Tikamakonda munthu, nthawi zonse timafuna kuti munthuyu akhale wosangalala kwambiri. Ndichifukwa chake, powona kuti sangapeze malo ake m'moyo, timayamba kuyesa kumusinkhasinkha, kumulimbikitsa, kumuthandiza. Koma pazifukwa zina, nthawi zonse sitingathe kuthandizidwa ndi kuyamikira. M'malo mwake, akhoza kukwiya ndi kukwiya, kupempha kuti asalowe mu bizinesi yake yomwe. Momwe mungachitire mu nkhaniyi ndi momwe mungathandizire wokondedwa wanu kuti apeze malo m'moyo?
Kodi iye akufuna chirichonse?
Choyamba, kuti chithandizo chanu chikhale chabwino, komanso kuti musamavulaze, muyenera kuyankha moona mtima funso ili: kodi akufuna chiyani kuchokera ku moyo? Ndi zimenezo, osati inuyo. Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti kuchokera kumbali ndi bwino kudziwa zomwe zili bwino kwa munthu. Komabe, mawu awa ali olondola, ndipo kwina ndikunama. Mwina ndi bwino kuti muwone zomwe zingamupindulitse ngati mukuyang'ana pazochitika zachuma, ndipo akuyang'ana zonse kudzera mu ndondomeko ya makhalidwe ake. Choncho musanayambe kumukakamiza kuchita zinazake, onetsetsani kuti samamuvulaza. Izi zimachitika kuti mkazi amawoneka kuti: mwamuna wake sangapeze malo m'moyo, ndipo sakondwera. Choncho, mayi wokondeka amayamba njira zonse zomwe zingatheke komanso zosatheka kukankhira, kukokera ndi kukokera mnyamatayo ku chimwemwe chake. Ndipo pazifukwa zina sakufuna kupita kwa iye, ndipo ngati atero, amakhala wosasangalala. Mkhalidwe uwu, msungwana sangathe kumvetsa zomwe zinachitika, ndi zomwe anachita. Ena amayamba ngakhale kudzudzula anyamata chifukwa chothokoza. Ngakhale, ngakhale kuti, samayamika, ndiye, chifukwa moyo wawo watha kwambiri.
Choncho ngati mukufunadi kuthandiza wokondedwa wanu, yesetsani kumumvetsa. Mverani zomwe akunena, penyani momwe amachitira. Kumvetsetsa kokha zokhumba ndi zolinga za munthu zimapangitsa kuti zithandizire kupeza malo mmoyo.
Sintha
Aliyense akufuna kupanga zosankha yekha. Ngati mumangokhalira kuika maganizo anu kwa wina, posachedwa munthu ayamba kukana. Makamaka ngati ndi mwamuna. Ndikofunikira kuti anyamata adzisankhire okha zomwe akufuna pamoyo wawo. Amayi akamasankha iwo, amanyoza kwambiri amuna. Choncho, ngakhale mutakhala otsimikiza kuti mumadziwa bwino munthu amene mumamukonda, musamamukakamize kuchita zomwe mukufuna. Nthawi zambiri izi zimayambitsa mkangano. chitani zinthu zopusa, musangopitirirabe za mkazi. Choncho ngati mukufuna kuti munthu asankhe bwino, musalankhulepo zachindunji. Sizothandiza pachabe kuti mwambiwo umati mwamuna ndi mutu, ndipo mkaziyo ndi khosi. Muyenera kumutsogolera, koma kuti mnyamatayo aganizire: iye mwiniyo amasankha njira iyi. Choncho, ngati mukufuna kuthandiza munthu wokhumudwa kupeza malo awo m'moyo, yesetsani kuthamanga ndi kusiya. Mwinamwake mudzafunikira mwezi woposa umodzi kuti mubweretse ku chisankho choyenera. Choncho khala woleza mtima ndipo usayese kukwaniritsa tsiku limodzi. Ngati "mumayendetsa akavalo", ndiye, mwinamwake, mzimayiyo sangakumverani kapena kuvomereza maganizo anu ngati chifukwa chokonzera chisokonezo. Choncho, musanene chilichonse mwakamodzi. M'malo mwake, yesetsani kufotokoza malingaliro anu mwanjira yakuti zikuwoneka kuti mukungonena kuti mukuyesera kutsimikizira chinachake mu chinachake. Kuti muchite izi, musayambe kuyankhula zakukhosi kwanu: "Ndikuganiza kuti mukufunikira ...", "Ndikuganiza kuti ndi nthawi yanu ...", "Koma Petya anachita izi, osati ngati iwe." Ndikofunika kuyankhula mwachidule, ngati kuti mukuyankhula za zinthu zosafunikira, mungathe kunena miseche. Mwachitsanzo: "Ndipo munamva kuti Taras anapita kukagwira ntchito ...", "Sindingaganize kuti Vovkasmo ...", "Koma Pasha amakonda kwambiri ...". Ndi mau awa omwe amachititsa anthu kulingalira ngati iwo okha ayenera kusintha chinachake m'moyo, ngati anyamata ena amachita. Kwa amuna, malingaliro a kugonana mwachindunji ndi ofunika kwambiri. Ngakhale iwo sakuvomereza izo mokweza, iwo sakufuna kuti azikhala moyipa kuposa Vova, Petya kapena wina. Choncho, mwa kukambirana koteroko mukhoza kukankhira mnyamata kusintha moyo wake. Musati muyerekeze aliyense, ingonena.
