Ndili mwana, amayi anga amaphunzitsa - musatsegule alendo, musamapite ndi amalume a wina ... Koma tikufuna kukhala ndi chikhulupiliro pakati pa anthu! Ndipo khulupirirani - izo ziri kapena poyamba, kapena si ... Kodi sichoncho?
Timadalira anzathu akusukulu - ndipo ife tiri muvuto. Timayang'ana mlendo ndikudandaula pambali, ndipo mwadzidzidzi timapeza thandizo kuchokera kwa iye. Mosakayikira, kudalira ubale pakati pa anthu kumakula zaka zambiri. Koma pali zosiyana pa lamulo ili ...
Inde, kudalira kumatenga nthawi. Ndipo okalamba timakhala, masiku ambiri, miyezi (ndipo nthawi zina-zaka) amafunika kuti tikhale ndi ubale wabwino pakati pa anthu. Kwa wothandizana naye watsopano akuwoneka mopepuka, amakamba mosakayika za kukhala naye payekha. Ndipo ngati watsopano alowa mu ofesi yina, kumene kuli kukambirana kosangalatsa kwa mfundo iliyonse, ndiye kwa kanthawi kukambitsirana kumakhala chete.
Kodi mungapambane bwanji ndi chikhulupiliro?
Carnegie sangayembekezere kupambana chikhulupiliro. Kulankhula mwaluso kungathandize kuti mukhale paubwenzi wokhazikika. Kapena ngakhale mosemphanitsa - kubwezeretsa munthu payekha. Musapindule ndi kudalirika ndi mphatso - koma zimalimbikitsidwa ndi chidwi, chisamaliro. Ndipotu palibe amene amafuna kuti maganizo athu akhale "ogulidwa".
Nchiyani chimachepetsa mgwirizano pakati pa anthu?
Tsopano mikhalidwe ya moyo yasintha pang'ono. Yerekezani momwe dziko linasinthira ngati kale m'midzi zitseko zinkathandizidwa ndi tsache (monga chizindikiro chakuti eni ake alibe nyumba), ndipo tsopano, kupita kumunda, iwo amachibisa. Ndipo mu mzinda kupanga chikhulupiliro chokwanira ndi chovuta kwambiri. Izi zimasokonezedwa ndi:
- Kusamvetsa
- Zolinga zosiyana (m'malo moyesera kundigwiritsa ntchito?)
- Kutsata ("Iwe, monga bwenzi langa, uyenera ...")
- Kukhalitsa ndi chikhumbo chowonjezeka cha kusungulumwa (aliyense mu nyumba yake, atseka chitseko ndi kudziletsa yekha kudziko lonse)
- Gulitsa pakati pa mabwenzi ndi anzanu (mautumiki awo, malonda a malonda, etc.)
Kuyika maganizo a munthu ndiko kusokoneza ubale ndi manja anu. Sitingakhale odalirika ngati "tasinthidwa" ndi zongoganizira zathu. Mkwiyo wamkuntho wonena za "kusagwirizana" ndi njira yeniyeni yolankhulira kuti moyo wanu ukhale wosalira zambiri ndi uyu kapena munthuyo.
Kudalira kumasowa nthawi
Musachite mantha ndi kusowa kudalira pakati pa anthu omwe sadziwa bwino. Ziri zovuta kunena kuti izi ndizozolowereka, kokha - kukhulupirira ndi kosiyana.
... Timadalira apaulendo anzathu poyenda, koma nthawi zonse timayang'anitsitsa kuti thumbalo latsekedwa ndipo palibe wina aliyense amene anali kukumba.
... Timadalira anzathu, koma timachita ntchito zokha.
... Timadalira achibale athu, koma sitiwauza chirichonse pamaso athu pa zomwe timaganiza - ndipo izi ndi zachibadwa.
Chikhulupiliro cha ubale chimakula kwa nthawi yaitali. Choyamba timalola "chikhalidwe" china, mwachilengedwe kwa munthu aliyense wamtundu. Mwachitsanzo, mnzathu yemwe timamupatsa foni sangayitane nthawi ya 3 koloko m'mawa.
Ndiye, ngati "cheke" yapitidwa bwinobwino, msiyeni munthuyo adziphunzire za ife (ndipo motero tiphunzire kuchokera kwa iye) mochulukirapo.
Pomalizira, mnzanu amene mumagwira nawo ntchito kwa zaka zoposa zitatu akhoza kukupatsani makiyi a nyumba, "komwe ndalamazo zilipo", kuti mukamwe maluwa ndi kudyetsa katsamba ali pa tchuthi ...
Nthawi zina timapeza ma bonasi amakhulupirira, nthawi zina - timayang'anitsitsa - sitimapeze ... Ndipo ngakhale mutadziwa nokha (inde, yoyera ndi yofiira, yongolani pamfundo!), Sitejiyi ndi yofunika kupirira.
"Kudalira" kotereku
> Khulupirirani pakati pa anzako ndi pamene mungachoke makompyuta, osayikanso mapasipoti paliponse, musatseke locker yanu ndi fungulo. Kumbali inayi, mfundo zoyambirira za katundu wa wina, ngakhale m'bungwe lomwelo, zimakhala zotheka kuti zikhalepo bwino komanso zimapanganso ubale wabwino.
> Khulupirirani pakati pa wolemba ndi "wolima", yemwe amalimbikitsa polojekitiyo. Ngati mubwera ndi chinthu chachilendo, chachilendo, ntchito yanu, ndithudi, ikhoza kuba. Koma mbali ina, ngati simungalowe m'malo mwake, ngati mutadzitetezera - ndiye mungakhulupirire. Mwachitsanzo, kuti muzindikire zolemba, fotokozani lingaliro, koma osati teknoloji yokha, monga mukuchitira.
> Khulupirirani pakati pa achibale - pamene mukudziwa kuti simukuyenera kudikirira kumbuyo. Kuti simudzathamangitsidwa m'nyumba mwachinyengo kapena simudzasiyidwa mumsewu muli ndi mwana ndipo mulibe wopamwamba kuti mudye. Ndipo pano nkofunika kuyang'ana mwatcheru, mvetserani zomwe munthuyo akunena ndi kuchita. Kotero, ngati zinthu zoterezi zachitika - ndiye kuti ubale unachitikira, sizinali zenizeni. Ndipo inu, mwinamwake, mwaphonya chinachake ...
Mutu ndi chidwi
Kotero, kudalira ndilo njira yoyenera yolumikizana. Ngati pali kukhulupirirana, ndiye kuti pali ulemu, komanso moona mtima, chidwi chenicheni. Pitirizani ubale wotere - chisangalalo, ndi kusangalala ndi zotsatira zawo zingakhale popanda kuyang'ana kumbuyo ndi mantha.
Ubale wathanzi = kudalira.