Ndi ndani - awa osamvetsetseka "okwatirana"? Sikuti ndi okhawo amene ali okondwa kulankhula. Mungathe kuyankhulana ndi bwenzi lanu, komanso ndi chibwenzi chambiri. Koma nthawi zina mumakumana ndi munthu - ndi ...
Munthu wokwatirana samakhala kokha pambuyo pa galasi lachitatu. Kwenikweni, chifukwa cha kukhumba ndi kutentha kwa munthu wina (nthawi zambiri - mwadzidzidzi), njira zina zingapo zimayankha. Ndipo ndi bwino kudziwa momwe izi zimachitikira ndi inu. Ndiyeno ora sali ngakhale, munthu wochenjera ndi woganizira amatha kupindula ...
Kotero, anachenjeza - ndiye, ankhondo.
Nthawi zambiri anthu amawayankha:
- Dongosolo lakunja. Zimakhala ngati wachibale, bwenzi laubwana - ndipo tsopano timamukhulupirira munthuyo, ndikukonzekera kunena zinsinsi zathu, kuti tiwone za pafupi kwambiri. Iwo akhoza "kusewera" mwamsanga mwa mawonekedwe a nsidze ku mawonekedwe a maso.
- Mmene mungalankhulire. Osati pachabe NLP-ers amamvetsera kwambiri pomanga mawu komanso amatha kuona momwe interlocutor akunenera. Ngati mumaphunzitsa kwa nthawi yayitali, mukhoza kuyang'anira njirayi, ndipo n'kosavuta kukhala "anu m'bungwe" kwa munthu mu nthawi yochepa. Ndipo iye adzangodabwa kotheratu ndi wokondwa - iwo amati, zabwino bwanji kukomana ndi munthu wokondedwa!
- Mphamvu yomvetsera. Ndizodabwitsa, koma palibe munthu mmodzi amene adazindikira: ndibwino kuti mukhale ozizira ndi kutaya mau anu, mutangokhala mnzanu wokondwa, ndipo aliyense ali wokonzeka kukumana ndi mnzanuyo. Momwe izi zimachitikira ndi zomveka.
Tonsefe timayesetsa kusunga nthawi. Mwamsanga ife timatsuka, timayesana ndi ntchito ndi zina zotero. Koma chifukwa cha "kupulumutsa" nthawi zambiri zimakhala zochepetsera chiwerengero cha zigawo zomwe timaziwona. Choncho pokambirana - kuyesa kufotokozera otsogolera maganizowo, musakhale ndi nthawi yomvera wina ndi mzake.
Kukhala chete kapena kuchitira ulemu kwa mnzako nthawi zambiri kumawoneka ngati chilimbikitso polankhula, ndipo tsopano timadabwa momwe zimakhalira, ndi zabwino kukomana ndi munthu wokondedwa. Ndipo mfundo yonse ndi yakuti ife timaganizira kwambiri. - Chinthu chofala. Timagwirizana osati zofuna zokha - koma ndi malingaliro ofanana pa dziko, makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe abwino. Ngati wina ali wokonzeka kuthandizira, kapena kugawana nawo malingaliro anu - izi ndizochindunji mwachindunji kuti "moyo wapamtima".
- Kumvetsa popanda mawu . Chabwino, izo zimachitika. Musangodzipusitsa nokha pa nkhaniyi. Kaŵirikaŵiri kawirikawiri kutukwana ndi chete "chirichonse, koma zikuwoneka kuti palimodzi timaganizira." Timakonda "kuganiza" kwa munthu wina, zomwe amaganiza, pogwiritsa ntchito kumvetsetsa kwake, malingaliro ake, mfundo zake. Kotero, ife mosakayikira timaganiza "wina". Ndipo anthu olemekezeka samachita monga momwe amadziwika bwino za agogo, agogo aamuna, supuni komanso "mumaganiza kuti ndine woipa!"
- Yankho lolondola / lomaliza. Mwamwayi, mawu akuti "Ndibwino kukomana ndi munthu wokondedwa!" Amabisa chikhumbo chofuna kudzibwezera dziko lapansi. Ndipo kukambirana izi zikuwonetseredwa motere. Munthu amatha kumaliza mawu anu, amapanga ziganizo zofanana kapena ndemanga. Zikuwoneka kuti apa pali - moyo, yemwe amamvetsa zonse!
Ndani angakhale "mzimu wachibale"?
Ndizovuta kwambiri kuti wachibale amvetse "kuchokera ku theka-mawu, kuchokera ku hafu-gono." Tiyenera kupirira izi. Kumvetsa kuti ziwalo za magazi - sizikutanthauza "mtima", anthu ali ndi abwenzi kapena amangolankhula zambiri ndi anzanu.
Munthu akhoza kukhala munthu woyendetsa komanso kuntchito, woyandikana naye amene amawoneka kuti akudziwa bwino ndipo sanaganizirepo chilichonse chatsopano. Mnzanga kapena bwenzi laubwana, mmalo mosiyana, pokhala "zofuna zawo zokha," akhoza kukankhira kutali ndi kusaganizira ndi kusamvetsetsa.
Chenjezo kwa Oyamba ndi amuna achikulire a patsogolo "auzimu"
Pogwiritsa ntchito mfundo zam'mbuyomu, yesetsani kuti musanyengedwe za interlocutor yanu. Ndipo ngati mawa iye akunena mwachisawawa - musataye mtima. Ndi zaka zachinyengo zoterozo zimakhala zochepa - zovuta zimakhudza. Koma miyoyo yokhudzana, yomwe ndi yosangalatsa kukumana mwadzidzidzi, ndi yowona mtima, ndipo ubale umakhala wozama.