Kusankha ntchito
Kusankha ntchito ndi chisankho chofunikira kwambiri, chifukwa ndi njira yomwe munthu angapite kwa zaka makumi anayi za moyo. Ndili ndi zaka 18, ochepa amakhala okhwima mokwanira kuti asankhe mwanjira imeneyi. Kuphunzira ku yunivesite kudzakupatsani mpata womvetsetsa zofuna zawo. Sizodziwika kuti njirayi imayambira ndi ochepa "abodza amayamba", chifukwa mnyamatayo amafunika nthawi kuti azilekanitsa zokhazokha kuchokera kwa ziyembekezo za makolo ake. Pokonzekera ntchito, wachinyamata nthawi zambiri amatengeka ndi kusowa chidaliro kuti adzakwaniritsa. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wina, anthu omwe amaima pamunsi pa ntchitoyi amakhala ovutika kwambiri kuposa omwe ali ndi udindo wapamwamba. Mwachitsanzo, nkhawa yaikulu. Wofumba wamng'ono kwambiri kuntchito amakhala ndi mantha ambiri. Kuyamba mu kampani ndi chilango chokhwima ndi ndondomeko yeniyeni ya tsikuli ndikumvetsa kwa ambiri.
Ufulu wa zachuma
Achinyamata ambiri kwa nthawi yoyamba pamoyo wawo amakhala odziimira paokha. Popeza kulandira malipiro ndi malipiro ena sichidalira makolo, amasankha momwe angagwiritsire ntchito ndalama zawo. Nthawi zina pamene mumayamba kugwira ntchito muyenera kusamukira kumzinda wina, womwe umakhala nawo malingaliro atsopano. Komabe, izi zimachitika chifukwa cha zovuta zenizeni - mwachitsanzo, kufufuza mosamala kwa nyumba popanda thandizo kwa makolo. Maphunziro apamwamba amapanga chizolowezi cha ufulu wapadera. Kusankhidwa kwa maphunziro a sukulu komanso ngakhale kupita ku maphunziro kumadalira kwathunthu wophunzira. Pa mitengo yamakono yamakono a nyumba, makamaka m'mizinda ikuluikulu, kugula nyumba yanu kapena nyumba nthawi zambiri kumawoneka ngati cholinga chosatheka. Kwa achinyamata ambiri izi zikutheka pokhapokha ndi chithandizo cha ndalama kuchokera kwa achibale. Kusiyana kwa ubale waumwini, kufooka kwa mabwenzi apamtima kumapangitsa mavuto osapeweka.
Anzanga atsopano
Ubwenzi wothandizira womwe umamangiriridwa nthawi zambiri umakhala moyo. Kulowa ku yunivesite, mnyamata amakhala pakati pa anthu atsopano omwe sali okhudzana ndi banja. Kwa nthawi yoyamba ali pakati pa iwo omwe adasonkhana palimodzi chifukwa cha zofanana. Yunivesite ndi malo abwino oti mudziwe ndi anthu a msinkhu wanu, ogwirizanitsidwa ndi zofunikanso. Anzanga a zaka za ophunzira nthawi zambiri amakhalabe mabwenzi a moyo.
Pezani Wothandizana naye
Achinyamata ambiri amasankha anzawo apamtima pakati pa iwo omwe amaphunzira nawo kapena kugwira ntchito pamodzi, koma kufufuza kumeneku kungayambane ndi mayesero angapo olephera. Achinyamata ena amakhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri, ena - ndi ochepa chabe. Pokonzekera moyo wapadera, achinyamata amayamba nthawi yochuluka ndi wokondedwa wawo kapena mnzawo kusiyana ndi mabwenzi awo. Malinga ndi kafukufuku, anthu ambiri amasankha wokondedwa wawo omwe ali ndi chiwerengero chofanana cha maphunziro komanso kuchokera kumalo amodzi. Komabe, chitsanzochi chingakhudzidwe ndi zinthu monga maonekedwe ndi chuma chamtendere. Kufikira zaka makumi atatu, anthu amabwera kudzabwezeranso ubale wawo ndi makolo awo. Ambiri amayamba kuyamikira thandizo la makolo ku miyoyo yawo. Kwa iwo omwe sali okonzeka kupanga mgwirizano, chikwati chokwatirana ndi mwayi wophatikizapo ubwino wokhala pamodzi ndi ufulu wapadera.
