Koma momwe tingasunge mgwirizano muukwati, iye samatipatsa ife, kotero tiyeni tiyesere kudzimvetsa tokha.
Timavomereza nthawi yomweyo kuti tidzakambirana za mgwirizano wokhawokha kwa maanja omwe onse awiri amakondana wina ndi mzake.
Moyo wokwatira ndi wokwatira nthawi zonse siwophweka, kwa mkwati ndi mkwatibwi, ngakhale pali chikondi ndi chidaliro chonse pakati pa okwatirana. Moyo, ntchito, nthawi, chirichonse chimawayang'ana iwo kuti athandize mphamvu. Koma tonse tikudziwa kuti pali maanja amene akhala mwamtendere ndi mgwirizano kwa zaka zambiri zaukwati.
Ndipo nthawi zambiri, maziko a maukwati awo (kupatula chikondi chenicheni) ndi kulemekezana wina ndi mzake monga munthu. Ndipo izi siziyenera kudalira pa chikhalidwe cha anthu, zachuma ndi zina. Mwamuna wophunzirayo ayenera kulemekeza mkazi wake wamkazi, ndipo mkazi wa bizinesi ayenera kulemekeza mwamuna wake, injiniya wamba. Pokhapokha pokhapokha pali mgwirizano pakati pa okwatirana.
Chinthu china chofunikira chogwirizana ndi mfundo zofanana, komanso mfundo zomwe zofuna za okwatirana zimasiyana. Tawonani kuti mfundo izi zomwe zosangalatsa zikusiyana siziyenera kukhala mwala wapangodya; Zofuna zosiyana za okwatirana siziyenera kuyambitsa kutsutsana kwa wina ndi mzake. Zomwe zimagwirizananso ndi anthu amodzi zimathandiza kuti pakhale pamodzi (chilakolako ndi kugonana sizingagwirizane, pamene onse akusonkhanitsa pamodzi kwa kanthaŵi kochepa), koma zosiyanasiyana zomwe zingawapatse anthu mwayi wochita zinthu zokha, popanda wokwatirana. Chifukwa ngakhale ngakhale anthu oyandikana nawo nthawi zina amatopa. Komanso, osati ntchito yosafunikira, muzogwirizana za mgwirizano wa ubale wautali ndikutha kukhululukira.
Ndipotu, mosasamala kanthu za zomwe anthu ali, pazaka zambiri zaukwati wawo mosakayikira adzapeza zovuta zazing'ono. Zimakhala zophweka kwambiri kuti zisamayang'ane kumayambiriro kwa maukwati, koma zomwe zingawononge kumverera kulikonse ndi mgwirizano uliwonse pambuyo pa zaka zambiri. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri ndi chikhululukiro cha zolakwitsa zazing'ono. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna nthawi zonse amaiwala kuti atseke mankhwala a mano, ndipo mkazi amakonda kuyang'ana mauthenga omwe mwamuna wake sakonda.
Kuwonjezera pa zonsezi, mungathe kuwonjezera kuti panali mgwirizano muukwati wa banja momwe malingaliro omwewo alili pamakona a moyo wapabanja akufunika.
Pazifukwa monga ana ndi banja (chikhumbo chokhala nawo, angati adzakhala nawo, moyo ndi makolo awo), Kodi ntchito ndi ntchito (ngati mkazi ayenera kugwira ntchito, chofunika kwambiri kwa ana kapena ntchito, etc.), zapakhomo ndi zachuma amagawira zopindulitsa m'banja, omwe ayenera kuphika, ndi zina zotero). Kwa mafunso onsewa, okwatirana ayenera kukhala ndi malingaliro ofanana, mwinamwake sipangakhale kulankhula za mgwirizano uliwonse.
Zonsezi tawonetsa kuti chikhalidwe chachikulu cha mgwirizano waukwati ndi ntchito yowonjezera kuti muyeso wa mtendere wa banja ukhale woyenera. Ngati onse awiri akudziwa izi ndikuyesetsa kukhalabe olimba, ndiye kuti banjali likhoza kukhala limodzi la okondwa kumene okwatirana amakhala mogwirizana mogwirizana ndi zaka zambiri. Monga lamulo, anthu ambiri amalota za maubwenzi amenewa.
Pano, mwinamwake, zinthu zofunika kwambiri, koma ndikufuna kuwonjezera zina. Komabe, sikuti kulibe malo otikumbutsa chofunikira ndi chikhalidwe chofunikira kwambiri chogwirizana muukwati, ichi ndi chikondi. Monga akunena, popanda kulikonse. Ndipo zinthu zina zonse zimagwira ntchito pokhapokha kukhalapo chikondi pakati pa okwatirana.