Ndipo kotero, lero ine ndikuuzani inu malotolo, maloto, maloto, zolaula, kodi maloto ndi chiyani? Kugona ndizochitika zakuthupi zakuthupi ndi kuchepa kwa ubongo. Zizindikiro za kutopa kwenikweni ndi kugona tulo. Mwamuna amafuna kugona, maosidi amalemera, maso a maso, kuthamanga kawirikawiri, chidziwitso chodzidzimutsa.
Kugona kumakhala ndi magawo awiri - ndilo lotopa komanso lofulumira. Kugona pang'ono kumakhala pafupifupi 75% ya tulo, ndipo timataya pafupifupi 25% tulo. Amakhulupirira kuti kugona pang'ono kumabweretsa mphamvu ya munthu. Kugona tulo tomwe munthu amakhala ndi zosavuta kuti adzuke, chifukwa nthawi ya tulo tofa nato, munthuyo wanyalanyaza malingaliro ake. Ndilo loto lodziŵika kuti maganizo anzeru amabwera kwa munthuyo pa izi kapena kuti, ngakhale zili zovuta kukumbukira. Pa nthawi ya tulo tochepa, pangakhale kugwidwa ndi kugona kapena zoopsa, zomwe n'zosatheka kukumbukira.
Maloto ofulumira ali ofanana ndi mkhalidwe wogalamuka, koma thupi laumunthu silikutha. Nthawi zambiri ogona amaoneka mofulumira, amasuntha m'maso, ndipo ngati mumadzutsa munthu kugona mofulumira, mungamve zambiri zokhudza maloto. Kugona mofulumira n'kovuta kwambiri kusokoneza, ngakhale kuli pafupi ndi mkhalidwe wa kuuka.
Kwa ine, kugona ndi chinthu chomwe chimatigwirizanitsa ndi dziko lina. Apo ayi, munthu angakhoze bwanji kufotokoza maloto? Zithunzi zomwe timaziwona tikagona, kapena timamva tikamagona. Kulota ndikumvetsetsa mwachidwi kwa zithunzi zomwe zimachitika pogona. Munthu akamagona, kawirikawiri samamvetsa kuti ali m'tulo ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito zinthu zonse zomwe zimawona zenizeni. Zimakhulupirira kuti maloto amatenga kugona mofulumira komanso kuyenda mofulumira kwa maso a maso. Zimakhulupirira kuti anthu onse angathe kulota, koma sikuti aliyense akhoza kukumbukira zomwe adawona. Winawake amakumbukira chibwibwi ndi chotukuka, ndipo wina, mosiyana, amawona maloto owala komanso achikuda.
Asayansi amakhulupirira kuti anthu omwe amawona maloto otukuka sangathe kuzindikira mitundu mu maloto, ndipo anthu omwe amawona maloto achikuda ndi anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro apamwamba kapena ana.
Aliyense amadziwa kuti maloto angakhale aulosi. Aliyense anawona maloto, omwe pambuyo pake anabwerezedwa moona. Winawake amawona maloto amenewa nthawi zambiri ndipo amadziwa momwe angazindikire, kutanthauza, kutanthauzira maloto oterowo, ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zidziwitso. Izi zimatchedwa onyromanticism , kapena kutanthauzira kwa maloto. Kugona kwaulosi kungatheke ndi munthu amene wagona tulo tomwe akugona, ndiko kuti sanagwiritse ntchito mankhwala enaake, mowa ndi mapulogalamu ogona, ngakhale ngati ogona sali ndi njala ndipo sakhala ndi nthawi yambiri. Monga akunena, maloto a njala akudya, komanso ochulukirapo - zowopsya. Ndiponso, kugona sikungakhale ulosi ngati munthuyo akudwala kapena ali ndi chizolowezi chogonana kwa nthawi yayitali. Nthawi zina maloto aulosi angakhale omveka bwino, ndiko kuti, chifaniziro china chimabwera kwa inu m'maloto ndikuyankha funso lomwe limakuvutitsani, ndiye malotowa safuna kutanthauzira.
