Tsoka ilo, nthawi zina ana athu amachitira mosiyana mosiyana ndi momwe tingafunire: amawononga zinthu, amawombera, amatsutsana ndi ena. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amachititsa kuti khalidweli likhale loopsa. Kodi nchiyani chomwe chimayambitsa chodabwitsa cha "mwana wachiwawa" - khalidwe kapena maphunziro? Ndipo momwe mungachitire ndi izo?
Mwanjira ina, chiwawa ndi chofala kwa anthu onse. Dzikumbutseni nokha: nthawi zambiri timagwidwa ndi malingaliro okhumudwa, timafuna kulira, kupsa mtima, koma, monga lamulo, timaletsa mkwiyo. Koma ana athu satha kuthetsa maganizo awo, kotero kusagwirizana kwawo kapena kukwiya kwawo kumawonekera mwa njira yovomerezeka kwambiri kwa iwo: kufuula, kulira, kumenyana. Musapangitse vuto ngati mwanayo akunyengerera nthawi zina - ali ndi zaka, amadziwa momwe angachitire ndi mkwiyo wake. Komabe, ngati mwanayo akuwonetsa khalidwe laukali kawirikawiri, ndi nthawi yoti aganizire. M'kupita kwa nthawi, nkhanza zingathe kukhala ndi makhalidwe monga kusasamala, kukhumudwa, kupsa mtima, choncho muyenera kukonza thandizo la mwana mwamsanga.
Mbiri 1. "Zithunzi zosangalatsa."
Mayi wina wazaka zisanu, dzina lake Ira, anati: "Kuti ndikhale chete m'chipinda cha ana, ndikukayikira . - N'zotheka kuti kumbuyo kwa zitseko zotsekedwa kachiwiri mtundu wina wa chiwonongeko umachitika. Maluwa pamapangidwe, masokosi m'madzi a aquarium - poyamba tinkawona zochitika za mwanayo ngati zofuna zathu, komabe tinazindikira kuti: Ira amachita izi mopanda pake. Momwemonso, ine ndi mwamuna wanga timayesa kuti tisagwiritse ntchito chilango cha corporal, timachita "zosayenera", koma tsiku lina sakanakhoza kupirira. Tsiku lina anzanga anabwera kudzatichezera, ndipo pamene tinkakhala tiyi kukhitchini, Ira adakonza "mphatso": album yojambula kuchokera pachiyambi mpaka kumapeto omwe anajambula zithunzi zobiriwira za Benjamin Franklin ndi George Washington. Malingaliro omwe ine ndi mwamuna wanga tinakumana nawo pa nthawi yobereka "izi", mawu sangathe kufotokoza ... "
Chifukwa. Nthawi zambiri, nkhani zoterezi zimachitika ndi ana omwe amakhala ndi "otanganidwa kwambiri" omwe ali ndi nthawi yovuta ya ana awo. Ndipo sizimangokhala za amayi omwe ali ndi ntchito zamakhalidwe abwino. Nthawi zina amayi alibe mphindi imodzi. Pakalipano, akatswiri a zamaganizo asonyeza kuti kumvera kwa makolo ndikofunikira kuti mwanayo apite patsogolo (osati maganizo okha, komanso thupi!). Ndipo ngati mwanayo sakupeza nthawi yoyenera, ndiye kuti akupeza njira yolandira. Pambuyo pa zonse, ngati mutenga chinachake "mtundu", makolowo adzichotsa ku zochita zawo zopanda malire, kukwiya, kufotokozera, kufuula. Inde, zonsezi sizosangalatsa, koma chidwi chidzapatsidwa. Ndipo ndibwino kuposa china chilichonse ...
