Vseravno iwo sadzatisiya ife
Pamene munthu alankhulana ndi munthu yemwe ali wokondedwa kwa iye, koma sangatchulidwe kwambiri ndi mbadwa, amadziletsa yekha, chifukwa amadziwa kuti wopemphayo sangasangalale ndi khalidwe lake, adzakhumudwa ndipo, mwina, adzachoka kwamuyaya. Ndi mantha awa omwe amachititsa kuti tizitha kuugwira mtima. Pamene hams akuyankhula ndi achibale, nthawi zonse amakhala otsimikiza kuti sangapite kulikonse. Ngakhale atakangana nawo, akukhumudwa, komabe iwo ali amphamvu kwambiri moti amakhululukira. Munthu aliyense nthawi zina amayenera kulavulira zoipa zawo. Koma sangathe kuchita izi, mwachitsanzo, kutsogolera kwa mtsogoleri, chifukwa zimamuopseza kuchoka kuntchito yake. Komanso, anthu sangalekerere khalidwe lofanana ndi anzawo kapena anzawo okha, monga momwe angathere mwamsanga, osakakamizika kupirira mayeso awo ku adiresi yawo. Choncho, munthuyo amayesetsa kudziletsa yekha, koma akafika pakhomo la achibale ake ndi achibale ake, amatha kupeza mawu amodzi, kenako amakonza zolakwika kuti apangitse mtima wake kukhala wabwino. Inde, tonse timadziwa kuti khalidweli ndi lolakwika, koma chidziwitso chimafuna nthawi ndi nthawi kuchotsa zolakwikazo, kuti asamangokhala wopenga kuchokera kumtima. Ndichifukwa chake tikuyenda ndi zosayenera izi kwa omwe ali okondedwa kwa ife ndipo, chofunikira, omwe amatikonda. Inde, zikumveka zomveka, koma ndizo momwe ziliri. Munthu ayenera kutsimikiza kuti chifukwa cha kusayanjanitsika kwake, kugonana ndi anthu omwe amamunenera sichidzamangidwanso. Ndicho chifukwa chake anthu amasankha achibale ndi abwenzi. Dzikumbutseni nokha momwe mungathe kukankhira amayi anu nthawi zambiri chifukwa cha kupusa, ngakhale pansi pozindikira kuti mukulakwitsa, osati inu. Khalidweli likufotokozedwa mosavuta chifukwa chakuti kukhumudwa kwa Mamowy kumadziwa kuti pamapeto pake adzakhululukiranibe ndipo sadzapita kulikonse, chifukwa amakonda kwambiri kuposa china chirichonse padziko lapansi. Maganizo omwewo amawonekera kwa abale, alongo, abwenzi apamtima, mwachidule, kwa omwe tili otsimikiza.
Mwamwayi, anthu ena ali ndi maganizo okhumudwa mofanana ndi omwe amawayamikira, angathe kuchitika kawirikawiri. Tawonani, iye amachoka pa anthu apamtima nthawi iliyonse, akukhulupirira kuti iwo adzakhala nthawizonse manja awo. Koma ngati munthu amachitira nkhanza kwambiri, ndiye msanga kapena mtsogolo iye amene salola kuukiridwa kwake sangathe kupirira. Pamene timakonda kwambiri, timakhumudwa kwambiri. Choncho, nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti anthu omwe kwa nthawi yaitali amavutika ndi kuukira kwakukulu kuchokera kwa munthu wapafupi, pamapeto pake, amangomusiya kwamuyaya. Izi ndizochitika m'mabanja kumene iwo amakhala muzhduzhvaetsya pamwamba pa mkazi wake ndi kumumenya iye kapena kumene makolo amatenga zokhumudwitsa pamoyo wawo pa ana. Kufikira nthawi inayake, ozunzidwa amazunzidwa ndikulirira mau a chidziwitso ndi chikondi, koma panthawi ina amatha kuchoka mu moyo wa munthu wankhanza kwamuyaya. Choncho, ngati nyanga ikuchita nkhanza, wina ayenera kukumbukira kuti ngati mutaponyera ndodo yanu, iwo amangowonongeka m'moyo wanu ndipo palibe amene adzawabwezere.
