Ndiye, atsikana amasiya bwanji kukhala bwenzi la anyamata? Choyamba, ndikofunika kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake izi ndi momwe achinyamata amakukonderani. Mwachidziwikire, sikuti mtsikana aliyense akhoza kukhala pachibwenzi ndi anyamata. Ndi anthu ochepa okha omwe amadziwa momwe angatengere ubwenzi umenewu kupyolera mu moyo. Kotero, musanayese kusintha chinachake, ganizirani kuchuluka kwa momwe mukufunikira. Pambuyo pake, anyamata amabwera ndikupita, ndipo abwenzi amakhala kosatha. Koma, ngati mumvetsetsa kuti mmodzi wa anyamatawa ndi ofunika kwambiri osati bwenzi lanu basi, mumayenera kusintha pang'onopang'ono koma mutembenuke nokha pazu.
Choncho, chomwe chiyenera kuchitidwa, chomwe chiyenera kukopa chidwi cha anyamata. Choyamba, samalani maonekedwe anu. Kodi mumavala bwanji, kodi mumabvala tsitsi lanji, mumadziwa kugwiritsa ntchito makeup? Kumbukirani kuti maonekedwe nthawi zonse ndi ofunika kwambiri kwa amuna. Pokhala bwenzi lawo, muyenera kutero. Mwa njira, kuti mwakhala muli bwenzi nthawi zonse mungagwiritsire ntchito nokha. Pambuyo pa zonse, kuyankhulana nanu, monga ndi mwamuna wanu, anthu adziwululira nokha m'njira zambiri. Tsopano mungagwiritse ntchito izi, chofunika kwambiri, kutaya molondola zinthu zomwe mwalandira.
Koma, choyamba, tiyeni tibwerere ku maonekedwe anu. Muyenera kusiya kuyang'ana kunja, chinachake chokumbutsa munthuyo. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kusiya kuvala zovala ndi tsitsi la amuna. Izi zimaphatikizapo suti za masewera, tsitsi lokonzedwa. Komanso, ngati simugwiritsa ntchito zodzoladzola, muyenera kuphunzira lusoli. Mayi aliyense ayenera kuonetsa ubwino wawo ndikubisa zofookazo. Ulemu umenewu uyenera kuphunzitsidwa kuti anyamata awone chidwi chanu. Ndiponso, kuti mukhale wachikazi, muyenera kuphunzira kuvala zovala zomwe zimatsindika chiwerengero chanu. Mwachitsanzo, sizingatheke kuvala jeans ndi thalauza. Mpheto ndizovala kwa mkazi weniweni. Ngati mukutenga jeans, yesetsani kuvala zitsanzo zomwe zimatsindika zokondweretsa zanu zachikazi. Komanso, nthawi zonse muyenera kuyang'anira tsitsi lanu ndi kuvala tsitsi lomwe mumapita. Musaiwale michira ndi tsitsi. Muyenera kuyang'ana mwachibadwa nthawi zonse. Ngakhale anyamata akubwera kunyumba kwanu, muyenera kuyang'ana bwino. Inde, palibe amene amalankhula za madzulo komanso zovala zamadzulo. Koma nthawi zonse muyenera kukhala wotsekemera, wojambula, ndi zovala zoyera. Ngakhale mutakonda kuyenda mu t-shirt, kuyembekezera kubwera kwa abwenzi, muyenera kuvala kuti ngakhale zovala zanu zapakhomo zisabise kuti ndinu mtsikana.
Kuwonjezera pa zovala ndi zodzoladzola, muyenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse khalidwe lanu. Samalirani momwe mumaseka, momwe mungasunthire, monga mumanenera. Ngati mumakonda kuseka kwakukulu, kusunthika kwakukulu komanso kusalepheretsa kukambirana, mumayenera kupereka. Msungwana sayenera kuchita zoipa. Kumbukirani kuti chikazi ndizojambula zazikulu kwa amayi onse. Kotero, nthawizonse dziyang'ane nokha ndi kusunga. Poyamba izo zidzakhala zovuta, koma, m'kupita kwanthawi, mukhoza kuchita zonse mosavuta. Kumbukirani kuti ngakhale amayi awo omwe nthawizonse amadzitcha okha "atsikana aang'ono," ngati iwo akufuna kwenikweni kusintha, ndipo, m'kupita kwa nthaŵi, anayamba kukonda akazi awo. Choncho musaganize ndi kudzikonza nokha kuti simungathe kuchita chilichonse. Ndipotu, n'zosavuta kuposa momwe mukuganizira. Komanso, nthawi ya kusintha, ngati n'kotheka, muyenera kukana kulankhula ndi munthu amene mumamukonda. Chowonadi ndi chakuti ayenera kuwona "watsopano" watsopano, ndipo osayang'ana njirayo. Onetsetsani kuti ngati kusintha kuli kovuta, mnyamatayu adzazindikira ndikudabwa. Zitatha izi, musatuluke konse. Dziwani kuti choyamba chowonetseratu chikhoza kuwononga khalidwe lanu ngati simusintha. Choncho yesetsani kudziletsa nthawi zonse ndipo musalole kuti chilichonse "chamuna" chikhale. Ndiponso, kuti muleke kukhala bwenzi, musamayese kuzunza ana anu. Atsikana ambiri-abwenzi amakhala okonzeka kuthandiza amuna awo, kuwachitira zambiri iwo ndi iwo. Simuyenera kuchita izi. Ndiwe mtsikana. Kumbukirani izi nthawi zonse. Ndi achinyamata omwe akuyenera kukuthandizani, azichita mwaulemu, akusamalirani ndikusamalirani. Inde, mukhoza kudandaula ndikuthandizani, koma musaike chilichonse pamapewa anu. Kumbukirani kuti ndinu ndani ndipo musalole kuti muzichita ngati kuti muli pamsingo wofanana. Inu ndinu ofooka. Choncho ziyenera kuchepetsa ntchito, kumwa mochepa komanso kusuta.
Pofuna kuti asiye anyamata kukhala bwenzi lawo basi, simukusowa nthawi yochuluka komanso mphamvu. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kuleza mtima ndikuphunzira kudziletsa nokha. Ndipo musalole kuti abwenzi anu ndi anthu atsopano akutchereni "mbale" ndi "anthu anu". Potero, abwenzi anu mosadziŵa amapanga anzako atsopano podziwa momwe munthuyu akuonera. Choncho lankhulani nawo ndikuwakumbutseni kuti ndinu mtsikana. Ndipo ngakhale kuti mumawakonda kwenikweni, koma musakhululukire mtima wamwano ndikukuyanjanitsani ndi iwo. Ngati anyamata akuwona kuti mukuyankhula mozama ndikuona kuti mukusintha, simudzakhala nawo bwenzi, koma mudzakhalanso mtsikana amene mungamuyamikire ndi kumukonda.