"Ndikufuna kukwatira!" - atsikana azaka 20 akulota. "Ndi nthawi yabwino kukwatira!" - kudandaula mademoiselle wa zaka 30. "Wokwatirana mwamsanga!" - kuthamangira akazi azaka 40. "Wokwatiwa ..." - akuvutika mwankhanza amayi a zaka 50 mpaka 60. Chikhumbo chosayenerera cha akazi kuti akhale kosatha kumangidwa ndi chiyanjano cha Hymen ndi chofunikira pa msinkhu uliwonse. Koma ngati anyamata achichepere akulota maloto achikondi a ukwati, amayi amkhwima okhwima amatsogoleredwa ndi chiwerengero chachilengedwe (mawonekedwe a zamoyo) ndi kuzindikira kwazimayi (ndine mkazi). Masiku ano, akazi osakwatiwa omwe ali ndi zaka zambiri amatchedwa okha okwanira, ndipo zaka zingapo zapitazo anthu angayankhe mwano: "Mkazi Wamasiye!"
Zaka zana zasintha - zakhala zamasulidwa, makhalidwe adasintha - adamasulidwa momasuka, koma amayi akupitiriza kuwamveka ngati phokoso lawo silikuwonekera pazeng'onong'ono zawo panthawi yake. Nchifukwa chiyani "abwenzi onse awiri apamtima", ngakhale kuti sizili bwino kwambiri, samasiyana kwambiri ndi nzeru ndipo sawala ndi nzeru? Funsoli likufunsidwa ndi mamiliyoni a "atsikana omwe akhalapo kale" omwe akufunafuna zifukwa mwa iwo okha, mwa amuna, kapena mu chiphuphu ndi maso oyipa. Kuchotsa zokhumudwitsa zopanda pake, tsankho ndi zikhulupiliro zimatchedwa ndi akatswiri a maganizo a maganizo omwe adaphunzira "korona wotsalira". Akulongosola momwe amawonera khalidwe la amai, omwe amuna samawaitanira ku ofesi ya a registrar, ndi kupeza chifukwa chake akuyesera kukwatira okha, ndipo ena sangatengere akazi ovomerezeka?
Achikondi "okondedwa"
Msungwanayo, adakali ndi nkhani zokhudzana ndi akalonga, ndipo amaonetsa mafilimu achikondi ponena za chikondi ndi amai, ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala mndandanda wa "zokondweretsa" chitsanzo cha maubwenzi. Iye akuyembekezera kalonga, yemwe adzamutsatire iye pa kavalo woyera, Mercedes kapena ndege ndi kupita naye ku Ufumu wakutali. Zaka zikupita, kalonga amayendayenda moyo wa labyrinths, ndipo mfumukazi ikupitiriza kudzimangirira yokhala ndi mpanda wotetezeka, womwe umasungidwa ndi "zimboni" zowonongeka manja-manja, zofuna zowonongeka, ndi zowonjezereka zomwe zimapereka kwa anthu ofuna ntchito ndi mtima. Crux wa vuto: Mkazi wamkaziyo ali ndi chitsimikizo kuti ngati pali mkazi wabwino (ndiko kuti, iye), ndiye kuti kwinakwake pali munthu woyenera pazinthu zonse. Iye wakhala akuyesera kuti agwirizane ndi kalonga woganiza pa moyo wake wonse, molakwika pokhulupirira kuti iye amakhala wangwiro kwambiri, ali ndi mwayi mu msika wamakono wachikondi. Komabe, poonjezera "mtengo", mkazi woteroyo akukhala "chinthu" chopambana komanso chokwera mtengo chomwe "ogula" okhawo angakwanitse.
Zothetsera vutoli: Inde, musafulumire kutsika monyanyira kapepala kuti "ngati akazi onse omwe ali abwino." Koma zikhulupiliro ziyenera kuyambiranso ndikuyamba kuchita. Choyamba, yesetsani nokha nokha ndikuchoka kwanu. Chachiwiri, kuti muonjezere gawo la zofuna ndi kuyendera nthawi zambiri komwe kuli "akalonga" omwe angathe. Ndipo, chachitatu, kuvomereza munthu wamba, koma wodalitsika, ndikuyamba kukhala pamodzi ndi mafumu.
"Amazons" okwanira
"Ndikufuna kukwatira, ndikufuna kukwatira!" Musaope, ndikulipira chirichonse! "Mawu a nyimbo yotchuka amasonyeza machenjerero a amayi ambiri amakono omwe akuyesera kusakwatira, koma kuti akwatire mwamuna wawo wam'tsogolo. Zina zonse ali nazo: nyumba - chikho chokwanira, ndi ntchito yomwe ili ndi mapiri ogonjetsedwa, ndi udindo wa mkango wamphamvu. Ndiko kufunafuna kukhala wokhutira komwe iwo amanyalanyaza maulendo akunyalanyaza, kusweka mitima mu chikondi, ndipo tsopano akuyenera kutcha ufulu wa kusungulumwa. Amuna, ndithudi, amakondwera ndi "Amazoni", koma musakwatire ndi iwo omwe "ali ndi ndevu." Chofunika cha vuto: Chilengedwe chinapatsa munthuyo mphamvu, chilengedwe cha womutetezera, wothandizira, ndipo anamupatsa ntchito yoyang'anira banja. Mkazi amene angathe kuchita zonse, iye amalemekeza monga wofanana ndi mpikisano wamphamvu, koma guwa lidzapita ndi lina. Ndi imodzi yomwe idzamulolere kuzindikira zofunikira zake zakuthupi, zomwe zidzafunikire kuthandizidwa, ndipo pafupi pomwe adzidzimva kuti ndi munthu weniweni.
