Iyi ndi nthawi yovuta pamoyo wa aliyense wa ife. Titatha, tikuzunzidwa ndi kusungulumwa, mantha kuti sitidzakomana ndi chikondi chathu ndipo sitidzasangalala.
Ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? Chifukwa munthu sangakhale moyo popanda kumverera kuti amamukonda, ndipo mumtima mwake, nayenso, amakonda moyo. Chikondi ndikumverera kokondweretsa, ndikukakamiza aliyense wa ife kuti achite zovuta. Chikondi chimapereka mapiko ndi lingaliro la chimwemwe. Ndipo chikondi chako chapita, iwe uli wovutika maganizo, kuyesa kumvetsa chifukwa chake izi zachitika ndi choti uzichita kenako?
Ndipotu, chifukwa cha kuwonongeka kwa maubwenzi ndi kusowa kwa kumvetsetsa. Ndipo, ena onse - kusowa ndalama, "kugonana sikuli kofanana" - izi ndi zotsatira zokhazokha. Ngati palibe kumvetsetsa pakati pa okondedwa, sangapeze chinenero chimodzi ndipo sangakhale ndi mwayi womanga maubwenzi amphamvu komanso osatha.
Choncho, mukakumana ndi chikondi chatsopano, yesani ndikuyesera kumvetsetsa kuti mu ubale wanu wakale "sizinali chomwecho" ndipo yesetsani kupeĊµa mavuto omwewo mu ubale wamakono. Omwe amatchedwa "ntchito pa zolakwitsa" zidzakuthandizani kupewa zolakwitsa zamtsogolo, kupatula ku mavuto ndi kusungulumwa.
Aliyense akulota banja. Nthawi iliyonse yomwe timakumana ndi munthu, timamuyimira ngati wokondedwa wathu. Timathamangira, monga ngati chibwibwi ndi mutu mu ubale watsopano. Ndipo, ngati iwo asanamvetsetse zolakwa zapitazo, ndiye kuti timatha kuthamanga pamodzi. Kawirikawiri, ndichedwa kwambiri kukumbukira kuti ubale ndi ntchito yovuta komanso yowawa.
Kodi mungayambe bwanji ubale watsopano?
Landirani dziko lapansi ndi anthu oyandikana nawo monga momwe alili - ngakhale kuti si abwino, koma moyo wanu ndi wosavuta kwambiri. Khala woleza mtima ndipo usayese kusintha wosankhidwa wako. Uwu si ntchito yokondwa, sipadzakhala chimwemwe kwa inu, kuchokera ku ntchito yopanda ntchitoyi.
Tengani zosangalatsa zanu ku zochita za mwamuna wanu. Palibe amene angathe kuchita zolakwitsa, monga iwe. Ndipo anthu amphamvu okha ndi omwe angayang'ane moyo ndi kumwetulira ndi zina zosayenera. Ndizovuta, koma ndizofunika kuphunzira.
Musaganize kuti mwamuna wanu adzalumpha patsogolo panu ndikuyesa kukondweretsa zofuna zanu zonse. Wokondedwa wanu ndi munthu, ndi maganizo ake pa moyo. Iye sali kapolo wanu, ndipo sayenera kukwaniritsa zokhumba zanu zonse, ngati khate lophunzitsidwa.
Kuti muyambe ubale watsopano ndikuwapangitsa kukhala osangalala kuposa poyamba, kutenga dziko lonse momwe zilili; Musakhale odzikonda, palibe amene akukufunirani kanthu. Kumbukirani kuti pamene mumapereka zambiri, mumalowa mobwerezabwereza.
Kufufuza njira zina zothetsera mkangano. Khalani osinthasintha. Chikondi ndi kunyada ndi zinthu zomwe sizigwirizana. Gwirizanani ndi mnzako, nthawi zonse kambiranani vutoli ndipo yesetsani kusokoneza.
Musanyoze ndikuyesera kuyang'ana makhalidwe abwino mwa mwamuna wanu. Kumudzudzula munthu, ndiye kuti mumasokoneza chikhumbo chake chodzipereka, kuti mukhale wabwino kwa inu.
Zochitika zonse ndi zamtengo wapatali, ndipo pamene akunena: "Chimene sichikutipha chimatipangitsa kukhala olimba." Ndipo komabe, pali lingaliro loyambitsa ubale watsopano, munthu amaphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwitsa zakale, kukhala wodziwa zambiri ndi woleza mtima. Atapulumuka, mwamuna samayesetsanso kuti apatsirane naye. Ndi kuyesera kukhala mwamtendere ndi chikondi basi, ndi kuyesa kupereka chimwemwe kwa munthu wina.