Kodi zifukwa zenizeni zopezera kusungulumwa ndi momwe tingazichotsere? Kawirikawiri, kusungulumwa kumaoneka ngati ifeyo, ndipo timalingalira kuti ngati munthu ali wosungulumwa, ndiye kuti alibe chimwemwe. Koma kodi n'zotheka kuzindikira chikhalidwe ichi mosiyana? Vuto la kusungulumwa kwa amayi ku Russia tsopano ndi lofunika kwambiri. Tidzazilingalira.
Malingaliro Anu
Kotero, kodi kusungulumwa kumachokera ku maganizo a maganizo? Kusungulumwa kumatanthauzidwa monga momwe munthu amakhalali pa moyo wake, m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo, pokhudzana ndi kupezeka kwa achibale, kapena poopa kuwonongedwa kwawo, kapena chifukwa chosowa mtendere ndi anthu chifukwa cha kudzipatula. Ndipo chikutsatira chiani? Ndipo mfundo yakuti ife timapanga kusungulumwa kwathu sizomwe zili koma umunthu wathu wamkati, momwe timadzionera tokha ndi ena. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amasiyanitsa kusungulumwa kwa mitundu iwiri: kukhala wosungulumwa komanso kudzipatula kwa munthu. Chikhalidwe china chimapangitsa kusungulumwa kukhala chinthu chodziwika bwino. Chitsanzo chosavuta komanso chophweka kwambiri cha kusungulumwa kokha ndi Robinson Crusoe, yemwe anakhala zaka 28 pa chilumba chosakhalamo ndipo sanalankhulane ndi aliyense. Ndiyenela kudziŵa, ndinkafuna kulankhula, koma panalibe wina. Nthaŵi zambiri mu dziko lathu lenileni, kusungulumwa kumadziwonetseratu mu mawonekedwe enieni, pamene munthu amakhala akuzunguliridwa ndi anthu, amalankhulana nawo, koma amamva kusiyana. Anthu omwe ali pafupi, samamufuna iye, samawakonda kwambiri ndipo amakhala mosavuta popanda kuyankhulana nawo kwa moyo wake wonse.
Thawirani ku Shadow
Ndipotu, mantha a kusungulumwa ndizoopsa pakuyang'ana nokha. Kumbukirani kuti nthawi zambiri mumakhala mofulumira ku foni, dinani nambala yopulumutsa mnzanu ndikupita naye ku cafe kuti mukambirane, chofunika kwambiri - musakhale nokha. Pomaliza, kupita, kukomana, kulankhula, koma sikumakhala kosavuta kwa inu, mumamva kuti ndinu osiyana ndi munthu, zokambirana sizikukondweretsa inu, ngakhale mukuthandizira zokambirana - kusungulumwa kumakwirira mutu wanu. Koma mupitirize: yendani mochedwa, kenako mupite kuphwando ndi anzanu, kumeneko, kudzikakamiza, kulankhulana, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo mumamva nokha. Chifukwa chiyani? Inu mumathawa nokha, kuyesa kudzaza zopanda pake zomwe sizili zochitika zonse zosangalatsa ndi anthu anu, mmalo mowona moona mtima pamaso panu. Inde, ndithudi, muli ndi chifukwa chabwino, koma simungathe kuthawa nokha. Ndi zofanana ndi kuthamanga kuchokera mumthunzi wanu. Koma mthunzi udzakhala ukugwirizanitsa ndi iwe, ndipomwe ndikupatsirana. Ndipo panthawiyi kuchoka kwayandikira kwambiri - ndi kofunika kuti mukhale chete, muime kuti mupumule ku mpikisano wamisala uwu, monga mthunzi umaphatikizana ndi iwe, udzakhala gawo lako. Izi ndizofunika kwambiri kuti akhale wosungulumwa. Musathamangire nokha, khalani pansi kwachiwiri, ngakhale m'nyumba yopanda kanthu, mukumverera kusungulumwa kwanu pano ndi tsopano, kumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa ululu, yesani izo mwathunthu - kutsegula mtima uwu, lolani mu mtima. Ndipo m'kupita kwanthawi zidzasakanizana ndi inu, ndiye kuti simudzabweretsa ululu ndi kutha, kusungunuka mu zina, zofunikira kwambiri, zolakalaka ndi zochitika. Mwa njira, moyo wathu suwopa kusungulumwa, mosiyana ndi chifukwa. Kwa iye ndizoopsa kwambiri kuti musamve zenizeni zenizeni, osati kudziwa chifukwa chake amakhala mdziko lino. Izi ndizo zimayambitsa zowonongeka, zokhudzana ndi matenda, ndi matenda ena a maganizo, kusowa kwa tanthauzo la moyo ndi njira yake. Mu moyo wa munthu muyenera kukhala ndi bizinesi yomwe amakhala, ndipo izi zingakhale zosiyana: pojambula zojambula za mafuta ndikukongoletsa mtanda kuti amange nyumba zomangamanga pakatikati pa likulu, chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti chimakukhudzani kwambiri, chimakumananso ndi kukupatsani mphamvu kuti mukhale ndi moyo. Ndiyeno chikondi, ubwenzi ndi kupambana zidzabwera. Khulupirirani, dziwani kudikira - chirichonse chili ndi nthawi yake!
