Kodi pali chikondi pakati pa mnyamata ndi mtsikana?

Chikondi ndikumverera kosaonekera komanso kosavuta kuti zimawoneka kuti ambiri sakhalako. Chifukwa nthawi zambiri chikondi chimasokonezeka ndi ena, olimba mofanana, koma osati kwambiri. Ndipo mwinamwake choonadi, palibe chikondi? Mulimonsemo, kodi kumveka bwanji pakati pa amuna ndi akazi? Apa pali chikondi cha mayi - pali, ndipo china sichoncho. Mu nkhani yathu "Kodi pali chikondi pakati pa mnyamata ndi mtsikana" tiyesera kumvetsetsa: kodi pali malire kumverera kotere komanso ngati pali pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, kapena chikondi chimatchedwa ena akumverera?

Mwinamwake, kupereka yankho losafunika ku funso lakuti "Kodi pali chikondi pakati pa mnyamata ndi mtsikana?" N'zosatheka. Mulimonsemo, sizingakhoze kuvomerezedwa konsekonse ndi zomwe mwamtheradi munthu aliyense angavomereze. Ndipotu, ambirife timatsimikiza kuti palibe chikondi m'dziko lino lapansi! Ngakhale chifukwa chake akunena - ndilo funso. Mwinamwake, chifukwa cha chikondi chomwe poyamba chinasweka mtima wawo.

Kunena kuti chikondi pakati pa mnyamata ndi mtsikana palibe, mwina, ndi chopusa komanso chopanda pake. Mwa ichi timangolowa miyoyo yonse yowala ndi mabanja okondwa omwe amavomereza m'maganizo awo ndikupereka chikondi kwa wina ndi mzake. Ndi chiyani, ngati si chikondi?

Otsutsa malingaliro okongola awa akunena kuti chikondi sichipezeka mwawonekedwe loyera, kuti nthawizonse chimakhala ndi maziko ena, tiyeni tizinena, chikondwerero, chomwe chimalepheretsa Chikondi cha chiyero choyera chomwe chimadziwika. Koma musiye izi: osakonda onse amafunikira chinachake kuchokera kwa okondedwa awo.

Ngakhale ayi, zolakwika pang'ono. Tonsefe timafunikira chinachake kuchokera kwa okondedwa athu. Ndipo, choyamba, tikukamba za chikondi, kutentha, chisamaliro, chilakolako. Timafuna kumverera, timafuna kumva. Tikufuna kuwonanso nthawi yokoma ya kukhudza koyamba ndikupsompsona, mobwerezabwereza muwone maso anu omwe mumawakonda, ndikufunitseni chidziwitso china cha chikondi. Ndipo mukufuna kuwatcha "chifundo ndi zinthu zokha"?

Choyamba, chikondi chimadziwika ndi kukhudzidwa kwambiri kwa kugwirizana kwa munthu. Zikuwoneka kuti popanda iye simungathe kudya ndi kumwa, ngakhale kupuma kumavuta. Mumamva kuti mukufunika kumuwona mzere uliwonse, kuti mumvetsetse dzanja lake lachikondi, kuti mumulumikize ndi kuti mukakhalepo, ngati mukuwoneka mukukhudza zomwe mumakonda. Mukunena kuti womangidwa ndi chikhalidwe chakumverera kwamphamvu - mwachitsanzo, pa ubwenzi. Koma, inu mukuona, ngati munthu ali bwenzi lanu lapamtima, simudzazimva zomwe zafotokozedwa pamwambapa. Inde, popanda bwenzi mudzatopa, mufuna kukhala ndi anzanu abwino. Koma pamene wokondedwa akuwonekera m'moyo, ngakhale abwenzi apamtima amadziwika mosadziwa.

Chikondi ndi nkhawa. Izi zimafuna kupulumutsa ku tsoka lililonse, kuzunzidwa, osati kulola kuti wina akukhumudwitseni. Chisamaliro chimapanga nthawi zonse zokoma ndi zokondweretsa, zokoma zomwe zimakhala ndi chikondi chenicheni. Pano mumadutsa m'nyengo yozizira, ndikupuma mu fungo lokoma la chisanu. Ndipo ali osamala, koma mosalekeza amamanga chipewa chako cholimba kwambiri, kuti mphepo yamkuntho isasunthire makutu ako. Akufunsa ngati mumavalira magolovesi, ndipo ngati muwaiwala kunyumba, amakhudzirani manja anu njira yonse. Adzakonza nsalu yachisanu ndi chifuwa cha amayi, nthawi yonseyi akuyesa kubisa chimbudzi chawo. Ndipo mukafika kunyumba, nthawi yomweyo amakutumizirani ku bafa kuti mubwerere, ndipo amakonzekera tiyi yotentha yotentha.