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Choyamba chimene makolo amachita kuchitapo kanthu choipa cha mwana ayenera kukhala ... akuya khumi ndi awiri akulira. Ndipo kungokhala kochepa pang'ono, mukhoza kuyamba kumulanga mwanayo. Lankhulani naye ngati wamkulu, fotokozani momwe mumakhumudwitsidwa ndi chinyengo chake (komabe musapewe zifukwa: "Ndiwe woipa, woipa", mwinamwake mwanayo amakhulupirira kuti alidi). Eya, pamene mkangano watha, ganizirani ngati mwana wanu akuyang'anitsitsa mokwanira. Mwinamwake mumathera nthawi yambiri ndi iye, koma kwa mwana ndikofunika kwambiri kuposa kuchuluka kwake, koma momwe. Nthawi zina phunziro lophatikizapo mphindi khumi - kuwerenga, kujambula - kumatanthauza maola oposa awiri, kugwiritsidwa ntchito palimodzi, koma osati mogwirizana.
Mbiri 2. "Pulumutseni nokha, ndani angakhoze!"
Alina wazaka zisanu ndi chimodzi - mtsikana wokhudzidwa, wokondana, ndi ana aliwonse mwamsanga amapeza chinenero chimodzi ndipo ... mwamsanga kutaya. Chifukwa chakuti mikangano yonse yomwe adagwiritsira ntchito kuthetsa nkhonya, mano kapena zinthu zinayambitsidwa ndi mkono: nkhuni, miyala. Aphunzitsi mu sukulu ya alina ochokera ku Alina "moan": msungwana nthawi zonse amamenyana ndi munthu, amawombera ana anyamata komanso amawaswa. Ndipo Alina sawalola makolo ake kupita kwawo: chimene iye sakuchifuna, nthawi yomweyo amasuntha, matemberero, kukuwa, kuwopseza. "Chikhalidwe ichi chiyenera kuimitsidwa ," amayi a Alina akunena. - Choncho, lamba m'nyumba yathu nthawi zonse limakhala pamalo otchuka. Zoonadi, amathandiza pang'ono ... "
Chifukwa. Mwinamwake, mtsikanayo amangobwereza maubwenzi okhaokha m'banja. Ngati makolo amagwiritsidwa ntchito polankhula ndi mwana ali ndi mawu otchuka, ndipo mikangano yonse yothetsedwa ndi mphamvu, ndiye kuti mwanayo azichita mogwirizana. Ndi kulakwitsa kuganiza kuti mwana akhoza "kusweka", kugonjetsa kukana kwake ndi kusamvera. M'malo mwake, wamng'ono yemwe nthawizonse amagonjetsedwa, zomwe zofuna zake zimanyalanyazidwa (ngati kuti sizinasokonezedwe!), Zimakhala zachiwawa kwambiri. Amachulukitsa mkwiyo ndi kukwiya kwa makolo ake, zomwe angachite pazochitika zilizonse - kunyumba, mu sukulu, pa malo.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Palibe chilichonse chimene sichimamukakamiza kuti mwanayo azizunzidwa. Kuopseza, kulira, mawu achipongwe, makamaka chilango chachinyengo. Onetsani malingaliro anu oipa ku khalidwe kapena khalidwe la mwanayo akhoza kukhala mwa njira zina: mwachitsanzo, kumulepheretsa kuyang'ana katoto, kupita ku cafe kapena kuyenda ndi anzanu (mwa njira, kulanga nthawi zonse ndibwino, kusiya chinthu chabwino kusiyana ndi kupereka zinthu zoipa). Koma, ngakhale pokulengeza chilango, yesetsani kukhala chete: fotokozerani mwana kuti chilichonse cholakwika chake chikuphatikizapo zotsatira zake, mudziwitse za izo.
Nthawi zina, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito njira yowchenjeza. Mwachitsanzo, mwana amayamba kuchita zoipa pamalo ochitira masewero: kuvutitsa anzawo, kukankhira ana ena, kutenga toyese. Sichiyenera kubwereza nthawi yaitali: "Musamangokankhira, musamenyane!" - ndi bwino kuchenjeza mwakamodzi, kuti: "Mukawachitira ana molakwika, ndikupita nanu kunyumba." Pankhaniyi, mwanayo ali ndi mwayi woganiza ndi kusankha. Ngati akusintha khalidwe lake, makolo ake adzamutamanda, ndipo adzayenda, ngati apitirira, adzapita kwawo. Njira iyi imapewa kumangiriza kosafunikira, kukangana, ndi kuyankhula. Koma ndi kofunika kukumbukira kuti chenjezo liyenera kukwaniritsidwa kuti mwanayo asamaone kuti ndizoopsa.
