Kawirikawiri pali zinthu zitatu zomwe mungachite: khalani ndi makolo kapena achibale anu, mutengere nyumba pa ngongole, kapena kubwereka nyumba. Popeza miyezi yoyamba ya moyo wa banja sizimasiyana kwambiri ndi zachuma, ndipo kubwereka nyumba sikutuluka, ndipo sikuli koyenera kunena za ngongole, kodi banja lachinyamata liyenera kuchita chiyani? Ndipo pali njira yoyamba yokhayo.
Ndipo kugwiritsa ntchito ulemu wa ena mwa makolowo, omwe angokwatirana kumene amakwanitsa kutumiza zinthu ku malo omwe amakhala kale. Ndipo pakadali pano, ngati mmodzi mwa okwatirana atsopano amayamba kumangokhalira kukwatirana, ndiye kuti chachiwiri chimayambira njira yovuta kuyanjana ndi moyo wa banja komanso moyo ndi makolo ena. Njira iyi siili bwino nthawi zonse, ndipo mabanja awiri, kuyambira ndi kuchitika, ndi ovuta kugwirizana, koma pali zochitika zapadera. Mulimonsemo, zonse zabwino ndi zolakwika zimapezeka muzokhazikika. Kotero tiyeni tiwaganizire iwo.
Nthawi zabwino.
Nthawi yoyamba yabwino kwa okwatirana angakhale chitsanzo cha makolo. Makamaka ngati anakhala moyo wamtendere mwamtendere ndi mogwirizana. Mfundoyi imaphunzitsa bwino achinyamata omwe ali ndi zifukwa zofunikira zokhudzana ndi maubwenzi komanso kuthetsa mikangano. Chachiwiri, osati chosafunikira, ndicho ndalama. Popeza nthawi zambiri, makolo amachitira mokoma ndalama zambiri zapakhomo zawo, zomwe zimapereka ndalama kwa achinyamata. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti amayamikira chizindikiro ichi ndi ulemu, ndikuyesera kupeza ndalama zogulira, mwachitsanzo, pakhomo pawo, galimoto, tchuthi kapena zambiri za msonkho. Chachitatu, ndipo mwinamwake chofunikira kwambiri, koma panthawi imodzimodzi, chinthu cholakwika ndicho kuthandizana. Chothandiza, izi zingatchulidwe, chifukwa cha kuthekera kwa kuchepetsa mtolo umene umaperekedwa ndi mavuto a m'banja mwa wina ndi mzake. Izi zimathandizanso kwambiri ntchito ya mayi wamng'ono ngati mwana amapezeka m'banja. Agogo ndi agogo aamuna amakondwera ndi mavuto amenewa, pamene amayi omwe angoyamba kubadwa amatha kupumula pang'ono ndikukhalanso amphamvu. Mofananamo, pansi pa kubadwa kwa mwana, kachiwiri kubwerera ku zotsatira zabwino za ndalama. Chinthu cholakwika cha kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake chingatchulidwe, popeza thandizoli silofunika nthawi zonse, kapena siloyenera nthawi zonse. Nthawi zambiri, makolo akhoza kusokoneza lingaliro la "thandizo" ndi "chisamaliro chonse." Kuzoloŵera kumasamalira mwana wawo, makolo amatenga pansi pa phiko ndi theka lina, motero amalepheretsa ufulu ndi ufulu wawo. Ndi bwino kuti kumayambiriro kwa moyo wa banja achinyamata amakhala ndi wina woti afunsane nawo, ndipo kambiranani za mavuto, koma makolo ayenera kukumbukira kuti ziribe kanthu kuti mukuda nkhawa ndi ana anu, ndi moyo wawo, ndipo musasokoneze simudzapemphedwa kuti muchite zimenezo.
Nthawi zovuta.
