Kugonana
Kawirikawiri, ife, amayi, ndi kugonana ndipo timakopera amuna kudzera mu intaneti. Sizongopanda kanthu kuti zochitika zosiyanasiyana zimayambira pa nkhaniyi, monga "malamulo a maulendo asanu", "angati akupsompsona" ndi zina zotero. Zonsezi ndizofunikira kuti tisonyeze munthu yemwe tikufunika kutimenyera ndipo sizili zovuta kuti tipeze. Mfundo imeneyi ya chikhalidwe imachokera ku kuwerenga maganizo kosavuta pa zinyama, zomwe zimakhala mwa ife ndi chikhalidwe cha amayi. Koma simungathe kupondaponda pa izo panonso.
Kwa mkazi, kugonana kumatanthauza zambiri. Kwa iye, iyi ndi sitepe yoyenera. Iye sali wokonzeka kupita kukagona ndi munthu woyamba kuti azisangalala. Zonsezi zimachitika. Koma kawirikawiri, kugonana kwapamwamba kumakhala kokha ndi iwo omwe ali ndi malingaliro awo.
Chikondi
Inde, kugonana n'kofunika. Koma zonse ndi zofunika kwambiri kwa mkazi kuposa chikondi. Maganizo amenewa amatisokoneza nthawi zonse: kuyambira ndi benchi ya sukulu ndikutha zaka zoyenerera. Zitha kuonekera kawirikawiri, koma zimangokhala nthawi zingapo m'moyo. Ndipo chikondi chimayamba nthawi zonse mwa atsikana mwadzidzidzi. Ndipo n'zomvetsa chisoni kuti msungwana aliyense amatsogolere kuntchito kapena kuvutika maganizo. Njira yachitatu sizitali. Ndi chikondi chimene chimaponyera amayi ambiri kuntchito zodabwitsa komanso zopanda pake. Ndipo sitingathe kuthandizira. Monga akunena, simumapereka mtima kwa mtima wanu. Nthawi zina chikondi chachinyamata chimathera muukwati umene umatha zaka zingapo. Nthawi zina zimatha kukhala ndi moyo nthawi zonse, koma milandu yotereyi ndi yosawerengeka.
Pazigawo zoyamba za chikondi, sitimatha kuzindikira zolephera za mnzathu. Ndipo ndicho vuto lonse. Ndipotu, ndi nthawi, pamene malingaliro akufooketsa, timayamba kuyang'ana mozama mkhalidwewo ndipo nthawi zina timadabwa ndi omwe timakhala nawo. Nthawi zina chikondi ndi mitundu yonse ya kupuma ndi ahampererastaet kungofuna kugonana.
Kwa mkazi aliyense, chikondi ndicho chimene amapuma, amakhala moyo. Kwa iye, izi ndizolimbikitsa. Ndipo ngakhale zopanda pake zonse zomwe timachita pofuna chikondi, tikhoza kuganiza kuti ndizofunika.
Ukwati
Kwa amayi, theka la ukwati ndi udindo. Kusintha khalidwe lawo labwino, tikufuna kuwonetsa ena, ndipotu. Izi zili mkati mwathunthu. Kuvomerezana kuukwati, tikufuna kutsimikizira kwa makolo kuti anakulira ndikukhala odziimira okha, abwenzi - kusonyeza momwe ndiliri, kuti andisankha ine ndi zina zotero. Ndipo akazi ambiri okwatirana amakhulupirira kuti amakwiya. Komabe, chifukwa chachikulu chimene atsikana akukwatirana ndi chitetezo cha chitetezo. Pambuyo pake, aliyense wa ife amafuna kukhala wofooka ndi wofatsa, kulandira chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro kuchokera kwa munthuyo. Komanso, pokwatirana, msungwanayo amadziwa kuti sadzayenera kudandaula chifukwa cha kusagwira ntchito kwa kanthawi, kuthekera kuti atenge mimba, mavuto a zachuma, ntchito zapakhomo. Pambuyo pake, padzakhala mapewa amphamvu ndi odalirika pambali pake.
Akazi omwe amatha kudzizindikiritsa okha m'banja amakhala osangalala kwambiri. Koma, mwatsoka, palibe ambiri a iwo.
Tikayang'ana malingaliro a amai pafupipafupi pazinthu zazikulu, tikhoza kupita ku malingaliro a amuna pa zinthu zomwezo. Pachifukwa ichi, sitidzasamalira gulu la amuna omwe ali okhaokha. Chithunzi chathu ndichabwino, cholimba, chopirira, ndi mitsempha yazitsulo ndi mphamvu, munthu. Ithaca sikochepa kwambiri, monga zikuwonekera kwa ife.
