Kuyambira pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna, pafupifupi mtsikana aliyense akufuna kuti akhale ndi ubale wabwino ndi iye womwe udzatha usiku umodzi, sabata kapena mwezi umodzi. Koma mungadziwe bwanji ngati mnyamata akufuna kwenikweni kutenga gawo lalikulu la moyo wake ndi inu, kapena akufuna kuti agone naye ndipo musagwiritse ntchito nthawi yake bwino?
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Malinga ndi zomwe mnyamatayo akunena, n'zosavuta kudziwa chomwe kwenikweni mnyamata akufuna kuchokera kwa mtsikana komanso momwe angakonzekere kukhazikitsa ubale wawo. Ngati mnyamatayo ali pamsonkhano woyamba akugonjetsa amayi omwe akugona, osayima, akuti kakoyona, zodabwitsa, zokongola, zogonana, osamumvetsera komanso osamvetsera maganizo a mtsikanayo ponena kanthu kalikonse, ndiye kuti amangofuna kunyengerera mayiyo. Chowonadi ndi chakuti anyamata ambiri amakhulupirira mwachangu kuti mkazi akhoza kukokedwa pabedi, ngati mumulonjeza iye zonse zomwe zingatheke ndikudzaza ndi mayamiko. Komabe, tchimo ndilo kubisala, kawirikawiri limagwira ntchito. Kuti asagwe chifukwa cha Chikondi, nthawi zonse mverani zomwe munthuyo akunena.
Pamene mnyamata akukonzekera chibwenzi ndi mtsikana, amamuyang'ana, kotero amamvetsera mwachidwi zomwe akunena, kuti amvetsetse zokonda zake, zofuna zake, malingaliro ake ndi zolinga zake. Pankhaniyi, mnyamatayo sadzaponyedwa ndi mawu, chifukwa sangathe kunena zonsezi kuchokera mumtima. Ndipo ngati mwamuna ali wachikazi, iye samanama kwa iye. Choncho, kondwerani pamene mukuyamikila mumamva mafunso okhudza mmene mumaganizira zaka khumi kapena zomwe mukuganiza za ntchito ya Mayakovsky. Choncho, mnyamatayo akufuna kungodziwa kuti ndiwe ndani, kuti atsimikizire kuti ali mtsikana amene akufuna.
Maso awa akutsutsana
Pa malingaliro a munthu akhoza kunena ndipo mwamuna wake yemwe ali ndi HIV amakopera mkazi kugonana, amayang'ana pachifuwa, wansembe, akuyang'ana pa chiwerengerocho. Koma pamene msungwana ali wofunika kwambiri kwa mnyamata, iye angayang'ane pa nkhope yake ndikuyamikira. Choncho, pochita ndi mnyamata, yang'anirani momwe akukuyang'anirani. Maso alibe chifukwa chomwe chimatchedwa galasi la moyo. Kuwoneka kungasonyeze kumverera kwa munthu. Ngati muwona kuti mnyamatayo akukuyang'anani kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo maso ake sakuwoneka pazinthu zazikulu zazing'ono, ndiye kuti ali m'chikondi. Chikondi chenicheni munthu nthawi zonse amakhala wovuta kwambiri pa zomwe akumva. Koma yemwe amayang'ana thupi lanu ndi mawonekedwe ndi kumwetulira mwachiwonekere, mwinamwake, maloto okha pa kugonana ndi zopanda kanthu. Inde, chikondi sichitha kukhala popanda chilakolako, koma pamene chilakolako chimayamba kutsogolo, sipangakhale funso lililonse.
Zizindikiro zosuntha
Maganizo aakulu kapena amodzi a munthu angadziwikenso ndi manja ndi machitidwe. Mwamuna akamayesetsa kumuthandiza, amugwire mkazi, ngati saiwala kuika jekete pamapewa ake, usiku wozizira ndipo amugwira m'chiuno, ndipo samayesa kutsika dzanja lake, ndiye kuti amatanthauza kuti ali ndi malingaliro okhudza mkaziyo. amatenga mkono wake, amakukumbatira m'chiuno mwake, pamapewa ake, kubisala, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mosamalitsa akufuna kuteteza, kuteteza munthu. Ndipo chilakolako choterechi chimangokhalapo pamene mnyamatayo ndi wa chibwenzi. Nthawi yomweyo mukhoza kusiyanitsa maanja omwe amuna amakonda atsikana komanso omwe mwamuna amafunikira kugonana mwamphamvu. Izi zikhoza kuwonedwa m'machitidwe omwe anthu amachita. Ndipo, sikoyenera kuweruza ngati mnyamata atsegula chitseko ndikupereka dzanja kuchokera pamtunda. Ndipotu, imangonena za kulera kwake. Apa nkhaniyi ndi yosiyana kwambiri. Pamene mwamuna atenga thumba lolemera kwa mayi popanda chikumbutso, pamene saiwala kupereka dzanja pamene zimamuvuta kuti adutse, akamangomulandira pagulu mwachifundo komanso osakondana, izi zimasonyeza mtima wake waukulu.
