Amayi a amayi

Palibe amene anganene kuti munthu wamkulu mu moyo wa mwanayo ndi mayi. Choncho, ndiko kulera ndi khalidwe la amayi omwe ali ndi mphamvu yaikulu pa kukula kwa umunthu wa mwanayo. N'zoona kuti mungaphunzitse mwana wanu, motsogoleredwa ndi amayi okhaokha, mwa njira iliyonse kutetezera mwana wanu, koma kenako mumakhala ndi chiopsezo m'tsogolo kuti mwana wanu akhale "mwana wamkulu." Kuti mwana akhale wodziimira yekha ndi wodzidalira, mayiyo, choyamba, ayenera kudziyesa yekha kuti amuthandize ndipo m'tsogolomu ayese kuphunzitsa mwana wake kuti akhale ndi moyo wathunthu, osati kwa iye mwini.

Amakhala osadalirika komanso osakhutira ndi moyo

Pankhaniyi pamene mkazi sakhutira ndi moyo wake, nthawi zambiri amayesa kumupangitsa mwana kukhala "wotchuka", kuti akwaniritse zofunikira zake. Popanda kusintha makhalidwe awo, mayi "wosakhutira" amawapangitsa kukhala mwana wawo, ndipo posakhalitsa akuyamba kuyang'ana dziko ndi maso a amayi ake. Pakapita nthawi, ubale wawo umakhala wolimba, ndipo ndizosatheka kuwuswa. Pano sipangakhale yankho la ufulu uliwonse, chifukwa mwana sangathe kutenga lingaliro losafunikira kwenikweni popanda malangizo a amayi.

Kuopa kuti mwanayo amamukhumudwitsa ndi anzake

Ali mwana, mwana aliyense akakhala ndi chidwi cholankhulana ndi anzako, mayi amamva chisoni, mosiyana ndi nzeru zake, amayesetsa kuteteza mwana wake kwa iwo. Nthawi iliyonse, amayamba kuganizira zolephera za anzako, komanso kumbuyo kwake kumayamikira mwana wake. Mwa njira zomwezo, mayi amayesera kuteteza mwana wamng'onoyo kuti asakhale paubwenzi ndi atsikana. Iye akuti: "Zikuwoneka kuti Masha sakudziwa kuchita," kapena "Tanya amayenda motalika kwambiri pabwalo". Choncho, mayiyo amayamba kunena, koma nthawi yambiri mwanayo amayamba kusagwirizana ndi chiwerewere.

Kusakhulupirira kwa sukulu

Posakhalitsa, mayiyo ali ndi chisoni kale akukolola zipatso zoyambirira za kulera kwake, koma amapezanso chifukwa chake. Aphunzitsi ndi aphunzitsi amayamba kudandaula za khalidwe la mwana wake, ndipo amayi amodzimodzi amamutsimikizira kuti amamuneneza, potsutsa aphunzitsi osadziŵa bwino. Kukambirana kotereku kumachitika pamaso pa mwanayo, ndipo nthawi iliyonse amakhulupirira kuti iye ndi woyenera komanso wopanda chilango, ndipo mayi amakhala yekhayo wokondedwa komanso wotetezera "mwana".

Mmodzi ndi mayi

Mayi wolamulira wotsutsa ndi mnyamata wake "wamng'ono" amakhala ndi moyo kwa awiri. Amasamalira mwana wake wonse - amakonzekera, amachotsa zovala, amasankha sukulu, ndipo amasankha chilichonse. Malingaliro a mwanayo akhala akugwirizana kwambiri ndi momwe amai amaonera, kotero pali kumvetsetsa kwathunthu pakati pawo. Ngati nthawi zina mwanayo amachokera pansi pa mapiko a amayi ake, omwe kawirikawiri amapezeka pa chikondi choyamba choyambirira kapena mimba ya msungwana wake, mayiyo amayamba kumuthandiza mwaluso. Ndipo pakadali pano, ngakhale kuti mtsikana akhoza kukhala pamalo sangapulumutse. Amayi amagwiritsa ntchito njira zake zazing'ono monga kupweteka kwa mtima ndi madontho a mavuto. Ngati izi sizikuthandiza, mayiyo akufulumira kukumbutsa mwana wake kuti wapereka moyo wake kwa iye ndipo akupereka chidziwitso choyenera. Pamapeto pake, mwanayo amabwerera pansi pa phiko, ngati sangakhumudwitse komanso kuti asakwiyitse mayiyo.

Kodi timakhala ndi chiyani?

"Mwana wamkulu", yemwe sakuyimira moyo wake wopanda amayi komanso yemwe sangathe kusangalatsa mkazi aliyense. Ndipo kodi wina angapikisane ndi mkazi wokongola kwambiri? "Mwana wamayi" sangathe kugulitsa moyo wosangalala ndi amayi ake kuti akwatirane ndi mkazi aliyense. Choncho, pakadali pano, sikoyenera kunena kuti munthu woteroyo akhoza kumanga moyo wake wokondwa wodziimira yekha.