Zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mukhalebe mukuvutitsidwa nthawi zonse muutumiki, akatswiri amatcha psychotraumatic ndikuwalangiza kuti asinthe. Zotsatira zake, mungathe kuchotseratu ena, ena adziphunzira kunyalanyaza, ndipo chachitatu mutha kupeza nthawi zabwino. Kuthetsa vuto lopweteka kwambiri la maganizo, mumayamba kumva zosavuta mu ubale wanu ndi anzako, kulimbikitsa mzimu wanu wogwirizana, komanso panthawi imodzimodziyo. Mwachidule, pangani zofunikira zofunika kuti mukhale ndi ntchito kapena kuti mukhale ogwira ntchito kuntchito. Kodi nthawi zambiri timatidandaula kuntchito?
Zosasamala Zosasintha
Vuto nambala 1 . "Sindingathe kulemekeza" bwana wovuta "."
Kaŵirikaŵiri ndi mavuto nthawi zonse kuntchito akudandaula za atsogoleri omwe amachita khalidwe lachiwerewere: amafuula, amawombera patebulo, amadzilolera mawu achipongwe. Koma iyi ndi imodzi mwa njira zomwe (zomwe, mwa njira, ndizosavuta kuziyang'anira). Bwanayo angadzitengere yekha, atseke, atengeke bwino ndi akuluakulu ake komanso asamanyalanyaze antchito ake. Ndipo ngati iye ali munthu-munthu, koma sangathe kupanga bwino ntchito zopangira, kusintha malamulo ake kasanu patsiku? Kapena kodi zatsimikiziranso kuti nthawi ndi ntchito yake ndi yotani? Zimakhala zovuta kupeza chinenero chofanana ndi mtsogoleri wachisoni.
Tikuyang'ana mphindi yabwino. Posachedwapa, mu malonda a ntchito, olemba ntchito awonetsa zina zowonjezera - kukakamiza kukanika. Ndipo ndi zabwino ziti zomwe zimalimbikitsa chikhalidwe ndi kuthekera kupirira zodabwitsa zosayembekezereka kuposa ntchito motsogoleredwa ndi bwana wopanda ntchito?
Kukonza mkhalidwewo
Mu katatu "inu-ntchito-mkulu" phwando lalikulu liyenera kukhalabe ntchito. Mutu "Kuwongolera" ukuyamba ndi mfundo yakuti mwamsanga muwone momwe zofooka zake zimakhudzira zotsatira za ntchito yanu ndi mkhalidwe wa mavuto osatha kuntchito. Musazengereze kufunsa mafunso ndi kufotokozera magawo, funsani abwana osayenerera kuti apereke CC mwa kulemba, ndipo zowonjezereka zidzakupatsani zifukwa zoyenera zowunika ntchitoyo. Musaiwale kuti abwana aliyense akhoza kukhala ndi zifukwa zambiri za khalidwe "losazolowereka" kuchokera ku zovuta kwambiri pazomwe zimakhala zovuta zathanzi. Inu nokha mulibe ubale uliwonse ndi "mabingu ndi mphezi"! Phunzirani kuzindikira "bwana yemwe akuphuluka" ngati chiwonongeko chodziwika, osati kutembereredwa, ndipo mudzaona kuti kuli kovuta kupirira kukhalapo kwake komanso kuti azichita mwachizolowezi. M'malo modzikuza, kudandaula kapena kukwiyitsa, samangodziwa kuti akuukira kapena mwaulemu, koma molimbika kumupempha kuti apitirize kudzisunga, akunena kuti sagwiritsidwa ntchito kuti akambirane nthawi yogwira ntchitoyi.
Vuto nambala 2 . "Sindikupeza chinenero chimodzi ndi anzanga."
Malingana ndi zofukufukuzo, mkazi aliyense wachisanu ndi chimodzi amadana ndi ntchito yake, chifukwa sangathe kulowa nawo limodzi kapena kulowa "terrarium".
Ndikufuna nthawi yabwino
Ganizirani kuti mukuphunzira "maphunziro aumunthu" ndipo mumalipiritsa izi (malipiro)! Tsiku lililonse mutenge njira yoyenera kwa membala aliyense, pangani njira zothetsera mavuto, kuthetsa mikangano, kusunga maganizo ndikugwira ntchito mu gulu loipa ndi sukulu yabwino kwambiri. Mphamvu ya chikhalidwe ndi luso loyankhulana lomwe limapangidwira mwa iye lidzakupangitsani kukhala ndi umunthu wamphamvu ndipo lidzakuthandizira m'tsogolomu. Mwachitsanzo, pamene inu nokha mukhale mtsogoleri.
