Oimira masiku ano a kugonana mwachilungamo amakhulupirira kuti kugonjetsa ntchito yapamwamba ndi ntchito yofunikira kwambiri pamoyo. Zili monga "mtunda wautali wothamanga", momwe mkazi ayenera kupambana, mwinamwake iye adzamva ngati "osamasuka". Inde, ili ndilo lamulo la amayi okhawo omwe adaganiza zopereka udindo wa wosunga nyumba, adapita kudziko la kupambana ndi kupindula kwa ntchito. Lero tinaganiza zongoganizira za ntchito za amayi kuchokera ku maganizo a psychology, kuyerekezera ntchito ndi mpikisano wa marathon. Pamapeto pake, kufanana kwake sikungatheke, chifukwa m'zilankhulo zonse za gulu lachi Romans-Germanic lingaliro loti "kuthamanga" ndi "ntchito" likutchulidwa ndi mawu ofanana.
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Mkazi wopanga ntchito ndi chimodzimodzi ndi zarulm yazimayi: chinthu chosuntha chomwe chimakhala chowopsya payekha ndipo chilengedwe chakhala chovuta. Iye sali wokonzeka kuti abwerere mawa zomwe ziyenera kuchitika tsiku lomwelo dzulo, ndipo chifukwa cha ichi ayenera kukhala kuntchito kuti apambane, yomwe, monga lamulo, ili pafupi ndi chiyambi cha tsiku lotsatira lotsatira, pamene chirichonse chikhoza kubwerezedwa mofanana molondola.
Ndi bwana wabwino, monga lamulo, amasonkhana ndi munthu wamantha, wochenjera komanso wozizira. Makhalidwe abwino onsewa sagwirizana kwambiri ndi khalidwe lachikazi lokha: mwadzidzidzi, osadziŵika, maganizo. Zikakhala kuti mkazi amayesera, mothandizidwa ndi khama lachidziwitso, kuti aphunzitse bwana wabwino mwa iyeyekha, amangochotsa chikhalidwe cha amai mwa iyeyekha. Ndi njira iyi yokha yomwe nthawi zambiri imakhala mkatikati mwa njira ndipo fano la mkazi wopempha-theka-atuluka.
Azimayi nthawi zambiri amakonda kukonda malingaliro awo pa zonse zomwe zikuchitika pozungulira, ponena za "ngati-osati ngati", osati "zofunikira - zosafunikira". Magulu a amayi nthawi zonse amatsogoleredwa ndi okonda abambo, komanso miseche, podsizhivaniya, kukwezedwa kosasokonezeka ndi kutulutsidwa. Ntchito ya antchito ndi yovulaza kwambiri ponena za ndalama kapena zamalonda, ndipo, ndithudi, monga mtima ndi chikhalidwe zimatanthauza. Pomalizira pake, mzimayi wamkazi amakonda kukhala ndi ana ngati kuti ndi ana.
Ndipo kodi zotsala za nyumba ya banja ndi ziti? Chowonadi chakuti vutoli pa moyo wawo ndilo, mabwana a amayi sanganene, chifukwa ichi ali ndi katswiri wamaganizo. Monga lamulo, theka lachiwiri la mkazi woteroyo ayenera kukhala mwamuna yemwe ali wotopa kwambiri. Ichi ndi vuto chabe la kusowa kwa nthawi kwa nthawi yokonzekera, kutsuka komanso kuyeretsa ndalama m'banja. Inde, pali zipangizo zogwiritsira ntchito zapakhomo komanso ndalama zina zomwe munthu wogwira ntchito panyumbamo amachita. Zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kulankhulana, chifukwa nthawi yamadzulo pa ntchito ya olemba ntchito nthawi zambiri imakhala msonkhano wosankhidwa: pa foni (pakhomo ndi pakhomo panthawi imodzimodzi), mavuto amakambidwa ndi wina aliyense monga iwo, ndi "kukhala moyo" ndi moyo wamoyo, nthawizina alibe mphindi yokambirana za nkhani zapadziko lapansi. Ponena za bedi, amaiwa nthawi zambiri amakoka malo awo - "samalemekeza, samayamikira, amakumba" - ndipo "wokondedwa wake" samapereka piquancy kugonana.
Masiku achoka? Monga lamulo, iwo amapita nthawi zonse pofuna "kukulitsa msinkhu": Maphunziro aumwini, masemina, maphunziro ... Ena amapita kukachita nawo masewera olimbitsa thupi, motsogoleredwa ndi kunena kuti amayi omwe ali ndi chiwerengero chabwino ndizosavuta kukwera makwerero othamanga.
