Nthawi zambiri amanyazi amakhala m'malo mokayikira. Makhalidwe amenewa amalepheretsa kukondana, ngakhale atakhala ndi chinthu chododometsa pamalo omwe ali pafupi. Atsikana nthawi zambiri amamva izi, koma dikirani sitepe yoyamba. Ngati mnyamata sangathe kulimba mtima, tifunika kuchitapo kanthu mmanja mwathu. Koma momwe mungamulimbikitsire mnyamata wamanyazi kuti ayandikire?
Mmene mungapambane mnyamata wodzichepetsa?
Ngati mukufuna kuwonetsa munthu wamanyazi pa sitepe yoyamba, kapena ngati mukufuna kumugonjetsa ndi kumukwiyitsa, muzimvera. Pitani koyamba kulankhulana, choonadi ndi kuchichita mosamalitsa, osati mopsa mtima, kuti musamawopsyeze. Pa zokambirana, kumwetulira kawirikawiri, nthabwala, kotero amvetse kuti akhoza kumasuka naye. Ndikofunika kuti pakhale malo abwino olankhulana. Choncho, yesetsani kukhala omasuka komanso osagwirizana.
Yesetsani kuyankhulana naye. Gwirani, gwirani dzanja, ndikukumbatireni. Momwemo, mudzamulola kuti amve chikondi ndi chidwi chanu kwa iye, osati kokha ngati bwenzi.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnyamata akuzengereza kukupsompsonani, onetsetsani kuti mukuchitanso manyazi. Yesetsani kuti muwone ngati mwachirengedwe ngati n'kotheka.
Musamunyoze manyazi ake. Yesetsani kuchita ngati kuti aliyense ali ngati iye. Yesetsani kusunga mutu wake wamanyazi kuchokera mukulankhulana kwanu, kupatula kuti iye mwiniyo adzafuna.
Muuzeni kuti mumakhulupirira kuti ali ndi mphamvu komanso chikhalidwe chake. Ayenera kukhala ndi chidaliro pa kupambana kwake. Ayenera kukhala ndi chidaliro ndi chidaliro pa kudalirika kwake, popeza mungathe kudalira pazochitika zilizonse.
Nchifukwa chiyani mwamunayo ali wodzichepetsa?
Kudzichepetsa sikungathenso kutchedwa khalidwe lobadwa. Kawirikawiri ndi zotsatira za zochitika zakale, nthawi zambiri sizosangalatsa. Iwo akhoza kubisala kale, kuyambira ali mwana.
Kawirikawiri chifukwa chake ndi kholo, lomwe silinalandirire kutsegula ndi kumasulidwa m'banja. Pamapeto pake, adasokonezeka ndi khalidwe lachikulire. Kaŵirikaŵiri izi zimachitika pa chiwerengero cha chikumbumtima, kotero kuti iye mwini sangathe kuona chifukwa chenicheni cha vutoli.
Ndikoyenera kuganizira kuti ubale ndi munthu wodzichepetsa umakopa mavuto onsewa m'moyo wanu ndipo muyenera kukhala wokonzeka kumuthandiza kuthana nawo. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti tsiku loyamba la chibwenzi muyenera kusewera ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo ndikuyesera kupeza zonse zomwe zingakhudze khalidwe lake. Ndikofunika kuti pang'onopang'ono mumudziwe ndikulimbikitseni khalidwe lake lonse.
Khalani osamala ngati n'kotheka. Ngati mnyamatayu ali wokondweretsa kwambiri kwa inu, simudzasokonezeka ndi kudzichepetsa kwake. Kuphatikizanso, pali chinachake chokongola mmenemo, popeza mumamvetsera. Si choncho?