Kawirikawiri mumamva kuti: "Mnzako anaika munthu wokondedwa. Ndikufuna kuthandizira, koma sindikudziwa choti ndikanene. " Anthu amasiku ano amawopa imfa ndipo amapewa anthu omwe anapulumuka imfa ya wachibale wao wokondedwa. Osadziwa momwe angachitire, anthu amangobwerera mmbuyo, kuyembekezera kuti munthuyo abwererenso kuzinthu zawo zokha. Ndipo mzimu wokhazikika kwambiri, khalani mawu ndi chithandizo mu nthawi yovuta kwambiri ya moyo.
Mwatsoka, miyambo yakale ya maliro pamaliro akuiwala tsopano. Iwo amaonedwa kuti ndiwongolera, koma pachabe. Mu mwambo wa maliro a zaka mazana apitawo pali tanthauzo lozama, chirichonse chinali cholinga chochepetsa chisoni chakumva ndi mantha. Ndikofunika kukumbukira momwe amayi adayitsidwira ku bokosi la womwalirayo, kubwereza ngati kulira ndikulira mawu ena. Mwambo woterewu unayambitsa misonzi ngakhale pakati pa iwo omwe anali kupsinjika kowawa, kubweretsa detente ndi kumasula munthu ku chisoni mu kuya kwa moyo wawo. Tsopano pakati pa anthu amavomerezedwa kuti "azizungulira" pafupi ndi bokosi, osakhala misonzi, zomwe ndizoopsa kwambiri kwa psyche.
Mkhalidwe wa chisoni
Kumva kuvutika maganizo ndi kuvutika pambuyo pa imfa ya wokondedwa kumatsimikiziridwa ndi magawo enieni. Pokhapokha powadutsa onse, pang'onopang'ono munthu amaphunzira kuthana ndi chisoni ndi kumangokhalira kukhala ndi thanzi labwino. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa momwe masitepewa amasiyanasiyana kuti awone chitukuko cholondola kapena chikhalidwe chazochitika ndi anzawo kapena iwo okha. Nthawi zina pali "osamalidwa" panthawi ina, pamene kale popanda thandizo la alangizi sungathe kuchita.
Kusokoneza ndi kuuma
Icho chimatha pang'ono kuposa sabata. Munthu samvetsa ndipo samavomereza kutaya, sangathe kukhulupirira kwathunthu. Zimadziwonetsera ngati zopanda malire, komanso, pochita zinthu mopitirira muyeso, kukangana. Dziko lachiwirili ndi loopsya, mwa iye nthawi zambiri samamvetsa bwino yemwe ali, komwe iye ali komanso zomwe adzachite. Vutoli ndilokhalanso lokha, koma ndikofunikira kuyang'anitsitsa umunthu.
Munthu ayenera kulira. Mulimonsemo musamuchotse mu bokosi, musafulumire mwambo wamaliro. Iyi ndi nthawi yomwe mungathe kuona nthawi yomaliza. Kulira ndi kubuula pamaliro ndi machiritso, ngakhale kuti sizingakhale zachilendo. M'malo mwake, "mazira" mu chisoni chanu muyenera kuthandiza kulira, kumasuka, kumasula maganizo.
Dana
Kulira kwa pafupi masiku forte. Pambuyo pa nthawiyi, konzani zokhazokha, kusonyeza "kumasulidwa" kwa wakufayo, kuvomereza kuti moyo wake sulinso ndi amoyo. Mwamuna, monga lamulo, amamvetsetsa bwino lomwe imfa yake, ngakhale kuti chidziwitso chake sachivomereza ichi mwa njira iliyonse. Nthaŵi zambiri amamuwona m'kati mwa anthu, akumva mapazi ake. Musaope izi! Zimakhulupirira kuti ndi bwino ngati wakufayo nthawi zina amalota.
Ngati munatayika wokondedwa wanu ndikufuna kumuwona m'maloto, yesetsani kulankhula. Mufunseni kuti alole. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti ngati wakufa sanaganizire nthawi, ndiye kuti kulira kuli koletsedwa. Pachifukwa ichi, thandizo la katswiri wa zamaganizo amafunika. Ndikofunika kuti zonse zokhudzana ndi womwalirayo zisunge. Panthawi imeneyi ndi zachilendo ngati munthu wakulira akulira.
Kulandira kutayika, kupweteka kwa mkati
Sitejiyi imatha miyezi isanu ndi umodzi. Kulakalaka wakufayo kumapita "mafunde": zikuwoneka kumasulidwa, kenaka kumakula. Munthu yekha amene anazindikira chisoni chake, kuyesa kukhala naye, kuyendetsa bwino, ngakhale sikugwira ntchito nthawi zonse. Pambuyo pa miyezi itatu, nthawi zambiri kulephera kumachitika - mphamvu imatha nthawi yomweyo. Munthu amayamba kugwidwa, kutaya mtima, zimawoneka kuti zonse zidzakhala zoipa nthawi zonse, ululu sudzaleka.
