Mmene mungakhalire ngati chibwenzi chikumana ndi wanu wakale ndikusankha khalidwe labwino? Ndizovuta kwambiri, vutoli ndilopweteka kwambiri. Pambuyo pa zonse, pokhapokha chifukwa chakuti mwataya mnyamata, mumamva kupweteka kwambiri chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika kwa mnzanu. Pafupifupi nthawi zonse (mwachizoloŵezi chosiyana) muzochitika zotero, ubwenzi umatha. Ndipo moyenera choncho. Ndani mwa ife samamva chakukhosi pamene abwenzi athu akuyang'anitsitsa kumbali ya moyo wathu, komwe kunja sikuloledwa kulowa ndi kufufuzira iwo?
Ngakhale patapita zaka zambiri, ndikuiwala kale zomwe zilipo kale ndikukonzanso miyoyo yawo m'njira yatsopano, ambiri sangavomereze ngati mabwenzi awo ayamba kukumana ndi anyamata akale. Nthawi zambiri timakhala ndi chinyengo chakuti tidakali okondeka kwa kale, ndife chinthu chapadera m'moyo wawo, timayenera kukhala malo apadera. Ndipo dziko la ubale wanu ndi iye, lobisika kuchoka pamaso (ngakhale kale lapita, koma osapindulitsa) limatsegulira mnzanuyo,. Ndizomveka kuganiza kuti zochitika zoterezi sizikuphatikizapo mwayi wokhalabe ndi anzanu. Mungathe kukhala ndi anzanu. Komabe, sipangakhale kulankhula za kudalirika. Atsikana ambiri amayamba kudzizunza ndi mafunso monga "kodi amamuuza chikondi chomwecho monga ine?", "Kodi amamukonda koposa momwe amandikondera?". Chidwi chapadera ndi chakuti akale amatha kufotokozera zosafunika za nthawi yomwe mudali pamodzi, ndipo izi ndi zomveka.
Ndipo kawirikawiri zinachitika kuti pokambirana ndi mnzanu mumakambirana ndi mnyamata, iye anakupatsani uphungu, amadziwa zonse zomwe zikuchitika. Mtsikana wina adafotokoza nkhani yowawa yokhudza momwe mnzako anamvera ndikumupatsa uphungu pa zovuta pamoyo ndi mnyamata, nthawi zambiri amalankhula za iye ndipo amadziwonetsa ngati wokonda kwambiri. Komabe, ubale ukangotha, chibwenzicho chinasintha maganizo ake ponena za mnyamatayu ndipo adayamba kukhala bwenzi lakale la mtsikanayo. Msungwana yemwe sanakhudzidwepo sanayambe kuwukwiyitsa amatsenga, komabe, ndithudi anakhalabe sludge wosasangalatsa, ndipo amalankhula mosakayikira za ubale waakazi. Ubwenzi wakale, chidaliro ndi kutseguka kwathunthu tsopano ndilo tsiku lotsiriza, ndipo zomwe zachitika sizoposa china chonyenga. Vomerezani, mu zochitika izi zovuta kuti zikhale zovuta kuchita mosadziwika, ngati mnzanu akukumana ndi wanu wakale.
Komabe, sikuli koyenera kuvutika ndi kulumphira ziwalo zanu, chikhalidwe chokhumudwa kapena chikhalidwe chosasunthika sichinathandize munthu kuchoka pa zovuta. Ndi bwino kutenga kumanga maubwenzi atsopano, kujambulani mzere pansi pa zilakolako zakale, zomangika, zokayika. Azimayi ena amatha kudziletsa ndikudzikweza pamodzi, amayamba kupanga maubwenzi atsopano, akuiwala zonse za poyamba komanso za chibwenzi, popanda kudziwa zambiri za ubale wawo watsopano. Ndipo izi ndi zolondola. Pambuyo pake, ubale wanu watha kale, mwakhala gawo lakale kwa wina ndi mzake, ndipo moyo umapitirira. Masiku akale ndi malingaliro omwe inu mumakondana wina ndi mzake ndiye, ndipo mumakhalabe m'mbuyomu, ndipo simusintha chilichonse mu zomwe zinachitika. Pambuyo pake, zikhoza kukhala kuti bwenzi lanu lidzakumanana ndi wanu wakale, ndipo ali ndi mbiri yabwino, ndipo ubale wanu ndi iye unali kulakwitsa.
Musachite mantha kuvomereza izi ndikupeza mphamvu kuti muyang'ane zomwe zimakuyenererani, popanda kusokoneza moyo wanu wa anthu omwe mumawadziwa. Kupulumuka mavutowa kumatanthauza kubwerera kumbuyo, kukhala ndi maganizo achikulire, kudzaza moyo wako ndi chinachake chakufa kale, osadzimvera chisoni ndi kuganizira zomwe zikutanthauza. Tengani nokha dzanja ndikupita patsogolo, chifukwa chirichonse chomwe chiri, moyo sukhalitsa pamenepo, ndipo iyi ndi siteji yatsopano mmenemo. Ndipo mwinamwake zomwe zimachitika kwa inu, ndizo zabwino zokhazokha.
Kuchotsa zojambulidwa zakale, mukumasula malo a moyo watsopano, ndipo kuyambira pano mudzazindikira kuti chilichonse chiri chotheka. Kuyesera kubwezera kapena mwinamwake kulimbikitsa ubale wa wina - kungowononga nthawi yanu pa miyoyo ya ena. Makhalidwe amenewa angakhale nkhani yabwino ya mafilimu, koma kwenikweni ndizopusa chabe komanso zopusa.
Tsopano inu mukudziwa momwe mungakhalire ngati chibwenzi chikumana ndi wanu wakale. Chitsanzo chabwino ndi mbiri, pamene mzimayi wokondedwa, sangathe kupeza mphamvu kuti apulumutsidwe ndi chidziwitsochi, koma komanso popanda udani ndi udani, atangoganizira zokonza moyo wake. Ndinadzipeza kuti ndine munthu woyenera kwambiri, ndinayamba kumanga ubale wamphamvu ndi iye, ndikukhala wokondwa komanso osadandaula ndi zomwe zinachitika kale, ndinakhalabe pachibwenzi ndi chibwenzi chake komanso poyamba. Zoonadi, kale mabwenzi ndi ubale sizinayenso, monga palibenso zopanda pake zopweteka ndi chidani. Phunzirani kumvetsa maphunziro a tsogolo lanu komanso kuti musataye mtima, mwaulemu muwapatse iwo, ngakhale ngati mnzanu akukumana ndi munthu yemwe poyamba sanakukondereni, ndiye kuti zonse zidzakuyenderani bwino.