Nthawi zambiri timadzifunsa tokha - chikondi n'chiyani? Kodi kulipo konse? Kodi maukwati nthawi zonse amachokera kumalingaliro ndi zomwe zimapangitsa kuti banja likhale losangalala? Anthu awiri osiyana ndi ovuta kuyanjana pa gawo lomwelo, ukwatiwo umatanthauza kupopera kwautali kwa anthu awiri omwe anakulira ndikukula mosiyana.
Zosiyana ndi zizoloŵezi zapakhomo zingayambitse zipolowe zazikulu. Musalenge banja popanda chikondi. Pamene mumakonda munthu, mwamsanga mumvetsetse moyo wake, avomereze zizoloŵezi zake, musamangoganizira zofooka zazikulu.
Chodabwitsa, kuchepa kwa msinkhu ndi kuchepetsa chiwerengero cha maphunziro cha okwatirana, ndikosavuta kumagwirizana. Ndipo ngati anthu awiri akuluakulu atembenuka, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti azizoloŵerana ndi wina ndi mzake, ngakhale pali chifundo. Izi ndizigawo zachilengedwe za banja losangalala.
Ndipotu, zongowonjezera, zikhoza kuoneka, akuluakulu ayenera kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi komanso kukhala osasintha mu ubale wawo, koma zizoloŵezi zomwe zakhala zikuchitika kwa zaka zambiri zimakhala zolimba kwambiri moti sikungathe kusintha. Ndipo amayi nthawi zambiri amafunanso osankhidwa awo: sadapangire thaulo pambuyo pogwiritsira ntchito, kutsegula chubu ndi mankhwala opaka mano, kuponyera masokosi m'malo olakwika, osapachika zinthu pakhomo, osasamba chikho pambuyo pawo ... Inde, palibe zambiri zoti apeze cholakwika.
Choncho, ngati mwasankha kuyambitsa banja ndikukhala pamodzi mokondwera, muyenera kudzipereka kuntchito zonse.
- Moyo
Ndikofunikira kukhazikitsa moyo wamba. Zidzakhala zosavuta kuchita izi ngati mukukhala opanda makolo ndi mamembala ena. Ndipo nthawizonse mupitirize kuchokera ku zomwe mumamverera kwa wokondedwa wanu. Pambuyo pake, kwa wokondedwa mungathe kuchita zonse. Kodi mumadziwa bwanji ngati mumakondadi mwamuna wanu kapena mukuganiza choncho?
- Maganizo enieni
Kumbukirani, kumverera kowona kokha kumabweretsa chisangalalo. Inu mumadzuka m'mawa, mwamuna wanu ali pafupi ndi inu. Mukuganiza bwanji za iye tsopano? Mukuyang'ana pamutu pake pamapewa ake, mumakondwera kumuwona, mumamva mtima wake akumenya, mumapeza chisangalalo chosamukhudza, mumakondwera ndi mpweya wake, mukufunadi kumpsompsona pakali pano m'deralo pakati pa mapewa ndi kupuma mu fungo lake ... Kodi mumakonda kumpsompsona wogona? Ndithudi, ichi ndi chikondi, musati muzeze!
- Nsembe
Kodi mwakonzeka kudzipereka nokha, nthawi yanu, mwayi, zikhumbo, mphamvu za chikondi chanu? Chikondi chenicheni sichichitika popanda nsembe, chiyenera kuphunzitsidwa kuyambira pachiyambi. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti nsembe imatanthauza kuti simukuyembekezera chilichonse, simukusowa malipiro a chikondi, mumakonda popanda zifukwa zilizonse. Inu mumachita zonse kwa wokondedwa wanu yemwe ali mu mphamvu yanu. Ndipo phindu lililonse silingakhale funso. Kokha pa malingaliro otero kungamange banja lolimba. Mkhalidwe wabwino ndi pamene mwamuna akumva mofananamo za iwe. Koma mwamuna amakonda zolakwika pang'ono, mwina sangakhale wokonzeka kudzipereka kwa inu, powangoganiza kuti ndizomwe mumakhala nazo (mwina ndizotheka, ngati titalola kukhala capricious, ndiye kuti tidzachitadi).
