Imfa ya amayi: kodi kutanthauzira kuli koopsa monga maloto omwewo?

Pofuna kulota zombizi, kufunafuna munthu woipa, kuukira kwa zinyama ndizoopsa, koma palibe choopsa kwambiri pamene ndinalota kuti amayi anga anamwalira. Malotowa amachokera pansi pa moyo weniweni. Makamaka zimakhala zoopsa za zomwe otanthauzira maloto anganene pa izi, kutanthauzira chizindikiro ichi? Kodi mayi wachibadwa angakhale pangozi? Koma tikukulangizani kuti musaope, koma werengani mosamala malingaliro osiyanasiyana a malotowo.

Chifukwa chiyani akulota, amayi ake amafa bwanji?

Kuwona mu malotowo mayi wakufa yemwe ali weniweni wamoyo ndi wathanzi, amatanthauza kuti mkazi akhala moyo wautali ndipo ngati ali ndi matenda aakulu iye adzachira. Koma kutanthauzira uku ndikutanthauza. Kotero, mwachitsanzo, amayi omwe awona malotowo, amayi ali chizindikiro cha chikondi, chisamaliro ndi chitetezo. Mwinamwake mu moyo wanu mulibe nthawi zosavuta, maudindo ambiri, kuphatikizapo amuna, tsopano akugona pa mapewa anu osalimba. M'mabuku ena a maloto, mukhoza kupeza kutanthauzira mogwirizana ndi zomwe, posachedwa mudzakopeka mwamuna wofooka m'moyo wanu kapena osankhidwa anu adzakhalapo.

Kuwonjezera apo, ngati amayi ali mu maloto afa, ndiye ichi ndi chizindikiro chotsimikizika kuti okondedwa anu amafunikira chisamaliro ndi chithandizo. Kwa dona wamng'onoyo, kuti mtima umagwidwa ndi chikondi, maloto ngati awa akhoza kuwonetsera maonekedwe a moyo wa mwamuna yemwe angayambitse mazimayi ake. Kwa makolo a mwana wamng'ono, chithunzichi chimakhala ngati chizindikiro cha mwana wanu chomwe chimafunikira chisamaliro ndi chikondi. Kunyalanyaza chizindikiro ichi kungapangitse mwanayo kuti alankhule ndi anthu oipa m'tsogolomu.

Ngati inu mumatchula bukhu la Miller la loto, ndiye imfa ya amayi anu ndi chenjezo loopsya mu moyo weniweni. Kuti muwone m'maloto a munthu wakufa - kuyembekezera mayesero aakulu, mvetserani kuyankhula kwa wachibale wakufa - ku nkhani zosasangalatsa. Ngati wina mmoyo weniweni wamwalira kale, ndipo mu loto mumamuwona munthu wokondwa ndi wokondwa, ndiye kuti m'tsogolomu mudzalakwitsa zomwe zingasokoneze tsogolo lanu.

Nchifukwa chiyani mukuwona maloto omwe mayi wakufayo ali moyo?

Maloto otere sangathe kuwoneka popanda chifukwa. Mwinamwake, munthu wamba wanu akuyesa kukuthandizani, kuchenjeza kapena kupereka uphungu wa momwe mungachitire mu izi kapena mkhalidwe umenewo. Ndichofunika kwambiri kukumbukira zomwe mwamva kuchokera mkamwa mwa amayi anu. Kawirikawiri, maloto ngati amenewa ndi chizindikiro chabwino kwa wolota, popeza atatha kuona, m'moyo muli nthawi zosangalatsa komanso mwayi.

Kwa amuna, maloto oterowo akhoza kukhala opambana pantchito yake. Ntchito zonse zomwe zinayambika zidzabweretsa phindu. Koma mabuku ena amaloto amachenjeza kuti patapita kanthawi mutagona, simungathe kubwereka ndalama - mukupempha umphawi.

Malingana ndi kutanthauzira uku, mutha kukhala chete: maloto okhudza mayi wakufa saika moyo wake pachiswe. Zoonadi, ndizosangalatsa pamene malingaliro akuponyera nkhani zotere, koma ndi chithunzi chabe ndipo palibe chifukwa chowopa. Maloto abwino ndi okondweretsa kwa inu!