Mfundo yoyamba yopanga ubale wabwino pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi sikuyesa kupewa zolakwika kapena zovuta, koma kuphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwa kuti zikhazikike ndikupita kumalo atsopano a chitukuko cha umunthu ndi maubwenzi ndi ena.
Ziri zovuta kudziwa zolakwa zazikulu zomwe mkazi amachitira ndi mwamuna wake. Banja lirilonse limamanga maubwenzi payekha. Kwa wina, kusakhulupirika ndi kulakwitsa, ndipo kwa wina sizovuta zosangalatsa. Wina amatha kukhululukira mnzanu mkangano ndi makolo ake, ndipo kwa munthu uwu ndi nthawi yothetsera banja.
Fufuzani za golidi kutanthawuza
Mwinamwake, pazinthu zambiri, zolakwa zazikulu zomwe mkazi angapange zimagwirizana ndi kusakhoza kupeza golidi kutanthauza. Mwachitsanzo, kudzipatula pakulankhulana n'koipa kwambiri pa ubale ndi mwamuna wake. Ngati mkazi sangathe kukambirana za mavuto pamene akukwera, amapezako maganizo ndi kukwiya. Pambuyo pake, kukwiya kumeneku, kusonkhanitsa, kumatsanulira banja, ndipo kawirikawiri mphamvu ya mkwiyo siyikugwirizana ndi mkhalidwewo. Mwamunayo akusokonezeka, ndipo kutaya mphamvu pa mawu ake ndi khalidwe lake chifukwa cha mphamvu ya maganizo kungayambitse zotsatira zothetsa chibwenzi.
Musalankhule zambiri
Kumbali inayi, kufotokoza kwathunthu kwa mwamuna wanu kumatsutsananso ndi banja labwino. Mwachitsanzo, akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti mayi amalakwitsa ngati atauza mwamuna wake kapena wokondedwa za mabuku ake omwe adalembedwa kale. Kawirikawiri amuna amafunsidwa kuti afotokoze momwe chirichonse chinaliri. Musagonjetsedwe ndi izi, chifukwa munthu akufuna nkhani zotere si zomwe mukuganiza. Amayang'ananso kuti akhoza kuyambitsa mavuto pakalipano, omwe, poganiza kwake, amachokera m'mabuku akale. Mwina amachititsa nsanje yake kapena kuyisamalira, kuyesera kudziyerekezera ndi mpikisano.
Chotsani zizoloŵezi zoipa
Zolakwitsa zazikulu zomwe mkazi amachitira mwamuna wake zingathenso kulinganiranso kuti sakufuna kulamulira mbali zamdima za khalidwe lake. Osapitirira-pumula-bwino ndikudziwongolera zoipa zonse. Nthawi zina, atagonjetsa miyezi yoyamba yopera anthu, amai amaona kuti ubalewo wakhala wolimba, ndipo amayamba kudziwonetsera okha "mu ulemerero wake wonse." Amadzilola okha kulankhula molakwika za mwamuna ndi banja lake, kupita ku zovala zopanda zovala m'malo mwazovala zowongoka kunyumba kapena, mwachitsanzo, kusonyeza malingaliro onse a chikhalidwe chawo. Muyenera kumvetsetsa nokha kuti munthu aliyense amene amafuna chikondi ndi kutentha ali ndi kuleza mtima pang'ono. Amuna sali okonzeka kuzindikira nthawi zonse mavuto anu ndi zovuta pamoyo wanu. Pezani njira zochepetsera nthunzi, chifukwa chofuna kukwaniritsa zolinga kapena kusagwirizana ndi ena, kumbali. Pitani ku kusonkhana ndi anzanu, kukambilani m'mabwalo, pitani ku masewera olimbitsa thupi. Musati mutaya zonse zopweteketsa mtima kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Poyamba akhoza kukumverani chisoni, koma m'kupita kwanthawi amatha kuthawira kumtima wachimwemwe komanso munthu yemwe amadziwa moyo.
Pewani kutsutsidwa
Kutsutsidwa mwachinsinsi si chida chothandizira kulankhulana. Iyenera kukhala yomangidwa bwino kwambiri. Pankhani yotsutsa munthu, ndiye kuti inu mumayenda pamphepete mwa phompho nthawi zonse mukayesa kuphunzitsanso kapena kusintha. Akazi anzeru amadziwa kuti wamkulu sangasinthe. Kotero ngati chinachake sichikugwirizana ndi mwamuna, muyenera kuchitenga kuti chikhale chosavuta, kapena, ngati ichi ndi khalidwe losasinthika, ganizirani za kusintha wokondedwa wanu pachiyambi cha chiyanjano.
Ngati mumatsutsa munthu mofanana, muyenera kuchita mosamala ndikuganizira za maganizo a munthuyo. Mwachitsanzo, cholimbikitsa kwambiri kusintha munthu wotsutsa ndi chimodzi chimene chimatsutsa ntchito inayake, osati munthu wamba. Musamadziyerekezere ndi wina aliyense. Ndi bwino kunena kuti: "Ndinkada nkhawa dzulo, mutakhala moledzera" kusiyana ndi: "Muledzera nthawi zonse ndikupita ku garaji, osati ngati Vasya." Chabwino, amuna samatsutsidwa ngati "chilango" chifukwa cha khalidwe loipa, koma osayamika. Ngati mwamunayo akuzoloŵera kulandira kuchokera kwa iwe kuyamikira ndi kuyankha kwanthawi zonse, posakhalapo, adzazindikira kuti wachita chinachake cholakwika, ndipo mwakukhoza kumakonzekera kuyang'anitsitsa, kapena kukuyankhula momasuka ndi iwe.
Poyesa kufufuza zolakwa zomwe zingakhale zakupha pa chikondi ndi maubwenzi ndi amuna, musayang'ane maphikidwe onse. Ife, ndithudi, tinakuuzani za zolakwika zapachikazi, koma kumbukirani kuti palibe chabwino kuposa kukambirana momveka bwino ndi kudziwa zomwe munthu wanu akuganiza kuti ndi kulakwitsa, ndipo samamvetsera.