Anthu a ku Luudini amanjenjemera
Tikakhala pafupi ndi anthu ena, nthawi zina amangoyamba kutikhumudwitsa. Nthawi zambiri izi zimachitika ndi achibale omwe, omwe timawawona tsiku ndi tsiku. Kumbali imodzi, timawoneka kuti timawakonda, koma pamzake, pali chinachake chimene sitimakonda khalidwe lawo. Chaka ndi chaka, tikuyang'ana izi, ndiyeno timangokhumudwa chifukwa cha zovuta. Munthu angatifunire zabwino, koma tidzakwiya ndi uphungu wake, chifukwa salankhula. Kapena tikhoza kukhumudwa ngakhale ndi khalidwe lake loyambirira pa tebulo. Kumbali imodzi, ife timagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri kwa munthu kuti sitidziwa momwe tingakhalire ngati sichinali, koma mbali inayo ili pafupi kupha chifukwa cha zinthu zina zomwe iye amachita nthawi zonse ndipo safuna kuchita monga tikufunira. Ichi ndi chifukwa cha mkwiyo ndi kukwiya. Timayamba kuchita nkhanza kwa achibale. Nthawi zina zimatikwiyitsa kwambiri moti nthawi zambiri timachoka kwa iwo, ndikukhulupirira kuti ndizosatheka kukhala pafupi. Mwa njira, ndiko kupatukana kwa kanthaŵi kochepa kumene kukulolani kuti mukhazikitse mkwiyo wanu ndi kuganiziranso momwe mumaonera anthu apafupi. Pamene munthu wochokera kudziko lathu ndi mthenga, timaganiziranso zomwe tachita ndipo timayamba kumvetsetsa momwe tinkalakwira mu nkhanza zathu. Nthawi zina timayesedwa kwa anthu kwambiri kuti tileke kuyamikira iwo atangopatukana ndikukhala padera kwaokha, mwadzidzidzi timadziwa momwe munthu alili wokondedwa komanso momwe ife tinali olakwika.
Nthaŵi zambiri, anthu amakhala achiwawa ndi achibale omwe ali achikulire kapena aang'ono pofika zaka. Izi zimachokera ku kusiyana kwa dziko lapansi ndikuzindikira momwe zinthu zilili. Pakati pa anthu kumeneko nthawi zambiri zimasiyana chifukwa cha zomwe sakumvetsetsana. Chotsatira chake, munthuyo amayamba kuchita zinthu mwankhanza kwa achibale ake kuti atsimikizire malingaliro ake. Ndipotu, nkhanza zoterezi zimawonekera m'banja lililonse. Amagwirizana ndi makolo, agogo ndi agogo aamuna, makamaka paunyamata. Amadedwa ndi zoletsedwa komanso malingaliro pa moyo wawo, komanso mwachibadwidwe chawo, achinyamata komanso kuyesa achibale awo movutikira. Ichi ndi chibadwidwe chawo chosazindikira, chifukwa chakuti makolo ali ndi mphamvu zina. Zomwe amayi ndi abambo amamukhumudwitsa, ndikuyesa kumubwezera zhemnetoy. Ndicho chifukwa chake amachitira nkhanza abale ake.
Chikhumbo cha ufulu
Chifukwa china chowonetsera achiwawa kwa achibale ndicho chilakolako chodzilamulira. Zingawoneke ngati munthu kuti omwe ali pafupi kufotokoza momwe angakhalire amalephera kupanga zosankha zawo ndi zina zotero. Ndicho chifukwa chake anthu amayamba kuponyera maonekedwe osiyanasiyana motsatira malangizo a achibale awo, kutsanulira zinthu zoipa, kunyozetsa komanso kunyalanyaza. Amafuna kuti achibale awo asiye iwo okha. Nthawi zambiri, khalidwe ili likugwirizana ndi makolo. Munthu akhoza kukhala wankhanza kwa abale, alongo ndi abwenzi apamtima omwe akuwona kuti akuchita chinachake cholakwika ndipo akufuna kutsogolera njira yowona. Komanso, yemwe akumuyesa, amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi ufulu kapena samangokhala wokwiya. Choncho, amakhumudwa, amayesetsa kudziletsa yekha ku malemba ndi mabungwe awo, choncho amayamba kumenyana ndi banja lake momveka bwino, akudziwonetsa ngati munthu wankhanza. Patapita nthawi, anthu ambiri amavomereza kuti nthawi zina iwo amachimwa, chifukwa omalizirawo amawakonda kwambiri. Koma zinawoneka kwa iwo kuti mwa njira yotere ndizotheka kukwaniritsa ufulu ndi kutsimikizira kuti ndi ofunika m'moyo uno.