Pamene nsanje imayambira - chikondi chimatha

Mphamvu yowononga ya nsanje sidziwika ndi kumva kwa aliyense wa ife. Ndi ndani yemwe amamuitana nthawi imodzi m'mawa ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani amapita ku chipinda china? N'chifukwa chiyani amachotsa nthawi zonse mafoni ndi SMS? N'chifukwa chiyani mukuikapo chinsinsi pa zolemba zanu pa kompyuta? Inde, iye anali ndi zinsinsi, ndipo zinsinsi-zikutanthauza, ambuye! Izi, pakuyang'ana koyamba, mndandanda womveka bwinowu wakhumudwitsa kambirimbiri kanyumba kanyumba kanu ka chikondi. Koma kodi n'zoona kuti amanena kuti pomwe nsanje imayambira, kodi chikondi chimatha pamenepo? Tiyeni tiyesere kulingalira izi.

Nsanje imabadwa mu chidziwitso chathu, imayamba pokhapokha mphamvu yake, makamaka, imadalira momwe timamvera pa chinthu chokhumba. Ngati ichi ndi chikondi chodetsa nkhawa, ndiye kuti nsanje ikhoza kukhala ndi khalidwe lomwelo. Ngakhale kusiyana kumeneku kungakhale kochuluka, chifukwa si tonsefe ofanana, ndipo maganizo athu ndi osiyana. Pali atsikana amene ali ndi nsanje ndi anyamata onse: omwe ali pafupi naye; omwe kale ankakonda; omwe akungofuna iwo tsopano; ndipo ngakhale iwo omwe amawaona kuti ndi abwenzi enieni. Izi zimatchedwa - kuwonjezeka kwa umwini, ndipo ndi, mwina, ngati atsikana ambiri. Ndipo pali madona ena omwe sakhala achisoni konse. Mwina iwo amakhulupirira kwathunthu amuna awo, kapena amakhala odzidalira kwambiri ndi odzikonda ndipo amakhulupirira kuti palibe amene angasinthane nawo wina. Zomwe, nazonso, osati zoyipa. Popeza nsanje - imathadi zambiri, ngakhalenso kuwononga maganizo omwe akhala akuyaka kwa zaka zambiri. Adzawadya, kuwotcha, kukusiyani mumtsinje wa chikondi choyambirira - chisoni, kuchotsedwa kuchokera phulusa ndi msuzi. Kodi nsanje imayamba kuti? Chikondi chimatha pamenepo!

Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika? Zoona zake n'zakuti nsanje ndi yodabwitsa kuti iwonongeke mkati. Zikuwoneka kuti nkhaniyi idakambidwa, wokondedwayo anafotokozera chirichonse. Momwemo ndikutsimikizira kuti ndinali woona kwa inu. Koma mphutsi ya kukayikira yatsala, idzawongolera moyo wanu kwa nthawi yaitali, makamaka ngati mwachibadwa mukudzizunza. Ndiyeno mkati mwanu mumayamba mkangano umene umakula, monga snowball kwa amene. Mutha kudalira mwamuna wanu wokondedwa ndikuyamba kumuyikira. Yang'anani maso ake onse, ndikuwombera, ndikudandaula kuti mbuyomu, mimba ndi miyendo ndizokongola kwambiri kuposa inu, ndipo chifuwacho ndi chachikulu. Ndipo kawirikawiri ndilo loto la munthu aliyense, komanso mnzanuyo. Mwachidziwikiratu, posachedwa izi zidzakhumudwitsa moyo wanu. Pambuyo pake, mtsikanayo, pakati pazinthu zina, adzakhazikitsanso ulamuliro wake ponseponse, ndipo mafoni ndi mapazi ake adzakwanira mudanga lake. Koma sikuti anthu onse amatha kuthana ndi izi mwachizoloŵezi.

Ndipo Mulungu asalole, inu mupeza mu malo anu omwe chinachake, mwa lingaliro lanu, chidzachitira umboni za chidwi cha mwamuna wanu ndi mkazi wina - ndizo zonse! Nkhondo ikhoza kulengezedwa yotseguka.

Nkhondo iyi idzakufikitsani kumalo kumene chikondi chimathera. Kwenikweni, mmalo mwa chikondi, chikondi ndi chisamaliro, mudzayamba kupereka munthu wanu wokwiya komanso osakayikira, iye amasiya kugwirizana kwa miyoyo, yomwe idatchulidwa kale. Ganizirani: kodi simukuopa kutaya zonse zomwe zakhala zikuyendetsedwa bwino kwa zaka zambiri, chifukwa cha nsanje, nthawi zina ngakhale zopanda maziko komanso zosayesedwa? Timakonda kukhulupirira nthano zomwe tadzipanga tokha - ndipo nthawi zambiri zithunzi izi za nsanje, zokopa ndi malingaliro athu, sizikugwirizana ndi zenizeni.