Moyo Wothandizana
Ndondomeko yopezera maphunziro kotero "akukoka" msinkhu, kuti moyo wothandizana asanalowe m'banja umakhala mtundu wamba. M'nthaŵi yathu ino, pamene chilolezo cha chiwerewere sichitengera kusagwirizana ndi anthu, ndipo chiletso cha chipembedzo chimachepa, achinyamata ambiri samakonda kukwatira. Chifukwa chachikulu chokhalira awiri ndikuteteza anawo kuti asamalidwe kawiri ndi makolo awo onse. Komabe, iyi ndi njira yovuta, yomwe imakhala yoopsya nthawi zonse kuti ikhoza kusakhulupirika, kutha kwa ubale kapena kusudzulana.
Kudalira makolo
Pambuyo pa zaka 20, ambiri amapeza kuti akudalira makolo awo, makamaka pamene akuvutika. Kuonjezera apo, ponena za kukwera mtengo kwa nyumba, achinyamata ayenera kukhala ndi nthawi yaitali ndi makolo awo kapena kubwerera kwawo atatha maphunziro awo ku yunivesite. Ngakhale iwo omwe amakhala mosiyana, nthawizina amapitiriza kudalira ndalama pa makolo awo. Kukula kwa umunthu kungathe kuonedwa ngati motsatira magawo ena a moyo, omwe aliwonse akukhudzana ndi kutuluka kwa mavuto enieni a maganizo. Ali ndi zaka 30, achinyamata ambiri amakhulupirira kwambiri chigamulo chawo ndipo samagwirizana kwambiri ndi kuvomereza kwa makolo. Amayamba kuona munthu mwa amayi awo kapena abambo awo, ndipo kuyendera kunyumba kwawo kumakhala nthawi yochepa. Makolo ena amakumana ndi vutoli. Panthawi imeneyi, ubale pakati pa mayi ndi mwana ukhoza kukhala wovuta kwambiri. Kawirikawiri mayi amakhala ndi malingaliro ake momwe angakhalire ndi mwana wamkazi. Mtsikanayo amayesetsanso kukhazikitsa udindo wa mkazi wachikulire.
Kubadwa kwa ana
M'mabanja ambiri, kusiyana pakati pa ana ndi makolo ndi kochepa. Maonekedwe a zidzukulu nthawi zambiri amatsogolera ku mgwirizano wa mibadwo itatu yonse, ngakhale chizoloŵezi chowongolera mwamuna m'banja la mkazi. Komabe, agogo aamuna ndi ambuye samakonda kusokoneza nthawi yawo kuthandiza maphunziro a zidzukulu. Kukalamba kuyandikira kwa makolo kumabweretsa kusintha kwa maubwenzi - tsopano maudindo awo amapita kwa ana. Zovuta zapakhomo ndi zachuma zokhudzana ndi kusamalira makolo odwala zikhoza kukhala zovuta mwamakhalidwe, mwakuthupi ndi zachuma. Nthawi zambiri anthu amang'ambika pakati pa zosowa za ana awo ndi makolo awo.
Kupitabe patsogolo
Kukula kwa anthu sikutha ndi kutha kwa ubwana ndi unyamata. Mwamuna yemwe ali ndi zaka 17 mpaka 40 pamene akukula akudutsa mu magawo anayi. M'nthawi yoyamba (kuyambira zaka 17 mpaka 22), amakhala wovomerezeka ndi makolo ake ndipo amazindikira "maloto" ake. Atadzikhazikitsa yekha monga wamkulu, amayamba "kulota maloto" - amapanga ntchito, amadzipeza yekha, ndipo nthawizina - amapeza banja. Pafupifupi zaka 28, nthawi yowonongeka kwa makhalidwe amayambira, nthawi zina kumatsimikizira kuti zolingazi sizingatheke. Gawo lotsiriza (kawirikawiri likubwera pafupi zaka 40) ndi nthawi yosinthika kuti ikhale bata. Moyo wa mkazi sungadziwikeke kwambiri chifukwa cha kubala ndi kusintha kofanana pa ntchito zaumisiri, kotero zimakhala zovuta kwa akatswiri a maganizo kuti aweruzire kukhalapo kwa magawo otere mu chitukuko chake. Moyo wachikulire umaphatikizapo mavuto a zachuma okhudzana ndi kubweza ngongole ndi ngongole. Pofuna kupeŵa mtengo wapamwamba wochokera paokha, achinyamata nthawi zambiri amapitirizabe kukhala ndi makolo awo.