Nthawi zina zimakhala kuti mwamuna wa ubiznes-mwamuna, patapita kanthawi, amayamba kumasuka ndikutaya chikhumbo chofuna kupeza ndalama. Inde, izi sizili momwemo, koma zosiyana sizinakonze. Vuto la umayi ndilo "mwala wa pansi pa madzi" m'malingaliro a mkazi workist.
Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimalumphira?
Aliyense amadziwa kuti anthu omwe ali ndi mphamvu zogonana amapanga ntchito kapena ndalama makamaka pofuna kukondweretsa mayiyo. Kufotokozera mwambo wa ntchito ya amayi ndiko kudziimira paokha pa amuna. Monga, lero pali mwamuna, koma mawa palibe. Kotero, careerist akadali kukonzekera kugonjetsedwa payekha. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, kulemba.
Gawo lachiwiri la ndondomeko ndiloti careerist ali ndi banja. Cholinga cha aliyense wa ife ndi kukhala wopanda mavuto. Mkaziyo amatenga gawo la mkango pa nthawi yake kuntchito ndi paulendo wazamalonda (ntchito yowonjezereka, ndondomeko yowonongeka), zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ali ndi zana lokha lovomerezeka pa izi. Mu gawo la kupanga, zinthu zina ndi zina nthawi zina zingathetsedwe mosavuta. Wogonjera si mwamuna kapena mwana, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti sizidzakangana ndi kukangana, zopempha zonse zidzakwaniritsidwa popanda kukangana.
Mkazi wa banja amachititsa ntchito za amayi ake "ngakhale osayang'ana maso" kwa aphunzitsi, sukulu zapadera, aphunzitsi ndi amayi ena opatsirana, pamene akuyenerera ntchito yake yonse komanso ndalama zambiri. Mphotho yabwino, kuphatikizapo phindu lenileni, imakupatsani ufulu wokwanira kuti musamachite ntchito zapakhomo ndikupangitsa kuti mwamuna kapena mkaziyo asamangidwe, ngati akuletsa Mulungu, amapeza ndalama zochepa. Choncho njira yothetsera mavuto onse kudzera mu ntchito yamtunduwu nthawi zonse imakhala yabwino komanso yopanda malire. Ngati mkazi wamalonda akumuyendera bwino, motetezedwa kwambiri amateteza maganizo ake.
Kwa dona mwiniwake, utsogoleri wa utsogoleri kawirikawiri amanyamula zolakwika. Chofunika kwambiri ndi ubale weniweni waumunthu - ndipo iwo, tsoka, sichifikira. Popeza achibale ndi abwenzi akulekanitsidwa ndi iwo pogwiritsa ntchito ndalama zothandizira, ndipo ogonjera amasiyanitsidwa. Chilichonse chimene munganene, vutoli likugwirizana kwambiri ndi kugonjera akazi. Chinthuchi ndi chakuti m'dziko lathu nthawi zina mumatha kukumana ndi oimira omwe ali ofooka, omwe akuphatikizapo gulu la "amai ovuta." Ndipo apa sizilibe kanthu ngati ali akatswiri kapena ayi. Adzakhala mayi wamasiye, izi zidzakhala tsoka lalikulu kwa achibale ake, choyamba, kwa ana.
Ndipo mosemphana ndi izi: oimira zachiwerewere omwe amatha kugwiritsa ntchito moyo wawo wonse - makhalidwe ndi ubwino - chidziwitso, kusinthasintha, kuganizira mozama anthu ozungulira, komanso, kuphatikizapo zinthu zonse zamaganizo zomwe ziri zogwirizana ndi udindo wawo ndi udindo wawo, zikhoza kupitirira "mu mpikisanowu kuti apambane "ndi aliyense, ngakhale munthu wanzeru kwambiri.
Ndipo potsiriza, kwa nthawi yoyamba muzaka masauzande ambiri, akazi ali ndi mwayi wozindikira kunja kwa nyumba, kotero iwo sadzakankhidwanso mmbuyo. Koma monga momwe chiwonetserocho chikusonyezera, chiwerengero cha apulosi amphongo akukula kwambiri! Kodi izi sizomwe zimakhalira kuti akatswiri ochita ntchito m'malo mwa amuna amakonda kukhala okhaokha?