Ndikumverera kwina kotani komwe kumakhudzidwadi moona mtima? Sitikukamba za chikondi cha amayi kwa mwana wathu tsopano, chifukwa kuyitana kwa magazi ndi chibadwa cha amayi kumaposa mphamvu zina zonse, chikondi ichi sichitha, simungachiwotche mu mtima mwanu.

Komabe, mwinamwake, chikondi chenicheni, chomwe chinachitikapo pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, sichingakhalenso chowotchedwa. Mutha kuyesa kuiwala, kuthawa, kubisa kumbuyo kwa munthu wina. Mutha kungotengeka nazo kuti kamphindi mumaiwala za munthu amene mumamukonda kwa zaka zambiri komanso amene simungaiwale. Mungathe kukhala osangalala ndi munthu watsopanoyo, koma nthawi zina, usiku wandiweyani, pamene theka lachiwiri latsopano lidzagona, mwamtendere kukumbatirani mtolo, simungatero-ndipo kumbukirani munthu yemweyo, wokondedwa, wabwino kwambiri. Ndipo chisoni chidzakupangitsani inu, kugwa pa inu, ngati snowball kwa iwo. Ndizosatheka kuiwala chikondi chenicheni, ndipo ngati mwaiwala izo, zikutanthauza kuti sizinali chikondi, koma chikondi champhamvu kwambiri, kumalire pa chikondi cha ukapolo ndi chikondi chodzipereka chimene chinachokera kwa inu. Chikondi chenicheni simukupereka. Koma ngati mumvetsetsa kuti mulibe njira yowonekera ndikubwerera ku chikondi choyambirira sichingatheke - ndiye muyenera kuphunzira kuti muzindikire ngati tsamba losangalatsa la moyo ndikukondwera kuti zinakuchitikirani. Apo ayi, adzakudyani kuchokera mkati, kukuchotsani mwayi wokonzanso chimwemwe chanu.

Ngakhale, mwinamwake, n'kosatheka kunena momveka bwino kuti pangakhale chikondi chimodzi chokha. Ndipotu, mawu oterewa amatanthauza kuti nthawi zambiri timalankhula za chikondi ndi nthawi, ngakhale kuti, pamene mau achikondi amachokera pamilomo yathu, timatsimikiza kuti timakonda. Ndipo musamangokhalira kupondereza maganizo awa, kunena kuti iwo ndi opusitsa ndipo amapanga, chifukwa chikondi mu moyo ndi chimodzi chokha. Mwinamwake chikondi chimakhala chodziwika kwambiri ndipo chingatichezere ife nthawi zambiri. Ndiponsotu, ndi chiyani china, kupatula mphamvu, chenicheni, chofunika kwambiri, chikondi chofanana, chingatibweretsere chimwemwe chochokera pansi pamtima, kupereka chilakolako chachikulu chotere ndikukhala ndi chikondi?

Malingana ngati mtima wa munthu ukusowa chikondi, chikondi chidzakhalapo ndipo chidzaphuka mkati mwathu. Nthawi zina amabweretsa ululu, kukhumudwa ndi mkwiyo. Ngakhale, ndi kulakwa kutcha kumverera koteroko "chikondi." Chikondi ndi kuunika, kumverera kopanda malire komwe kumapangitsa mtima kuyimba, osati kuzunzidwa. Ndipo ngati izo zimabweretsa ululu - ndiye ganizirani: kodi chikondi ichi? Mwinamwake mukungowonongeka ndi munthu, koma sakufuna kuti mukhale naye? Kodi ndilole kuti zoterezi zisawonongeke mu moyo wanu? Pambuyo pa zonse, ndikugwedeza moyo wanu pa izo. Ndani amene sangayamikire kuyesayesa kwanu, kodi mumayesedwa kuti musasowe malingaliro enieni omwe simudzawazindikira chifukwa cha khungu ndi kuyandikira kwa mtima wanu?

Kupeza chikondi ndi chimwemwe chachikulu, kusunga izo - luso lenileni, kuti liwutche tsiku ndi tsiku mphamvu ndi mphamvu - ntchito zodzikongoletsera. Komabe, ndikukhulupirirani, chikondi ndi chofunika kwambiri! Chikondi ndi chofunika kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi, koma chikondi chenicheni sichingakulimbikitseni kuchita zinthu zina.