Zikuwoneka bwino: muli wokwatiwa, muli ndi mwana, koma moyo umawoneka kuti simuli wokondwa mokwanira. Chavuta ndi chiyani? Ndipo vuto ndilo kuti pokwatira, tikuyembekezera kuti mwamuna adzatikondweretsa. Ndipo popanda kupeza zomwe tikufuna, timayamba kunena. Ndipo chirichonse chiri chophweka - tenga chimwemwe chanu ndi chisangalalo cha banja mmanja mwanu. Yang'anani kuti mwamuna sali woyipa kwambiri ngati simungakwatirane naye.
Ndi njira ina yofunika yopita ku chisangalalo cha amayi. Mayi ayenera kugwira ntchito, chifukwa chofunikira kukhalapo, kukhala mdziko, mwayi woti adziwonetse yekha ndi kuyankhulana ndi sitepe yopita ku chimwemwe. Mayi ayenera kukhala munthu. Ndiyeno, sizidzamva kuti zilibe kanthu m'mabuku amakono.
Kodi tisowa chiyani kuti tikhale osangalala? Tiyenera kukhala okongola, kukhala ndi chiwerengero chabwino komanso miyendo yabwino. Mzimayi ndi wokhumudwa ndipo moyo wake wonse ndikumangirira. Zimadziwika ngati mukufuna chinachake chochuluka, ndiye zonse zidzatha. Momwemo, mkazi, ali ndi zifukwa zomveka, akhoza kutembenuka kuchoka ku bakha loipa kupita ku chibwibwi chachifumu. Ndipo ngati akusowa, adzakwanitsa zolinga zonse zomwe zimayikidwa m'chikondi komanso ngakhale bizinesi. Pambuyo pake, munthu amationa ife ndi maso ake, ndipo amawona zomwe tikufuna kumusonyeza. Mayi aliyense, ngati mukufunika kupita madzulo, muvale thupi lopitirira muyeso masiku atatu opanda zakudya ndi mapiritsi. Azimayi osauka salipo. Pali anthu omwe amakhulupirira okha komanso osakhulupirira mphamvu zawo. N'zosadabwitsa kuti akunena kuti chimwemwe cha amai ndi chiyanjano ndi iwo eni.
Ife ndi moyo wathu timayendetsedwa ndi chikumbumtima chathu ndi mafano omwe alipo mkati mwathu. Chofunika ndi chakuti chiyambire ubwana. Timatsanzira mosazindikira moyo wa makolo athu ndipo ngati chithunzi cha chimwemwe chimayikidwa muubwana, ndiye kuti palibe mavuto. Pambuyo pake timakhala mogwirizana ndi pulogalamuyo ndikuikapo. Tiyenera kudzifunsa mobwerezabwereza - kodi ndinu okondwa, chimwemwe chimatanthauza chiyani, chimene ndikufuna, mtundu wanji wa ubale ndi munthu, chimene mukufuna kukhala. Chofunika kwambiri, muyenera kumvetsetsa nokha ndi mkati kuti mupange chithunzi cha chimwemwe, m'malo momangoganiza za zoipa.
Chimwemwe sichibwera. Tiyenera kuyesetsa kukhala osangalala. Maganizo ayenera kukhala owala, ndipo mafano ayenera kukhala abwino. Poganizira zochitika zoipa, timadzipangitsa kuti tisakhale ndi mwayi ndipo sitimva chimwemwe ndi chimwemwe cha moyo. Kotero_malingaliro abwino ndi chiyembekezo, ndipo mwayi udzabwera.
Inde, ngati pulogalamu ya chisangalalo sichidakhazikitsidwe kuyambira ali mwana, popeza amayi anu sakondwera muukwati, pulogalamu yoipa iyenera kuthyoledwa, ndi kuyesetsa kwambiri. Ngati mumangoganizira za zinthu zabwino popanda kumvetsa zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto anu, simungathe kusintha kusintha pulogalamu yanu. Amayi ambiri amadziwa kuti ayamba kuchitira amuna awo ngati kuti amayi awo akuchitira nawo bambo awo. Choncho, yesetsani kuyang'ana mwamuna ndi maso ena, ndipo mudzawona kuti sizinthu zoipa. Sinthani maganizo anu kwa iye, ndipo mudzakhala bwino.
Kodi chisangalalo cha mzimayi wosavuta n'chiyani? Kunena izi, musaganize za zomwe zinanenedwa. Awa ndikutanthauzira kwakukulu ndipo aliyense ali ndi zake zokha. Chimwemwe ndi chikondi, kupambana, chuma, banja kapena kungokhala ndi mwamuna. Akazi ndi anthu osakanikirana, ndipo nthawi zambiri sangathe kusankha, ndi zilakolako zawo ndi malingaliro awo. Lero ndiwe wokondwa, koma osati mawa. Ndipo ngati mumvetsetsa, ndiye kuti sitimasowa zambiri.
Choyamba, chikondi . Ndipo sitiyenera kudzilola tokha kukonda, komanso kudzikonda tokha. Palibe chokongola kuposa chikondi. Ndiye moyo udzakhala wowala komanso wolimba. Koma chikondi chiyenera kukhala chenichenicho, ndipo chiyenera kuyesedwa, kusungidwa ndi kukondedwa. Ndipo iwe umayenera kupereka mu chikondi, ndiye iwe udzakhala wachimwemwe pobwerera.
Vo-yachiwiri banja ndilofunikira ndipo ndiloyenera ndi mwamuna ndi ana. Kumva zachisangalalo pamene banja lonse palimodzi, pamene mtendere ndi chikondi zikulamulira ndipo kuseka kwa ana kumveka. Nyumba ya banja ndikutentha komwe kumatichiritsa moyo wake wonse. Banja ndilo mgwirizano wa moyo wathu komanso chimwemwe chimene tapatsidwa. Chimwemwe cha akazi popanda amayi ndi chosatheka, chotero chimakhala mkati mwathu mwa chikhalidwe chokha. Aliyense amamva kuti iye, poyamba, amayi ndi kale, choncho, posankha wokondedwa m'moyo, timayang'ana makhalidwe ake ena. Pa zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino komanso ana anzeru. Chimwemwe cha amai enieni mwa ana.
Chachitatu, ubwino ndi gawo la chisangalalo cha amai. Kukhala ndi moyo, kutonthoza mnyumba, kutentha ndi mtendere. Apa ndi pamene pali mwayi wokhala ndi moyo, osati kukhala ndi moyo. Tikakhala chete kwa ana athu ndikukhulupirira mbuye wathu wamphamvu. Ndi dalitso lotani osati kutcha ambuye, koma chirichonse chimagwira ntchito mnyumbamo. Kukhala ndi moyo monga akunena - kukhala kumbuyo kwa mwamuna kumbuyo kwa khoma lamwala. Mkazi akufuna kukhala ndi ulemu, wopanda mantha kuyang'ana za tsogolo la banja lake. Pano iwo ali, malingaliro omwe amapangitsa chisangalalo cha amayi ...