Mudziko pali maubwenzi osiyanasiyana pakati pa anthu. Ndipo chimodzi cha zinthu zazikulu ndi chikondi ndi ubwenzi. Ubwenzi umagawidwa mu mitundu ikuluikulu itatu: ubwenzi pakati pa amuna, ubale pakati pa akazi, ndi ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ochenjerawo amati, ubwenzi umabweretsa chikondi. Ubwenzi ndi chinthu chowoneka bwino kwambiri padziko lapansi. Amagwirizanitsa anthu ndikuwapangitsa kukhala amphamvu ndi amphamvu mu mzimu. Funso lina losangalatsa ndi lakuti ubwenzi ndi mwamuna ndi mkazi?
Mwinamwake kulipo, kokha kawirikawiri. Ubwenzi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi sungakhoze kukhalapo, kupatula ngati atakhala ndi chidwi ndi amuna, tanthauzo la buluu, koma kumbali ina munthu woteroyo angatchedwe mwamuna, kodi si mkazi wamwamuna? Ndipo ngati muli ndi bwenzi lachidziwitso, ndiye kuti akungokuuzani zoona kuti mumawoneka ozizira, ndipo sangakuuzeni mayamiko, ndikukugulitseni kuti mugone. Ndipo ubwenzi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi sungakhoze kukhalapo, chifukwa chimodzi cha maphwando chidzamva kumverera komwe kuli kowonjezereka chabe.
Ndipo ngakhale ngakhale bwenzi liripo pakati pa magawo awiri otsutsana, ndiye akhoza kutha ndi ukwati. Ndipo sikuli bwino kukwatira mnzako kusiyana ndi wokondedwa. Ndipotu, ubwenzi ndi wokhazikika kuposa chikondi. Chikondi chikhoza kuwoneka mwadzidzidzi ndipo chimangokhala mwadzidzidzi, ndipo ubwenzi umatha nthawi yaitali. Ndinkakonda kugwirizana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndipo pamapeto pake munthu amakhala wanzeru ndi wanzeru ndipo amayamba kumvetsa zinthu zambiri. Ndipo kotero ngati muli ndi bwenzi, dziwani kuti iye kapena muli ndi malingaliro. Ndipo chifukwa chiyani ziyenera kuphatikiza zosiyana ziwirizi.
Kodi ubale pakati pa akazi ndi chiyani? Ubwenzi pakati pa akazi ndi kuchuluka kwa kunyalanyaza, kukondweretsedwa ndi mabodza, ndi kuwaza ndichinyengo, osaganizira choncho. Mwinamwake pali ubale weniweni pakati pa akazi, koma m'mafilimu kapena m'masewero achikazi omwe amuna amanena. Koma kumbukirani kuti ndani adzagawana nanu panthawi yoyenera kwa inu, yemwe adzakuphimba kumbuyo kwanu, pamene mukuyenera kunama kwa munthu amene munagona naye ndi mtsikana yemwe angapite nanu ku chikwama kapena adzagawana chophimba chabwino - bwenzi. Ubwenzi weniweni wa akazi ukhoza kuonedwa kuti ndi oyanjana ndi anthu achidwi nthawi zina, zomwe zimatenga nthawi yaitali. Pamene vuto ili likutha, ndiye kuti kukhudzana kwa anthu okondwerera kumapita ku zero. Koma pambuyo pa zonse, panali kukhudzana, panali ubwenzi. Ubwenzi sukhoza kutha, ndi ife. Panthawi yovuta kwambiri, nthawi zina timaiwala za abwenzi, ngakhale kuti nthawi yomweyo adzatikumbukira. Mwinamwake, ubale wa amayi okha umachokera pa mfundo iyi, koma ubwenzi mwa onse.
Ndipo chiyanjano ndi chiani? Kukonda mpira ndi akazi, kutetezeka pamaso pa malingaliro a akazi ndi kukongola ndi kufunika kokhala ndi kutsimikizira kwa amuna. Kuyenda maulendo ndi kusaka, kunong'oneza za akazi ndi zolemba zawo ndikuyankhula za magalimoto ndi masewera. Zonsezi zilinso paubwenzi wa amai - maulendo ogula, kunenedwa za amuna ndi zofooka zawo, kukambirana za ogonana ndi njira zatsopano zothetsera makwinya. Amakhulupirira kuti ubwenzi wamwamuna ndiwo ubwenzi weniweni kwambiri padziko lapansi. Ndipo chachikazi ndi chofunika kwambiri, chokhazikika mwachinyengo. Pano pano muubwenzi wamwamuna, nayonso, uli ndi zofooka zake. Pamene mnzanu amaletsa bwenzi lake, kapena am'ponyera pamkhalidwe wosasangalatsa - kodi izi zimakhala ngati bwenzi lenileni? Inde, muubwenzi waakazi, nayonso, zonsezi ndi-miseche, kukambirana kumbuyo kwa bwenzi, kusakhulupirika kwa mwamuna ndi chibwenzi. Ubwenzi wamwamuna si wosiyana ndi ubale waakazi, ndipo palibe mwaubwenzi woterewu womwe umawoneka kuti ndi wabwino kuposa wina.
Ubwenzi ndi chinthu china chowawa cha moyo. Tonsefe tikulakalaka ubwenzi weniweni wolimba, wa bwenzi yemwe sangatisiye ife m'masautso, koma kodi sitikudziŵa zonsezi? Ubwenzi wotero umangokhala m'mafilimu, monga chikondi chenicheni. Koma nsanje ndi kusakhulupirika zikuwonetsedwanso mu cinema, ndipo zimapezeka m'moyo. Popeza nsanje ndi kusakhulupirika zilipo m'moyo, zikutanthauza kuti ubwenzi weniweni ndi chikondi ndi malo mmoyo wathu. Inde, zilipo, ndizofunika kuti mumakhulupirire ndikuzifuna, ndipo zofunikira zidzapezeka ngati mutagwiritsa ntchito khama linalake. Anzanu sali abwino, komanso ubwenzi, anthu ndi osiyana, ndi mavuto awo ndi zolakwika, kotero simukufunikira kudikira ubwenzi wabwino. Simukusowa kukondana ubwenzi, chifukwa zomwe mukuyembekeza sizigwirizana ndi zenizeni.
Musakhale ndi ruble zana, koma muli ndi abwenzi zana. Ndikhulupirire, abwenzi sangakhale zidutswa zana, Mulungu asalole, ngati pali bwenzi limodzi. Masiku ano n'zovuta kupeza mabwenzi. Dziko lathu likulumikizidwa mwabodza ndi chinyengo, mobwerezabwereza. Masiku ano, anthu, samanyazi, amakondana wina ndi mzake, pansi pa chiyanjano cha ubwenzi wabwino. Chitani anthu moona mtima, ndipo iwo adzakuyankhani mwanjira yomweyo. Fufuzani bwenzi lenileni ndikukhulupiriramo.