Mbiri 3. "Sabata la Sabers."
Mayi wa mtsikana wina wazaka 4, dzina lake Dima, anati: "Masewera onse a mwana wanga amamenyana ndi nkhondo, nkhondo kapena nkhondo ." Amatha kuthamanga nyumba kwa maola angapo, akuwombera phokoso kapena maulendo, akufuula zoopsa za bellicose. Pazifukwa zanga kuti ndichite nawo masewera ena amtendere, mwanayo nthawi zambiri amatsutsa. Chinthu chokha chomwe chingasokoneze wopanduka wachinyamata ku zida ndi TV. Koma kachiwiri mwana wanga amasankha chiwembu- "nkhani zoopsya": za nyamakazi zisanu ndi ziwiri, za turtles-ninja. Moona, madzulo ndatopa kwambiri ndi nkhondo zopanda malire. Kuphatikizanso, nthawi zina mbalamezi zimatha kugwera mwa ine kapena bambo amene watopa . "
Chifukwa. Kwenikweni, kukwiyitsa ndi khalidwe la chikhalidwe cha mnyamata aliyense. Malinga ndi asayansi, ngakhale makolo ateteza mosamala ana awo ku maseĊµera a zankhondo ndi mafilimu okhala ndi ziwawa zachiwawa, anyamata amatha kusewera pankhondo, kutembenuza mapensulo, zipangizo zamaseĊµera ndi zinthu zina mwamtendere kukhala zida.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Ngati kukwiya kwa mwanayo kumawonetsedwa mu masewera ndipo palibe kenanso, ndiye palibe chodetsa nkhawa. Mfundo yakuti anyamata amasewera masewera achiwawa ndi achisangalalo ndi achilengedwe, ndipo kuwakakamiza ku chinthu china kumatanthauza kutsutsana ndi chikhalidwe chawo. Komabe, mungathe kupereka mwatsatanetsatane njira yatsopano, kotero kuti mwanayo watulukira mwayi watsopano. Koma pa izi sikokwanira kungopereka kusewera "mu china china". Mwanayo ayenera kukhala wokondweretsedwa, kuphunzitsidwa momwe angasewere: akatswiri a maganizo amalingalira kuti makolo amakono amakayiwala kusewera ndi ana awo, ndipo akudandaula kwambiri ndi chitukuko choyamba ndi kuphunzira.
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Makolo a mwana amene amayamba kuchita zachiwawa ayenera kuphunzira lamulo limodzi lofunika: zilizonse zomwe zimayambitsa chiwawa cha mwana - khalidwe kapena maphunziro - mphamvu zosayenerera sizingathetsedwe mulimonsemo, ziyenera kumasulidwa kunja. Kuti muchite izi, pali njira zodziwika bwino: lolani mwanayo kuti awononge mapepalawo mwamphamvu, kudula mpeni wa pulasitiki udongo, kufuula, mapazi. Phunzirani kusintha kusintha kwa mwanayo mu njira yamtendere. Mwachitsanzo, mwazindikira kuti mwana wanu akuyamba kufuula ndikufuula kuzungulira nyumba, akuyesa zonse zomwe zili m'njirayo. Ndiye mupatseni iye chizolowezi chochepa mu ... kuimba. Apatseni maikrofoni osakonzedwa, kuika pagalasi, kusonyeza kayendetsedwe kavina. Kapena mwanayo amayamba makolo popanda cholinga. Nthawi yomweyo nenani kuti: "O, inde ndiwe mthunzi wathu! Pano pali thumba lanu lakuwombera. " Ndipo mupatseni mwanayo mtsamiro, msiyeni iye amulembe pa iye moyenera.