Zothetsera vutoli: Amazon, yemwe akulota kukwatira, ayenera kukwaniritsa "khosi". Mutu mu chiyanjano uyenera kukhala mwamuna! Komabe, safunikira kudziwa kuti khosi likulamulira mutu wake. Ngati amayi a Amazonian anali amphamvu mokwanira komanso ozindikira kuti apambane, ndiye kuti ziyenera kukhala zokwanira kuti akhale anzeru kwambiri.
Amphaka "amphaka"
Akazi omwe amakhulupirira kuti amuna amangofuna kukwatiwa ndi kugonana ndi nkhonochka - akulakwitsa kwambiri. Akatswiri a zamaganizo, akufunsa kuti "palibe maminiti asanu" a amuna, adapeza kuti 20 peresenti ya amuna omwe anafunsidwa, akufotokozera akwatibwi awo, kutchula kuti kugonana ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri. Ena onse adawona akazi am'tsogolo monse mwa maonekedwe a azimayi opembedza: chuma, chisamaliro, okoma mtima, odalirika, okhulupirika, ndi zina zotero. Ndizodabwitsa kuti oposa theka la iwo adasankha kukwatira pambuyo povomerezedwa ndi achibale awo apamtima. Sizovuta kuganiza kuti sizingatheke kuti makolo, kuzindikira mpongozi wawo, akulakalaka kuwona bomba la kugonana pafupi ndi mwana wawo, kutsatiridwa ndi khosi ndi kuponyedwa kwa munthu kuyambira 16 mpaka 96. Chofunika kwambiri cha vutoli: Mosiyana ndi chikhulupiliro chofala, amuna amakonda kusankha okongola, koma osati akazi ogonana. Mwachidziwitso, mwamuna wam'tsogolo akufuna kuonetsetsa kuti mkazi wake adzakhala wokhulupirika kwa iye, ndipo adzaphunzitsa ana ake. Kuphatikiza apo, amayi omwe amasangalala ndi kutchuka ndi amuna ena, akhoza kuganizira kwambiri kuti akhale naye nthawi yaitali.
Njira yothetsera vutoli: Ngati mkazi ali ndi mawonekedwe okongola, ndiye kuti, munthu sayenera kubisa kukongola kotero pansi pa chophimba. Koma ndi bwino kuika zizindikiro zonse za thupi lachikazi mu zovala zokongola zomwe zingatsindikitse zovuta, osati kuwonetsa zonyansa. Mkazi woona amanyengerera munthu ndi zotsalira zosiyana!
"Akwatibwi" osatha
Sizodabwitsa, koma osakwatiwa ndi amayi omwe, amawoneka, atayima kale ndi phazi limodzi mu ofesi yolembera. Ndi za akazi achikhalidwe. Pambuyo pachitseko cha Nyumba ya Ukwati ndikukhala mwini wa mphete yaukwati iwo amalepheretsedwa ndi kudzichepetsa, kudziletsa kapena kuleza mtima kosayenera. Kafukufuku wa akatswiri a maganizo omwewo akusonyeza kuti kuyembekezera zoyamba kuchokera kwa amuna ndizosakhulupirika. Mkwatibwi amtunduwu amathera ndi ukwati, ngati njirayo imatengedwa ndi amayi okha (mwachindunji kapena mwachindunji). Komanso, ziwerengero zimanena kuti mwayi wokhala ndi chiyanjano ndi mkazi yemwe anavomera kuti "azikhala pamodzi" kangapo, akucheperachepera. Crux wa vuto: Kwa amuna, banja lachibadwidwe kawirikawiri ndilo doko, momwe kuli koyenera kuyembekezera yekha yemwe ati apereke dzanja lake lonse, ndi chikondi, ndi msonkhano pansi pa korona. Akazi amtunduwu amachitira chinyengo, momwe kugwirizanitsa ndi chitsimikiziro cha sitampu mu pasipoti. Mwamuna, mosamala kapena mosadziwa, sakufuna kulemba mgwirizano, kuganizira ukwati ndi udindo wapamwamba.
Zothetsera vutolo: Musanavomereze kupereka kwa mwamuna kuti azikhala pamodzi popanda ukwati, mkaziyo ayenera kuwerengera kuti mwayi wa ukwati ndi mwamuna uyu ndi wotani, komanso ngati chithandizo chokwatirana chidzatsatira. Apo ayi, pali chiopsezo chachikulu chobwezeretsa ziwerengerozi, zomwe zimati pakatha zaka zisanu zokhala limodzi, mwayi wokhala wokwatirana waperewera kwambiri, ndipo patapita zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri - zero.