Kukula kwa kusungulumwa
"Mzinda waukulu ndi kusungulumwa kwakukulu," Victor Hugo adati pamene Paris, ndiye chikhalidwe cha dziko lapansi, adameza. Anayang'ana kufunika kwa vutoli m'zaka za zana lake, ndipo asayansi a m'zaka za m'ma 1900 anatsimikiziridwa kuti m'mizinda ikuluikulu anthu amasungulumwa kwambiri kuposa m'madera ena. Ndipo zifukwa ziri bwino - apa anthu akufunafuna ndalama, chimwemwe chawo, ntchito, kupambana kumangosiya kuzindikira dziko lonse. Anthu amasiya kukhalapo kwa wina ndi mzake, kukhala chosiyana, misa yomwe mungathe kupita ku gawo latsopano la chimwemwe chanu. Koma posakhalitsa munthu woteroyo adzayenera kuti ayime kuti apumule, ndiyeno adzapeza kuti pafupi ndi iye kulibe kanthu. M'mizinda ikuluikulu, anthu akukambirana kwambiri ndi akatswiri a maganizo. Ngati moyo wanu ukusuntha motsogoleredwa ndichisoni chotero - musati mumanjenjemera, sizingachedwe kusintha. Chinthu chachikulu - kufuna kusintha, ndiyeno dziko lozungulira, ziribe kanthu momwe ilo likumveka, lidzasintha. Ndipo sizovuta kwambiri kuchita izo. Motani? Malamulo ndi osavuta.
Kukomana kumverera
"Konzekerani m'mawa, yambitsani - ndipo mwamsanga muike dongosolo pa dziko lanu," - kotero amalangizani Kalonga Wamng'ono kuti achite mu bukhu la Exupery, munthu wamng'ono yemwe pamasamba 104 a bukhuli sanayambe akhalapo payekha. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa choyamba ndi chofunika kwambiri kuti musakhale wosungulumwa sikuyenera kudzipatula nokha, kukumbukira zolinga zanu ndi zilakolako zanu, kuti muchite zochita zanu, kudzipangira nokha mphamvu ndi kugawira ena mtima. Pambuyo pa zonse, chirichonse mu miyoyo yathu chimachokera kuwonjezera, makamaka kumverera. Ngati mwakhumudwa kwambiri ndi chikondi, posachedwa udzatsanulira pamphepete mwake, mudzakhumudwa nazo, kuti mufuna kugaŵana ndi ena, ndipo pangakhale kusungulumwa kotani? Maganizo, mwa njira, amasunthidwa mosavuta kuchokera kwa wina ndi mzake, choncho ndikwanira kuti iwe uwetulire, ndipo munthu yemwe akutsutsana naye amamwetulira. Chowonadi ndi chophweka: Pamene mupereka zambiri kudziko lino, pamene mumabwerera, chikhalidwe chokha ndicho kuchita kwaulere. Ndikhulupirire, moyo ndi chinthu chosangalatsa komanso chokondweretsa kuti kusungulumwa kulibe nthawi kapena malo chabe!