Ndani angamuitane munthu mmodzi m'mawa? Inde, aliyense - osachepera mphekesera ndi uthenga wopanda chimwemwe kuti mawa, patsiku, mudzafunika kupita kuntchito. Mnzanga yemwe anapita ku cafe ndipo anapempha kuti amutengere kunyumba. Nchifukwa chiyani munthu alowa m'chipinda china? Inde, kuti tisatidzutse ife, tatopa ndi tsiku la ntchito zolemetsa zapakhomo. SMS yanu ya theka imayika pansi pa mawu achinsinsi kuti ogwira nawo ntchito asamawerenge kalata yanu yachikondi, ngati iye nthawi zonse amaiwala foni yake. "Chikhululukireni!" - pumani aliyense wa inu. Mwinamwake zifukwa, koma nthawizina zifukwa zowona ndi zodabwitsa ndi kuphweka kwawo, pamene sitimakhulupirira mwa iwo ndikuganiza zomwe tingasankhe.

Inde, mumadziwa amuna anu bwino - ndipo amatha kusiyanitsa mabodza kuchokera ku choonadi. Onetsetsani mwakachetechete kuti theka lanu, mwinamwake, silingakhale loyenera, koma kuti muwone kuseri kwa chiwonongeko chonchi - izi ndizovuta kwambiri zomwe zingachitike kwa banja lanu. Mikangano siinayambe yasonkhanitsa banja, ngakhalebe agogo ndi agogo athu adanena kuti, "okondedwa akukaliridwa - akungotsinja basi." Inde, palibe awiri awiri abwino, ndipo aliyense amalumbirira, koma kuti alumbire mobwerezabwereza m'chikondi chosatha ndikukhala ndi njira zabwino kwambiri. Koma ponena za nsanje yowonongeka - ndiye izi ndizozama kwambiri zomwe zimayambira pa mlingo umene uli maziko a chiyanjano - kukhulupilira. Popeza mwataya chidaliro, simungathe kudzitsitsimutsa chikondi chomwe chinakugwirizanitsani ndi kupereka mgwirizano, popanda chikondi chomwe chimazunzidwa.

Ndipo kuwonongeka kumeneku sikungathe kuwonongeka, kuyenera kuchotsedwa ndi manja anu, kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu ndi mphamvu zambiri pazinthu izi. Osati banja lirilonse liri ndi mphamvu ndi kumvetsetsa kuti ligonjetse chopinga ichi, kuti lifulumire patsogolo, mu tsogolo losangalatsa. Kotero musanalole kuti chibwenzi chanu chisokonezeke, ganizirani: Kodi muli ndi chifukwa chochitira nsanje, kapena mwabwera ndi chirichonse? Kodi muli ndi umboni uliwonse, umboni wotsutsa? Ngati sichoncho - ndiye kumasula malingaliro oipa ndikudalira wokondedwa wanu, chifukwa chikondi sichimalola kusinkhasinkha ndi chinyengo.

Koma ngati mutsimikiza kuti theka lina likusintha kwa inu, ndiye kuti bizinesiyo imatembenuka mosiyana. Ngakhale pakhoza kukhala zosiyana zosiyana pa chitukuko cha zochitika. Winawake amalira mowona mtima, pozindikira kuti alibe tsogolo. Ndipo wina amakhululukira mwachisomo, chifukwa chikondi chake chilibe malire, ndipo popanda wokondedwa, chidzaipiraipira. Koma, kachiwiri, mphutsi imeneyi ya kukayika imakhalabe. Koma ngati munthu wanu samakupatsani ngakhale chifukwa chochepa cha nsanje - chikhoza kukhala bwino. Koma ngati izo zikhala chizolowezi ... Monga, mkazi wanga, zanga zonse zondikhululukira ine, ndikuwopa kuti ndizitha. Ndiye chikondi chotani chomwe chiripo - kudzimana kwathunthu, kuphatikiza ndi chizolowezi.

Choncho sankhani ngati chikondi chimatha pamene nsanje yatentha kutentha kwanu konse. Ndipo kodi kuli koyenera kuti mumulole iye, nsanje, kuti atenge mtima wanu mwakhama?