Kugonana
Pomwe munthu amafunika kugonana ndi mtsikana, ndi kotheka kudziwa kuti ali ndi vuto lalikulu. Ngati mnyamata akukonzekera kukhala mkazi uyu kwa nthawi yaitali, sadzaumirira kugonana. Palibe amene amalankhula zomwe sakufuna, koma ngati mwamuna amakonda, amatha kuyembekezera, chifukwa amalemekeza mkazi ndi kugonana mu ubale wawo ndi wofunikira kwa iye, koma osati chinthu chofunikira. Koma ngati mnyamatayo kuyambira masiku oyambirira akuwombera, amawopseza kapena amaopseza kuchoka, sipangakhale ubale weniweni. Munthu woteroyo amafunikira kugawana pabedi ndi munthu wina mosavuta. Ndipo ngati atembenuka ndi amene amavomereza mosavuta, nthawi yomweyo adzaiwala za iwe. Kotero, ziribe kanthu momwe akunenera kuti m'masiku ano anthu ogonana ndi chinthu chofala, ndithudi, amuna achikondi angathe kuyembekezera ndi kulemekeza chisankho cha bwenzi lawo. Chifukwa ngati safuna kugonana , iwo amawayamikira kwambiri okondedwa awo kuti awataye chifukwa cha chilakolako cha banal. Kotero ngati mukufuna kumvetsa ngati mnyamata wanu ali ndi zolinga zenizeni, musafulumire kulowa mu ubale wapamtima ndi iye. Atsikana ambiri amapanga kulakwitsa, kukhulupirira mokhulupirika kuti anyamata sangathe kuchita popanda kugonana. Ndipotu, munthu amene amakonda, sadzamusiya mkazi chifukwa cha zomwe adafuna kudikirira. Inde, amayi a chimbudzi ayenera kupita kutali kwambiri ndi kuchepetsa kuyembekezera kwa zaka. Ndi zabwino kwambiri komanso zachikondi kukhulupirira kugonana pambuyo pa ukwati, koma musayiwale kuti ku Temtura, pakadali, anakwatira pa khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi, ndipo pakati pa odziwa ndi ukwatiwo nthawi zambiri amatenga miyezi ingapo. Choncho, m'magaziniyi, sikufunikanso kusuntha ndodoyo.
Zochita ndi zochita
Koma, ndithudi, ndi bwino kumvetsa kufunika kwa amuna mwa momwe amachitira ndi mkazi. Ndipotu, mabanja okonda nthawi zambiri samakonda kulankhula zambiri. Iwo amachita. Koma atsikana, omwe, monga mukudziwira, akonda ndi makutu awo, musaiwale za izo. Pamapeto pake, amalingalira molakwika ndikuvomereza kwakukulu kokondana. Ngakhale, mzimayiyo anganene kuti amakonda, kamodzi kokha, koma adzatsimikizira izi ndi zochita zambiri.
Mnyamata akakhala ndi zolinga zokhudzana ndi mtsikana, nthawi zonse amayesetsa kuti azikhala bwino. Mwachitsanzo, posankha mphatso, iye amayesetsa kutenga zomwe amakonda, osati kungoyenda. Munthu amene ali ndi chidwi kwambiri ndi msungwana samasowa mavuto ake ndi zopempha zake. Iye akhoza kukhala chete, koma iye adzachita chirichonse kuti amuthandize iye.
Pamene mnyamata amamuwona mkazi wake wam'tsogolo mwa msungwana, amayesera kukhala wabwino, kukhala iye amene angapereke, kukondweretsa. Ndipo komabe, chilichonse chimene amachita, amachitadi popanda kuyembekezera chinachake. Akhoza kubwera 2 koloko mmawa, kungonena kuti ndimakukondani ndikupita kunyumba, osakayikira kuti mtsikanayo adzazisiya kunyumba ndikupereka usiku woopsa. Popereka mphatso yamtengo wapatali, sangayerekeze kuti akhoza kumupatsa chinthu chamtengo wapatali. Ayi, iye adzangokondwa kuti iye akumwetulira. Pamene mwamuna ali wozama za mkazi, chimwemwe chake ndicho chofunikira kwambiri kwa iye. Icho chimakhala kwa iye chofunikira kwambiri ndipo amachichotsa ndi zofooka zake zonse, ndi achibale omwe sali okonda kwambiri, ndi ana omwe iye angatchule moona mtima. Pamene munthu ali ndi zolinga zenizeni, sachita mantha, chifukwa amadziwa kuti ndi mkaziyu adzatha kuthana ndi vuto lililonse, chifukwa ndiye chimwemwe chake chenicheni.