsa, saganizira za chirichonse, ndiyeno amayamba kulira kuti alibe kanthu koti apitirire, "amalephera" phunziroli, amachotsedwa ku yunivesite ndi momwe angachitire, sakudziwa . Pankhaniyi, khalidwe lake limasonyeza kusamvetsetsa kwathunthu, ulesi ndi kuthekera kuthetsa mavuto ake. Mukamapereka ndalama kwa mnyamata woteroyo, amadziwa kuti simuyenera kuyambitsa chifukwa mulipo pafupi - omwe angakuthandizeni nthawi zonse. Nthawi yotsatira adzachitanso chimodzimodzi, ndipo mudzadandaula kachiwiri ndikubwera kudzapulumutsa. Patapita nthawi, izi zidzayamba kuchitidwa mopepuka. Mwa njira iyi, mutenga gigolo weniweni, amene adzasangalale ndi ndalama zomwe mwapeza pantchito yanu. Ndikuganiza kuti nkhaniyi si yoyenera kwa inu. Kotero, ziribe kanthu kuti muli ndi chisoni chotani kwa mnyamata, musamuthandize ndalama. Ndi bwino kumulimbikitsa kuti apeze njira yothetsera vutoli, chifukwa pali nthawi zonse zosankha, muyenera kuvutika ndi kuganiza.
Zoonadi, mavuto sizinthu zokha, komanso makhalidwe. Amuna amakhalanso otayika okondedwa awo, amadandaula za kukwaniritsidwa kwawo, kukangana ndi achibale ndi abwenzi. Pachifukwa ichi, nkofunika kwambiri kulimbana ndi mavuto ofanana ndi omwe amagwira ntchito, koma musayese kuchita nokha. Choyamba, ngakhale munthu atakuuzani zonsezi, amachiwonabe mbali yake, ngakhale titayesetsa bwanji, zimakhala zovuta kuti tizitha kukondwera. Choncho, ngati mukuyesera, mwachitsanzo, kuti muyankhule ndi bwenzi lake kumbuyo kwake, mukhoza kumvetsetsa nkhaniyo mosiyana. Kuwonjezera apo, amuna samakonda izo pamene wina ayesa kuwayanjanitsa ndi kuwathetsera chinachake.
Choncho, muyenera kulankhula ndi mnyamata, kumuthandizira, mwina kuyesa kupereka malangizo, koma musamulole kanthu. Iye ndi wamkulu ndipo ndi wanzeru yemwe amadziwa momwe angachitire. Koma, ngati mutetezedwa ndikumupatsa njira zenizeni, mwinamwake, mnyamatayo adzakumverani, ngakhale atavomereza. Mukayamba kuchita ngati kuti mumudziwa bwino kuposa iye, ndiye kuti zikhoza kuwatsogolera ku vuto lina - chisokonezo pakati panu.
Ndipo potsiriza, ponena za vuto lovuta kwambiri ndi loopsya - imfa ya okondedwa. Ndikoyenera kumverera munthu wokhala mchimwene wake molimbika kwambiri ndikukhala monga momwe akufunira. Kuonjezera apo, simukuyenera kutengera zochitika "nokha." Azimayi, kuti apulumuke, nthawi zambiri amafunika kuwamvera chisoni. Timalira munthu wina pamapewa, phokoso, ndi misonzi kupweteka kwathu kumatuluka pang'onopang'ono. Amuna sakonda kuti amve chisoni. Amafuna inu, m'malo mwake, kuwathandiza kukhala amphamvu. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kuyang'anitsitsa momwe mnyamatayo amachitira ndi khalidwe lanu.
Ngati muwona kuti sakukondwera ndi mapepala anu komanso mau othandizira - bwino kutuluka. Ngati akulira, musamumvere chisoni ndikumuletsa, koma khalani pafupi. Pamene akukupemphani kuti mumusiye yekha, simukuyenera kutsimikizira kuti zinthu zidzakuyenderani bwino. Muzochitika izi, amadziwa kuti ali bwino. Mavuto amakhalidwe ndi ovuta kwambiri. Sizingathetsedwe kwa ena, ngakhale zilizonse zomwe timakonda. Choncho, muyenera kusamala ndikumva munthu. Ndipo ngati muwona kuti akumira maganizo, yesetsani kumubweretsanso ku moyo wamba, ndikukumbutsa khalidwe lake kuti, ziribe kanthu koipa, dziko liri ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe ziyenera kukhala zodziwa ndi kuyesedwa.