Nthawizina kuchita chinachake, kapena kwinakwake kufika, ife timaphimbidwa ndi kumverera kuti ife tinachita izo kapena ife tinali pano. Timatcha izi - deja vu - ichi ndi maganizo a munthu omwe sali okhudzana ndi zakale, koma zimawoneka kuti munthuyo kapena amene anali naye kamodzi. Kutcha deja vu mchitidwe sizowona, kotero asayansi sangakhoze kunena chirichonse pa izi. Koma kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti 97% a anthu odwala amamva kuti a deja vu kamodzi pa moyo wawo, ndipo anthu omwe ali ndi khunyu amamva kuti ali ndi maganizo ambiri. Mwina muli ndi chinachake chimene simukukumbukira, ndipo zomwe mumalota zimakuchitikirani mmoyo - ndicho chomwe chingakhale deja vu. Pamene munthu ali mu loto, chidziwitso chimagwira ntchito, kuzindikira maloto ndi kuwafotokozera, ndipo pamene munthuyo awuka, chidziwitso chimayamba kugwira ntchito. Kupatsirana kwa chidziwitso ndi chidziwitso ndi deja vu.
Maloto apadera ndi loto lodziwikiratu - ndilo pamene munthu amadziwa kuti ali mtulo ndipo akhoza kulamulira maloto ake. Nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kumvetsa ngati mukugona kapena ayi, kapena mukufuna kudzuka, koma sikugwira ntchito. Ndipo pali njira zingapo zozindikira kugona tulo:
- Lembani mphuno ndi zala zanu ndipo yesani kutseka pakamwa panu - ngati mutapuma nthawi yomweyo, ndiye kuti mukugona;
- Pezani kusiyana pakati pa zochitika za maloto kuchokera ku malo omwewo pa moyo weniweni;
- Yesani kuwerengapo kawiri - ngati kulembedwa kumasintha, ndiye kuti mukugona;
- Pepani pamutu pamphindi yapitayi - ngati simungathe kuchita, ndiye kuti mukugona;
- Yesani kutsegula kapena kutseka kuwala mu chipinda ndi chosinthana. Mu maloto, kusinthana sikungagwire ntchito, kapena kumayambitsa zodabwitsa;
- Yesetsani kuyang'ana mmanja mwanu kwa nthawi yaitali - mu malotowo ayamba kusintha maonekedwe.
Kuti muphunzire kuthetsa maloto anu, yesetsani kuchita. Pali zochitika zapadera zokhudzidwa pa chidziwitso cha chitukuko cha luso limeneli. Kukwanitsa kuzindikira nthawi yeniyeni yolowera tulo ndizochitika chapadera mu kugona tulo. Chofunika kwambiri ndicho kusunga chidziwitso pamene thupi lathulo likugona.
Njira imodzi yopewera tulo ndi thupi ndikupita kukagona nthawi imene thupi silikusowa. Kungakhale kugona kwa tsiku, pambuyo pochita mwakhama, kuti thupi limamva kutopa, kapena kugona m'mawa, nthawi yomweyo usiku. Panthawiyi, muyenera kuyesetsa kusunga chidziwitso. Mwa njira, ngati inu munadzuka pakati pa usiku, ndiye pa nthawi ino chidziwitso chiri pakati pa kugalamuka ndi kugona. Gwirani nthawiyi ndikuyesa kusunga. Kuti mumve maloto omveka, muyenera kukhala ndi cholinga, mwachitsanzo, kudutsa khoma, ngati mulibe cholinga, ndiye kuti mutha kudzuka.
Pambuyo pa zonse zomwe mwalemba, mukhoza kudzifunsa funso, koma, chifukwa chiyani ndikulifuna? Maloto odziwika amagwiritsidwa ntchito mu psychotherapy. Mwachitsanzo, ngati muli ndi phobia, ndiye ngati mukugona mokwanira, yesetsani kubwezeretsanso zomwe mumaopa ndikulowa mu dziko lino. Yesani kulamulira zomwe mumabwereza. Kotero, mothandizidwa ndi kugona tulo, mukhoza kuchotsa mantha ndi phobias.
Ndipo potsiriza ine ndikufuna ndikufunire iwe, ugone bwino, lolani maloto anu akhale okoma ndi okongola. Maloto okoma.