Aliyense amadziwa za madera amenewa ndipo amalimbikitsana kuti pokhudzana ndi malo amenewa tiyenera kukhala osangalala komanso okonda kugonana. Ngati thupi lathu silingagwiritse ntchito zifukwa zabwino ndipo sitisangalale ndi zoterezi, kapena tikuziwona, koma m "malo ena, ndiye kuti timaonedwa ngati zachilendo. Ndipo timamverera ngati ndife anthu osayanjana.
Ndani adayambitsa mfundo kuti malo osokoneza bongo ali mu malo osamveka bwino? Izi zingakhale ndi mizu yakuya kwambiri. Pankhaniyi, gawo la kugonana la moyo wathu ndilosiyana ndi mbali zina: ntchito, zosangalatsa, kulankhulana, ndi zina zotero. Chifukwa chaichi, umunthu umagawidwa mu magawo awiri. Gawo limodzi limadzipangitsa kuwonetseredwa kwa kugonana, ndipo pa nkhani ya theka lachiwiri - limaonedwa ngati chosayenera.
Zosayera zachilengedwe. Ndi chiyani?
Kodi lingaliro la malo olakwika, pafupi ndi phokoso lochuluka bwanji? Zigawo zakuthengo ndizo mbali za thupi lathu zomwe zimakhala zowonjezereka poyerekeza ndi malo ena. Tikapeza malowa, timakhala ndi chisangalalo chochulukirapo, popeza pali mapeto ambiri.
Kotero, ndi malo angati ofanana a thupi la munthu? Pakhoza kukhala ambiri omwe mumakonda. Iwo akhoza kukhala mu malo osadabwitsa ndi osadziwika. Pa malo oterowo simungapeze zambiri mu bukhu lililonse kapena buku lophunzitsira. Kawirikawiri, malinga ndi akatswiri, pali malo ambiri pa thupi lachikazi kusiyana ndi thupi la munthu. Ichi ndi chizindikiro chokhazikika, chifukwa chamoyo chilichonse chiri chokha.
Kuwonjezera pamenepo, malo osokonezeka angakhale osakhazikika. Pogwiritsa ntchito zifukwa zina, zimatha kuoneka m'thupi ndi kutha nthawi. Kawirikawiri, mlingo wokhala ndi chidwi pa malo otero umadalira kwambiri zinthu zakunja. Zingakhale zogwirizana ndi wokondedwa, thanzi, msinkhu, ubwino ndi chikhalidwe, komanso chikhalidwe cha nyengo kapena nyengo. Mndandanda ukhoza kukhala wopanda malire. Malingana ndi momwe anthu oonera zachiwerewere amachitira, magawo olakwika amachulukitsa chiwerengero chawo ngati chidziwitso cha kugonana chiri cholimbikitsa. Ndipo poyang'aniridwa ndi zovuta, zochitika zotero za hypersensitivity zikhoza kutha kapena "kuzizira".
Kufufuza kwa khalidwe la munthu, malingana ndi malo ake ovuta
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kwambiri kuti khalidwe la umunthu, zomwe amakonda komanso zomwe amakonda zimatha kuphunzira kuchokera kumalo ake ovuta. Kodi ndi chiganizo chiti chomwe mungachikonde chokhudza mkazi yemwe amamukhudza mwachikondi kapena kumpsompsona m'khosi? Ameneyo ndi mwini wake woyenerera ndi wozindikira. Mkazi wotero sakonda kufulumira mu bizinesi ndipo nthawi zina amasankha kusungulumwa m'malo mwa makampani akulira.
Mzimayi akamaganizira kwambiri za kuchiuno, amakonda zikondwerero, kuvina ndi masewera. Izo zikhoza kukhala zosadziwika kwenikweni.
Ngati mkazi ali wokondwa makamaka pogwira manja ndi manja, amasiyanitsa ndi kulingalira ndi kulingalira. Musanapange chisankho chilichonse, amayesetsa kufufuza zinthu zonse mosamala, yesani njira zosiyanasiyana. Ndipo zosankha zomaliza za mkazi wa mtundu uwu zimachokera mu malingaliro, osati kumverera kapena kumverera. Akazi oterewa nthawi zambiri amakhala otchuka kwambiri ndi amuna ambiri.
Kukhala ndi chidziwitso m'chuuno kumasonyeza kuti mayiyu saima kawirikawiri pokwaniritsa cholinga. Akazi oterewa amagwirizanitsidwa ndi amayi omwe amafa. Nthawi zonse amasonkhanitsa okha mafanizidwe ambiri. Koma wosankhidwa wa mtundu wotereyu ndi wofunika kwambiri komanso wamphamvu - wofanana ndi iye mwini.
Ndiponso, chithandizocho chinaperekedwa kwa amuna muzofuna zawo zogonana. Ngati chifuwa chanu chosankhidwa ndi malo osayenerera, ndiye kuti, mwachiwonekere, ali ndi mtima wamtendere komanso wokoma mtima. Ndi munthu wotero mungathe kukhala moyo wanu mokondwa komanso kwa nthawi yaitali.
Amuna omwe ali ndi zofooketsa za khosi m'khosi amakhala okonda komanso okonda. Ngati ali ndi malingaliro abwino, ndiye kuti moyo mu nyumbayi idzakhala paradaiso weniweni padziko lapansi. Kugonana kwa amuna ngati amenewa ndi kovuta, komabe, kwabisika kwambiri.
Ngati munthu ali ndi mphamvu yapadera kumbuyo, ndiye munthu wokhala ndi pragmatic. Amakhazikitsa zolinga zenizeni ndipo nthawi zambiri amazipeza. Amuna amtundu uwu amakhulupirira kuti salola kuti "zizoloŵezi zachikazi" zosiyanasiyana, koma nthawi zambiri amapeza "zizolowezi" zoterezi.
Ngati mwamuna ali ndi malo oyipa - miyendo yake, ndiye kuti ali ndi mphamvu ndi chikhalidwe chachikulu. Makhalidwe ake akulu ndi udindo ndi kulimba mtima pakupanga kupanga. Amuna amenewa ali ndi chilakolako chapadera kwa amai achikondi ndi ofooka, amene amasangalala kuteteza ndi kusamalira.
Malingana ndi kugawa kwa chidziwitso cha nzeru, malo osokonezeka sapezeka pamalo ena okha. Izi zimakhala zomveka, zomwe sizingakhale zovuta kupeza nthawi zonse. Kuti muphunzire wokondedwa wanu bwino ndikumupatsa chisangalalo, nthawi zonse muziphunzire, nthawi iliyonse ya chaka, mu malo apamtima kapena kampani yodandaula. Nthawi zina zimakhala zosavuta kuti chiguduli chikhoze kusokoneza maganizo omwe simunaganizepo kale.
Musaganizire za chiwerengero cha malo osokonezeka, malo awo, komanso chiwerengero cha zisokonezo. Khalani okondwa basi. Ndiyeno moyo wanu wa kugonana udzakonzanso nthawi zonse ndi zodabwitsa zambiri.