Mmodzi sayenera kusokoneza chikondi chenicheni, chimene sichikhazikitsira mikhalidwe, ndi chilakolako kapena kudalira, zomwe sizili zigawo za banja losangalala. Chilakolako n'chokhalitsa, ndipo kudalira sikumapangitsa munthu kukhala wokondwa, mosiyana, akuvutika ndi "chikondi" chotero. Mu kukhudzika kwanga kwakukulu, chikondi chimapangitsa munthu kukhala wachimwemwe, mosasamala kanthu kuti akugwirizana kapena ayi, pafupi ndi inu ndi munthu amene mumawakonda kapena simukumuwona ndipo simumumva kwa nthawi yaitali. Koma ngati muli ndi mwayi wokonza banja ndi wokondedwa wanu, ndiye kuti muyenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama.
Mdani woyamba pa njira yopita ku banja losangalala ndi kudzikonda kwathu. Ndi egoism muyenera kumenyana mwamphamvu. Musaope kukhala ndi moyo kwa ena, musaope kudzipereka nokha kwa okondedwa anu. Chikhalidwe chachikulu sichiyenera kuyembekezera chilichonse. Zochepa zomwe timapanga kwa osankhidwa athu, zimatikonda kwambiri. Ngati mumamuzunza nthawi zonse ndi zofuna kuti muchite chinachake, mukhale winawake, sankhani chinachake, musinthe, mwamsanga amvetse kuti simukumukonda, chifukwa ndi momwe zilili, ndipo Gwiritsani ntchito phindu lanu. Mu
Ndikofunika kuti wokondedwa wanu amve chikondi chanu. Ngati mutachita zonse mwamphamvu popanda kufunsa ena, ena a m'banja lanu azichita zomwezo. Musasowe kukayikira izo, mwagwirizanitsa moyo wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu.
- Mphamvu yokhululukira
Kukwanitsa kukhululukira ndi chinthu china chimene chimapangitsa banja kukhala losangalala. Pangani maubwenzi - nthawi zonse, zovuta kwambiri, chifukwa aliyense wa ife amadziyerekezera kukhala "wapadera ndi wapadera" kwa osankhidwa ake.
Tikufuna munthu wokondedwa kuti azitikonda komanso kutiyamikira, koma nthawi zonse sitingathe. Pali mikangano yaing'ono ya mabanja, zifukwa zazikulu pazifukwa zina, mkwiyo, kusakhulupirira. Ngati ndi kovuta kuti mumvetse chifukwa cha kulera kwanu, chifukwa chiyani munthu wokondedwa wanu amachita izi, ndiye muyenera kuyesa kumukhululukira, makamaka ngati akupempha kuti mukhululukidwe. Sikuti nthawi zonse munthu, ngakhale akudziwa kuti sali wolondola, adzapempha chikhululuko.
Mukhululukireni iye pa nkhaniyi nayenso. Ndipotu, mumamukonda, sichoncho? Kotero, iwe ukusowa ndipo iwe sungakhoze kulingalira moyo wako popanda iwo, ndipo, chotero, kukhudzana kuyenera kukhazikitsidwa ndipo iwe uyenera kuyimika iyo. Mkazi ndi nthumwi wanzeru kwambiri mu ubale wa banja kuposa munthu.
Ndipo nchifukwa ninji mukusowa banja?
Kodi mukufunikiradi banja? Kodi iwe umatanthauza chiyani? Kodi izi ndi mbali ya moyo wanu kapena kodi ndi njira yokhayo yowonjezera moyo wanu? Ukwati si zosangalatsa ndi zosangalatsa, ndi ntchito yovuta, komanso koposa zonse, muyenera kugwira ntchito payekha, pa zolephera zanu, ndipo musayesetse kusintha mnzanuyo.
Phunzirani kukhululukira, kupirira, kukonda, kudzipangitsa nokha ndikudzipangira nokha. Phunzirani kulamulira maganizo anu. Kulamulira mmene mumamvera, nthawi zonse mumamva wokondedwa wanu ndikukumumvetsa. Ngati simunakonzekere zonsezi, simungathe kupirira mavuto a m'banja. Ngati mwasankha kuyambitsa banja, ndiye kuti muyenera kuyesetsa kuti aliyense wa m'banja lanu akondwere. Izi ndizo kwa inu, mumangofunikira chikhumbo chanu.