Timakonza vutoli. Kuyesa kubwezeretsa miseche, kukangana, osayera, waulesi ndi nahalok ndibechabechabe. Ndi bwino kuyesetsa kuti mutha kugwira ntchito mwakhama, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kugwira ntchito mwakachetechete, osakhala ndi mavuto osatha kumalo ogwira ntchito, osagwirizana nawo kulimbikitsana kulikonse komwe simukulimbana nawo komanso osamenyana ndi mphindi iliyonse kuchokera ku zida za wina. Choyamba, khalani oyenerera kuti musakhululuke, kachiwiri, penyani mavuto a anthu ena, perekani thandizo lanu ndi chithandizo. Mwinamwake, chilengedwe mu ofesi sichitha kusintha, koma, palibe, wina aliyense adzakukhudzani. Ndipo ganizirani za chinthu china. Kodi mumatsimikiza kuti anzako ndi oipa, koma ndinu osadabwitsa kuti ndi zabwino (zokoma, achangu, akatswiri ...)? Mwinanso mungakonde kudzigwira nokha?
Vuto nambala 3 . "Sindikumvetsa zomwe ndikuchita ndipo ndani akufunikira."
Ntchito sichitha konse. Choipa kwambiri, inu simuli ndi udindo pa chirichonse, ndipo malingaliro anu amangosalidwa. Mungathe kuchita zambiri komanso zabwino kuposa momwe mukudalira, koma mulibe mwayi wodziwonetsera nokha ndikuwonetsa kuti mukuchita bwino. Ndipo pang'onopang'ono mumakhala opanda nzeru za zomwe zikuchitika muofesi ... Tikuyembekezera nthawi yabwino. Kwa yemwe samayankha kanthu, samaika katundu wolemetsa. Mukhoza kumasuka, mwapanga ntchito yochepetsera ndikukonza mavuto anu mofanana: fufuzani zosankha kuti mugule (kugulitsa) nyumba (magalimoto, malaya a nkhosa) pa intaneti, konzekerani tchuthi lanu, mudzadzipange nokha ... Ngati muzindikira kuti nyengoyi ndi yosasintha, ntchitoyi siidzatsogolera kukanidwa kwakukulu. Ntchito zopanda nzeru sizimafuna kuika mzimu mkati mwawo ndi kuwononga maselo a mitsempha. Zoonadi, kwa nthawi yayitali kuti mukhale ndi akatswiri a maganizo a maganizo, simungalimbikitse - mungathe kutaya ntchito yeniyeni, yeniyeni ndi kumvetsetsa.
Timakonza vutoli. Kutaya chidwi pa zomwe zikuchitika kuntchito ndi chizindikiro chowopsya. Monga lamulo, kusalabadira koteroko kumathera ndi kukwiya kosalekeza, kulira ndi kudandaula kwa ena. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Pitani kukagwira ntchito kumutu kumbuyo. Yang'anirani zonse, funsani zomwe mukuchita mothandizidwa ndi mabuku apadera, funsani otsogolera kuti afotokoze bwino ntchito. Khalani chizindikiro cha luso ndi kudzipereka ku ofesi yanu. Chitanipo choyamba: ganizirani za ntchito zomwe mungadzipange nokha, phindu lanu ndi lanu kuti muphunzirepo. Ganizirani za ndondomeko yoyenera yogwirira ntchito komanso chidwi chawo. Komanso, fotokozani momveka bwino nthawi yomwe ntchito yanu iyenera kuyendera. Pamapeto pake, perekani zotsatira za zoyesayesa zanu ndikupempha malo atsopano kapena kuwonjezeka kwa malipiro anu. Chabwino, ngati mwakana, yambani kufunafuna ntchito ina.
Vuto nambala 4 . "Sindimakonda bungwe la ntchito."
Tili ndi mavuto akuluakulu awiri: ntchito yopanda malire komanso ndondomeko yosasinthika. Amatsindika zonsezi ndi zina. Tikuyang'ana mphindi yabwino. Pamene muli muofesi, ndikosavuta kusonkhanitsa ndi kupanga ntchito imodzi. Pali kusowa kwa nthawi, ndipo anzanu akupuma kumbuyo kwa mutu. Kawirikawiri ndi zabwino chifukwa amapereka mwayi wobweretsa ntchito yawo kuti ikhale yosintha. Ndipo pochita ntchito ndi inertia, mukhoza kuganizira mozama kwa munthu wakunja, koma kwa inu enieni. Wopambana pa filimuyo "Mu Chikondi pa Chifuniro", maola 8 pa tsiku akuwongolera pa zipangizo zamakina, malingaliro ophunzitsidwa ndi magalimoto ndipo kuyambira nthawi ina anayamba kupambana pa nkhaniyi. Chimene, potsirizira pake, anasintha moyo wake ndi umoyo wake kuti akhale wabwino. Timakonza vutoli. Kuti mupewe vutoli, mofananamo perekani mulandu mkati mwa sabata (mwezi). Funsani maphunziro oyendetsa nthawi, kumene inu mudzaphunzitsidwa kuti musankhe patsogolo. Ngati ili ndi lamulo la utsogoleri wanu, funsani "ogwira ntchito" kuti athandize ndi / kapena kulipiritsa nthawi yowonjezera.