Gawo ili limabweretsa kulakwa kwakukulu ("iwe sikunso, koma ndikukhala"). Izi ndizitetezera, kuyesa kwa malingaliro kuti athane ndi vutoli ("Ndili wolakwa, nditha kusintha chinachake"). Koma nthawi zambiri, anthu sangawononge mkhalidwe wa imfa ya wokondedwa wawo, pamapeto pake amangofunikira kuvomereza lingaliro limeneli. Pali zopsa mtima kwa wakufayo ("chifukwa chiani wandisiya?"). Pakuyaka, izi ndi zachilendo, nthawi zambiri nthawi zoterezo ndizokhalitsa.
Nthawi zambiri anthu amawopa ndi lingaliro loopsya, koma limabwera, ndipo liyenera kuvomerezedwa. Chiwawacho chimatenga nthawi yaitali kunja kwa anthu, "olakwa" pakufa kwa wokondedwa. Ndiyesetsanso malingaliro kuti athandizidwe pang'ono. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti kufunafuna olakwa sikuchedwa. Misozi m'masiku ano ndi yochepa. Munthu amaphunzira pang'ono kukhalapo popanda womwalirayo. Ngati njira yakulira ikuchitika mwachizolowezi, wakufayo akulota nthawiyi kale m'njira yosiyana - m'dziko losiyana, pakati pa angelo, osati kunyumba.
Zopereka Zowonjezera
Nthawi yafika. Munthu amadziwa kale za imfa yake ndipo amachititsa wokondedwa wake atamwalira. Mu moyo pali kubwezeretsedwa pang'onopang'ono kwa kale ntchito, kugwirizana ndi ntchito. Pali malo atsopano, anthu omwe mumacheza nawo, munthu amayamba kukhala ndi khalidwe losiyana. Ndi njira yoyenera yopitilira maliro, omwalirayo amakumbukiridwa kukhala amoyo (osati akufa), iwo akumwetulira za nthawi zosangalatsa zomwe amapeza nazo. Pofika kumapeto kwa chaka, munthu amatha kale kulamulira malingaliro ake, mantha ndi ululu.
Kubwereza mobwerezabwereza kwa magawo onse
Zimapita chaka chonse chachiwiri cha moyo. Kuphulika kovuta kwambiri kunachitika m'chaka choyamba cha chaka. Komabe, munthu waphunzira kulamulira chisoni chake, malingaliro ake sali amphamvu kwambiri. Chakumapeto kwa chaka chachiwiri, kutsirizira kwakumverera kwakukulu kumachitika. Chophweka pang'ono ndi chisoni, ngati pangakhale nthawi yokonzekera mkati mwa imfa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati wokondedwa wanu akudwala kwa nthawi yaitali, ndipo zotsatira zake zinakonzedweratu.
Ngakhale masiku angapo a mtundu "wokonzekera" akhoza kuchepetsa kwambiri chisoni cha okondedwa. Chinthu chopweteka kwambiri ndi chopweteka kwambiri chikukumana ndi imfa zosayembekezeka mu ngozi yotsatira. Chosavuta kumvetsa chisoni ndi munthu wokalamba, chofunikira kwambiri, mosakayikira, chisamaliro cha ana. Amuna ndi ovuta kwambiri kuti apeze imfa kuposa akazi. Ponena za ziyembekezo zowonjezera za anthu, iwo "sangathe kulira", pamene misozi ya amayi ndi yachibadwa ndi yomveka kwa onse.
Ngati kulira konseko kumachitika mwachizolowezi, ndiye kuti zaka ziwiri zimatha. Iwo samayiwala za womwalirayo, koma tsopano iwo akhoza kukhala popanda izo. Amakumbukira akufa, kuwala, kuwala, opanda misonzi, kukwiya komanso kudziimba mlandu. Ngati izi sizikuchitika, mungafunike thandizo la katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Imfa ya akalulu
Imfa ya zinyama nthawi zambiri imakhala yowawa ngati imfa ya wachibale. Otsatira pa siteji iyi ndi magawo ofanana a kulira. Chovuta kwambiri, ngati eni ake akuyenera kusankha okha payekha. Izi ndi zovuta kuvomereza, koma pazochitika zotere zimathandiza lingaliro lakuti chinyama, podziwa momwe angayankhulire, mwina chikanafunsa za kuchoka kwake. Ngati chiwetochi chidadwala kwambiri asanamwalire, chisankho chogona ndicho kuchotsa mavuto, ndipo palibe chifukwa choti aphedwe.
Ng'ombeyo inakhala mokondwera ndikukhala pamtendere pakhomo panu, ndipo kudandaula sikudaperekedwa kwa iye. Imeneyi ndiyo imfa yabwino kwambiri ya pakhomo, yopatsidwa matenda opatsirana. Mphamvu ya mlendoyo ikusonyeza kuti chigamulo chovuta chinapangidwa ndi kukonda zinyama, ndikufuna kumupulumutsa kuvutika. Zimathandiza kuchotsa chinthu chaching'ono pokumbukira chiweto. Mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kuthandiza ndalama zinyama zopanda pokhala.