Tithandizani kutamanda
Ngati mwamuna wanu adakali ndi cholinga chofunafuna malo ake m'moyo, nthawi zonse mumutamande ndi kumuthandiza. Mwa njira, pa mphindi ino zikhoza kutuluka kuti iye samachita zomwe inu mumayembekezera konse. Mwachitsanzo, iwo anapanga kuti adzakhala wolemba mapulogalamu wotchuka, ndipo mwamunayo adayamba kujambula zithunzi. Kumbukirani zomwe takambirana kumayambiriro kwa nkhaniyi: kupeza malo anu m'moyo kumatanthauza kuchita zomwe mumazifuna, osati nokha. Choncho khalani okonzeka kuthandizira zosankha zake. Ngakhale mutaganizira kuti izo sizikuyenda bwino komanso zopanda phindu. Kumbukirani kuti kupeza malo mu moyo sikumakhala katswiri wabizinesi wodalirika yemwe amakoka ndalama ndi fosholo. Kupeza malo m'moyo ndikumverera bwino ndi kusangalala ndi zomwe mukuchita. Kotero, ngati inu mukumverera kuti kwenikweni, pansi pa chivundikiro cha chithandizo, mukufuna kubweretsa maloto anu ndi zikhumbo mwa munthuyo, ndiye imani. Nthawi zina, mutha kuyembekezera mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwa nthawi zonse, monga, mwina, simungapeze zomwe mukuyembekeza.
Musalole kuti wokondedwa wanu apite mozungulira ndi mapepala, koma musapitirire-kuyamikila. Ngati mumabwereza mobwerezabwereza, momwe iye aliri wabwino komanso momwe zinthu zilili zabwino, ndiye kuti pamapeto pake, mutembenuzire mbiri yakale, yomwe simukumvetsera, kapena ikuwoneka ngati magwero a mkwiyo. Kotero, kumbukirani kuti chirichonse chiyenera kukhala chiyeso. Mungathe kutsutsa pang'ono, kutchula zolakwitsa zoonekeratu, koma ziyenera kuchitidwa kuti mnyamatayo awonekere: mumanena izi chifukwa chakuti mukudziwa - akhoza kuchita bwino. Ndipo musaiwale kuti munthu aliyense ali ndi khalidwe lake ndipo amadziwa zonse mwa njira yake. Winawake ayenera kutsutsa, wina kutamanda, koma wina akhoza kunena kamodzi kapena kuposera. Choncho, poyesera kuthandizira wokondedwa wanu, chitani zonse ndi diso pazochitika za umunthu wake, lingaliro lakutamanda kapena kutsutsa. Kumbukirani kuti wina amene akutsutsidwa mwamphamvu amasonkhanitsa mphamvu zawo zonse ndi mphamvu zawo kunkhondo, ndipo kwa wina ndi chifukwa choyimira ndikuyika manja awo.
Ngati mukufuna kuthandiza wokondedwa wanu kupeza nokha m'moyo, ndiye dzifunseni nokha: koma kodi mungathe kukhala naye pamene kufufuza kwatha? Kodi zidzakhala zokongola, zanzeru, zokoma mtima kwa inu? Aliyense wa ife ali ndi njira yathu ya moyo ndipo ndikofunikira kuti omwe timamukonda ayende pambali podzifunira. Ngati mumadziwa kuti mumakonda komanso mumamuzindikira wokondedwa wanu mosasamala kanthu komwe angasankhe, ndiye kuti mwatsiriza kale theka la ntchitoyo. Pamene wina ayang'ana pafupi ndi munthu amene amamuyang'ana mofanana, izi zimamulimbikitsa munthuyo kuchitapo kanthu ndikupanga zambiri kuti zitheke. Chabwino, kuwonjezera pa kugawana zilakolako za mnyamata wanu, ndiuzeni, koma musati mukanikize, thandizani, koma musati mutenge chilichonse. Ayenera kupeza malo ake m'moyo mwiniwake, ndipo mumayesa kukhala wokondedwa ndi wokhulupirika kwa iye amene angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi zovuta zonse ndikukwaniritsa zomwe akufuna.