Kodi wasokoneza chizoloŵezi? Kodi ndi chifukwa chakuti mukuchita chinachake chomwe "sichikukondweretsani inu? Ndiye muyenera kusintha ntchito. Ngati chizoloŵezi chakhala chinthu chokondeka, ndi chizindikiro cha kukula - mwakhala mukufika padenga lanu lazamalonda ndipo mukufunika kupitiliza. Ndipo osati kunja kwa chipata cha ofesi ya kunyumba. Ngati mutayesa, nthawi zonse mumatha kupeza njira zodzidzimangira nokha.
Vuto nambala 5 . "Ndili ndi malipiro ochepa kwambiri."
Ndibwino kuti ntchitoyo ndi yosangalatsa, komanso ndi ogwirizana kwambiri, ndipo bwana ndi wodzipereka kwambiri - m'mikhalidwe yotereyi ndizotheka kuyendetsa mapiri. Koma changucho chidzachepetsedwa kwambiri, ngati simungapeze "kanthu" patsiku lomwe mulandira malipiro anu. Tikuyang'ana mphindi yabwino. Ngati muwerenga malipiro anu motsutsana ndi chiyambi cha ndalama, nenani, Paris Hilton, ndiye kwenikweni, osati kwa nthawi yayitali ndikupenga ndi chisoni. Koma ngati mukulingalira molakwika ndikuyerekezera malipiro anu ndi malipiro a bwenzi la msinkhu womwewo, zingakhale bwino kuti mumalandira kawiri pa mwezi kuposa momwe amachitira. Onetsetsani msika wogwira ntchito: Ngati ndalama zanu zikufanana ndi ndalama zambiri zomwe mumapeza mu malonda anu, kudana ndi ntchito pazifukwa zachuma ndizosalungama.
Timakonza vutoli. Musanayambe kupita kuntchito yopindulitsa kwambiri, ganizirani zomwe mungathe kuti mutuluke muntchito lero. Mwina, mutha kutenga maudindo ena ndipo mumalandira zambiri? Kapena kodi mupite kwa bwana ndikukambirana mozama za kuwonjezeka kwa malipiro kapena malipiro ochepa, ngati muli oyenereradi? Ndipotu izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala vuto la maganizo. Mukufuna kulandira zambiri, koma simukudziona nokha. Chifukwa chiyani?
Wachiwiri wa bungwe la Paris Psychoanalytical Association Ilana Reis-Schimmel anati: "Chifukwa cha mantha a chilango: kutayika kwa malo a akuluakulu, kuthamangitsidwa," adatero munthu wina wa bungwe la Paris Psychoanalytical Ilana Reis-Schimmel, "Ngati munthu akudzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu pamene akupempha kuti apeze malipiro ake, ndiye chifukwa chake ayenera kuyesedwa powasakaniza zithunzi za abwana ndi abambo: kholo limamva ngati loopsya. " Pachifukwa ichi, muyenera kuganiziranso momwe mumayendera kwa bwana, nokha komanso kuchokera pambaliyi mpaka kukula kwa malipiro. Kudzichepetsa kumachepetsa chilakolako. Ngati simunakonzekere kuitanitsa chiwerengerochi-mungakonde kulandira mwezi molimba mtima, mokweza komanso momveka bwino, mukuyang'ana maso a bwana, simungapeze zambiri kuposa tsopano. Osati pa ntchito iyi, kapena pa ina. Chikhumbo chopeza malipiro abwino nthawi zonse chimayambira ndi kukula kwa kudzidalira - kumbukirani izi.
Kodi simukukonda kwambiri ntchitoyo ndipo mwachionekere sichikugwirizana ndi zomwe mukufuna? Chabwino, yang'anani latsopano! Pakalipano, yesetsani kusinthasintha zomwe zilipo ndikuyesera kuti mupindule nazo. Mwachitsanzo:
- konzekeretsa malo ogwira ntchito ndi chilimbikitso chokwanira, chifukwa kukhala kwanu pano kungakokedwe;
- kukhazikitsa maulendo a bizinesi, kupeza othandizira othandizira, kutumizira malingaliro ndi mayankho abwino;
- yonjezerani ziyeneretso zanu: kupita ku seminala, maphunziro, maphunziro - zidziwitso zomwe mwapeza zidzakuthandizani mtsogolomu;
- musagwire ntchito pamanja, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito, ndipo m'tsogolomu simungathe kugwira ntchito mosiyana, ngakhale m'malo atsopano;
- Musaphonye mwayi wokonza kapena kusintha moyo wanu, banja lanu: pamene padzakhala ntchito yina, yosangalatsa, nthawi ndi khama kuti mumange ubale ndi abambo ndi ana omwe mudzakhala nawo pang'ono.