Monga akunena, pali mawanga pa dzuwa, ndipo ngakhale m'banja loyenera kwambiri, nthawizonse pali chinachake chodandaula. Makamaka ngati pali mabanja awiri. Ndipo kotero tiyeni tiyambe kulingalira zina mwa zolakwika za kugwirizanitsa.
Choyamba, zochitika izi zimakhala zovuta kwa mabanja onse, makamaka ngati makolo sakhala akuwona theka la mwana wawo asanakwatirane, ndipo pali kuthekera kuti ubalewo sungathe kugwira ntchito. Makamaka makolo amafunika nthawi yodziwika ndi ntchito yatsopano, ndipo kale banja la mwana wawo, ndipo banja lachichepere likuzoloŵana, ndipo nthawi yomweyo amayamba kukhala ndi makolo awo. Mwachidule, mwachidule, nyumba zosiyana zimagawanitsa vutoli pakati. Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, kaŵirikaŵiri zimadalira ndalama za banja lachinyamata pa makolo awo. Chizindikiro choyenera, ndi zolinga zabwino za makolo, zimapangitsa kuti azikhala osayamika ndalama za ana, ndipo kenako chiyambi cha kukhazikitsidwa kwa banja lawo. Zidzakhala zomveka bwino ngati makolo amakhala mumsangano wokhazikika pakati pawo, ndipo sakhala nawo nthawi zonse. Ndiye chochitika choyamba chokhala pamodzi sichingatchedwe kupambana. Winawake yemwe ndi wokwatirana ndi makolo awo ali pangozi yopitilirapo, izi ndi kusamvetsetsana, komanso vuto lakale la atate ndi ana. Kawirikawiri chirichonse chimayamba kuchokera nthawi, "koma ife tiri mu nthawi yathu", ndipo chimathera ndi kuwerengedwa kwautali ndi nthawi zina chonyansa.
Inde, pali zina zambiri zabwino ndi zoipa, koma zidzadalira makhalidwe a anthu, kumvetsetsa kwawo ndi kuthekera kuti alowemo. Ndiponsotu, banja lachinyamata liyenera kuchita chiyani ngati palibe nyumba, bwanji osadalira thandizo la makolo? Ndipo makolo akhoza kukumbukira zoyamba zawo, makamaka ngati ayambanso. Kenaka kumvetsetsa kuti banja laling'ono, ngati palibe nyumba, sizosangalatsa kuchita, kumachita ntchito yake.
Ngati mukukhala izi sizingatheke.
Ngati simungathe kukhala ndi makolo anu, yesetsani kupeza njira zina mwachangu mwamsanga. Ndicho chimene akulimbikitsidwa kuti achite kwa banja lachinyamata ngati choncho. Pali mapulogalamu ambiri achinyamata kuti apereke mabanja achichepere okhala ndi nyumba zawo. Inde, kuchita kumasonyeza kuti peresenti ya zotsatira zabwino kuchokera pakuchita nawo mapulogalamuwa ndi ochepa, koma ndibwino kuyesera. Ngati mutatha kupeza ndalama zambiri, mungayesetse kutenga ngongole kubanki, kapena muziigwiritsa ntchito pa malo ogona. Ngakhale kuti ena mwa magawowa angathe kuonedwa ngati owononga, koma ndikukhulupirirani, ndiye simungathe kubwezeretsanso maubwenzi anu ndi mabanja anu pa ndalama iliyonse. Komanso, chinthu choterocho chidzachotsa zina mwazolemetsa za makolo anu, ndi kuwapatsa mwayi wokhala ndi moyo monga momwe akufunira.
Chinthu chachikulu sichikhumudwa, ngati poyamba sichikuyenda bwino, zinthu zakuthupi - izi ndi bizinesi yopindulitsa, kusamalira malingaliro anu ndi maubwenzi. Khalani oleza mtima, omvetsetsa ndi anzeru mwanjira yanuyanu. Ndipotu, pokhapokha mutha kukwaniritsa, kupambana kumeneku ndikoyenera.