Kugonana
Kugonana ndi munthu weniweni komanso wapamtima. Ndichifukwa chake, panthawi yomwe ikhoza kuwonetsa zinthu zosiyana, zomwe sitingaziganizire tsiku ndi tsiku. Pakati pa kugonana, mwamuna amakhala wovuta kwambiri, wotseguka komanso wosatetezeka. Choncho, mwanjira ina, kugonana kumatha kuonedwa ngati chinthu chodalira. Panthawi imeneyi munthu amatha kukhala wamphamvu ndikukhala "chilombo chokonda." Kuti munthu asonyeze malingaliro awo si ophweka, koma ngati atachita izo, onetsetsani kuti, atsikana, kuti akukhulupirirani inu. Koma nthawi imodzimodziyo panthawi yogonana, mwamunayo akungokhalira kukayikira. Amayesa kukondweretsa wokondedwa wake ndikupanga chidwi pa iye. Pa nthawi imodzimodziyo, amafunikira kukhutiritsa zikhumbo zake komanso nthawi zina amasonyeza nzeru.
Kwa mwamuna, kugonana ndiko, choyamba, chodzikanira. Kwa munthu weniweni, nthawizonse chirichonse ndi kulikonse ziyenera kukhala zabwino. Ndiye iye ali wodzikonda yekha mwa iyemwini.
Chikondi
Amuna ochepa chabe amasonyeza maganizo awo, ndipo mochuluka kwambiri amawawonetsa poyera pagulu. Chotero, monga lamulo, munthu wachikondi amayesera kusonyeza chikondi mwa winawake. Adzakhala wachikondi komanso wokondedwa ndi nyumba yachikondi, koma pagulu angathe kutsogolera mosiyana kwambiri. Koma kunyumba adzakhala wokonzeka kuchita zonse: kusamba mbale, kupanga chakudya cham'mawa komanso kuyeretsa nyumba ngati akufunsidwa za izo.
Aloleni amunawo asamawonetsere momwe akumverera m'mawu awo, koma ali okonzeka kudzipereka. Amayesetsa m'njira iliyonse kuti moyo wa wokondedwa ukhale wosavuta, wabwino, wowala, wokondweretsa komanso wokhutira kwambiri. Kukhala moyo chifukwa cha mtsikana, m'dzina lake. Maganizo amenewa amatha zaka zakubadwa.
Kotero, okondedwa, pali amuna enieni. Ndipo monga momwe mukuonera, amatha kukonda kwambiri komanso mwachikondi monga momwe timachitira. Koma nthawi zambiri amasankha kusonyeza chikondi chawo ndi zochita, osati m'mawu.
Ukwati
Pa sitepe iyi, ndi ochepa omwe akugwiritsidwa ntchito. Ena amafunika nthawi yambiri kuti akwatirane. Ndipo si zakumverera. Chowonadi ndi chakuti munthu amawopa kusintha kumeneko. Ndipotu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti mukakwatirana, ufulu umatayika, womwe uli wofunikira kwa ambiri. Ena sali ochenjera kwambiri. Kawirikawiri, kusudzulana kumachitika chifukwa cha kulakwitsa kwa anthu. Choncho, musanapereke dzanja ndi mtima kwa dona, muyenera kuganizira mosamala kuti: "Kodi mwakonzeka kupanga banja ndi kutenga udindo?". Pokhala wokwatira, muyenera kumenyana ndi zofuna zanu, mfundo zanu ndi zofuna zanu. Malo oyamba ayenera kuika zofuna za mkazi ndi ana. Pamapewa a amuna okwatirana amakumana ndi mavuto omwe sanawakhudze konse. Ndipo chinthu choopsa kwambiri kwa anthu ndi chakuti tsopano iwo sakhala okha kwa iwo okha, komanso kwa theka lina. Ndipo tsogolo la awiriwa lidzadalira pa iwo.
Ukwati ndi udindo waukulu, womwe umawopseza nthumwi iliyonse ya azimayi. Ndipo palibe chomwe chingachitidwe pa izi. Ngakhale kuti mwiniwakeyo sazindikira kuti ali wokonzeka kutero, palibe chabwino chomwe chidzabwere.
Monga mukuonera, amuna ndi akazi ndi osiyana kwambiri. Ife, amayi, ndife ofatsa ndi okonda, amalingaliro ndi ofatsa. Anyamata - M'malo mosiyana, samakonda kusonyeza maganizo ndi kulankhula zambiri za chikondi. Ndi kosavuta kuti afotokoze makhalidwe onse. Komano, ngati mumapeza munthu weniweni ali ndi makhalidwe abwino, ndiye kuti mungakhale ndi chidaliro pa zana. Ndi munthu uyu, mtsikana aliyense adzamva wotetezedwa, wokondedwa komanso wokondwa.