Kuopa kutaya kukongola
Mkazi aliyense amadziwa kuti kukongola kwakunja sikungakhale kwamuyaya. Amaopa kutaya chidwi chake. Chifukwa chake, chimodzi mwa mantha aakulu kwambiri azimayi ndikuopa kutaya kukongola kwawo.
Mosakayika, munthu aliyense amafuna kukhala, poyamba, kuyamikira mtendere wamkati ndi makhalidwe abwino. Nanga amai amagwiritsa ntchito chiyani kuti akope chidwi kuchokera kwa amuna? Kodi dziko lolemera lili mkati? Kodi kuyitanitsa kwina kungatheke? Zakachitika kuti amuna poyamba amvetsere maonekedwe a mkazi. Mafilimu ndi zodzoladzola zakonzedwa kuti zigogomeze kukongola kwa thupi lachikazi, lomwe limaperekedwa kwa anthu.
Kukhalabe wachinyamata, amai samapewa ndalama, zonse zakuthupi ndi zamaganizo. Amakhala pa zakudya, amapanga opaleshoni, amagula mapiritsi osiyanasiyana, kusamba, kupanga maski ndi zina zambiri. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, iwo ali okonzeka kudzipereka kuti apitirize kukongola, ndipo akugonjetsedwa ndi chikhalidwe cha chaka.
Kukongola kuli ndi mitengo yapamwamba. Mwachitsanzo, kutayika chinthu chofunika kwambiri mu ndondomeko ya ndalama ndikumvetsa chisoni, koma kutaya kukongola kwake kumakhala koopsa kwambiri. Chinthuchi chikhoza kugulidwa, ziribe kanthu momwe zingakhalire zodula, koma kukongola kumakhala kokha ndi phindu lalikulu.
Akazi amaopa kutaya chida chawo chachikulu chokopa amuna. Ngakhale kuti sanadye, nthawi zonse amadziona ngati wangwiro. Chinthu chachikulu apa ndi chakuti chilakolako chofuna kulemera sichitha kukhala chovuta.
Azimayi ena, poopa kuti adye mafuta, amayamba kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena amakhala pa zakudya zovuta. Choncho, pamodzi ndi kulemera kwakukulu, musiye mphamvu, thanzi ndi mphamvu. Pamene mantha akukhala bwino amakhala amphamvu kwambiri pa imfa, matenda a anorexia amawonekera.
Kuopa kutaya kukongola sikungatheke, koma kungakhale kothandiza. Mwachitsanzo, kuopera kulemera ndi kutaya zokopa kumapangitsa atsikana ambiri kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, mosakayika ndizolimbikitsa.
Ndiye yankho lake ndi yanji? Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti ziribe kanthu momwe mumalimbana ndi chirengedwe, nthawi zonse zidzatenga zake zokha. Kukongola koona kuyenera kuwonedwa mkati, osati kunja. Kenaka kuopa kutayika kunja kumatha kukhala koyenera. Ndikofunika kuti thupi lanu likhale ndi mawonekedwe abwino komanso kuti musamalipire ndi chidwi chofuna kusunga kukongola.
Kuopa kutenga mimba
Amayi ambiri amaopa kutenga mimba. Makamaka, osakonzedweratu. "Mwadzidzidzi iye sakufuna kukwatira?" Iwo amaganiza. Mwamsanga amawoneka mantha a kusungulumwa ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi kubereka.
Mimba ndi yabwino ndipo siyenera kuopedwa, ngakhale kuti amayi ambiri amawopsezana ndi nkhani za zoopsa za kubala. M'malo mwake, munthu ayenera kusangalala kuti chilengedwe chachita bwino, chifukwa anthu ena sapatsidwa chimwemwe choterocho. Zimanenedwa kuti ngati mayiyo ali wokondwa, maphwando amatha mosavuta, ndipo ana amabadwa osangalala. Koma izi sizimakhulupirira ndi amayi onse.
Akazi ena amapeza phindu poopa kutenga mimba. Kodi izi ziyenera kumveka bwanji? Mwachitsanzo, mayi akhoza kunena kuti amaopa kubereka kuti amve chisoni. Izi zimayambira makamaka ku mavuto a moyo wa munthu. Azimayi osalimba mtima, osasowa thandizo la anthu oyandikana nawo panthawi yovuta, akuyang'ana njira zowonjezera zopezera thandizo laumwini. Pambuyo pa zonse, dziweruzireni nokha - mukhoza kuuza anzanu, achibale anu, okondedwa anu ndipo adzakumvetsani, iwo adzakuthandizani ndipo adzatsanulira mawu ofunda. Mwamuna angathe kuthandizira ndi kukhala ndi chifundo. Mwa njira, amuna amakhalanso ndi mantha ndi mantha awa enieni. Pambuyo pake, chirichonse chozungulira iye ndi chonyansa: zambiri zomwe zimakangana ndi kukangana za mimba iyi; Udindo waukulu kwambiri uli pa mapewa a munthu; kuzungulira mkaziyo amamvetsa ndikumva chisoni.
Ngati tifunsa funso lokhudza zomwe zili "mantha", ndiye kuti tikhoza kupereka yankho motere: mantha awa ndilo gawo lachidziwitso chothandizira komanso kumvetsetsa. Kuchokera apa tingathe kunena kuti nthawi zambiri pamene mayi amadandaula chifukwa choopa kuti ali ndi mimba, amangoona kuti alibe chidwi ndi ena. Mukudziwa ... Zomwe zimachitika kuti mantha asanakhale mimba amatha pokhapokha ngati munthu wokondedwa amamukonda komanso nthawi zonse adzamuthandiza pa nthawi yovuta. Ngati mutatopa ndi mantha, ndiye kuti mwina mukuyenera kuopa ndikusamalira moyo wanu? Mwinamwake tiyenera kuyamba kulimbitsa ubale wathu ndi anthu apamtima? Kenaka kuopa kutenga mimba nebudet kukhala kwanzeru.
Kuopa matenda
Kuopa matendawa kumagwirizana kwambiri ndi kuopa kutaya kukongola. Tinganene kuti ichi ndi chimodzi mwazochita. Kawirikawiri akazi saopa za kudzikonda, koma zotsatira zake: kusiya kukhala okongola (kutanthauza kutaya amuna), kuti asafunike kapena kufa - kufa.
Kodi mumagwirizana ndi chiyani "mantha"? Mwinamwake, pa chifukwa china, choipa ndi chosasangalatsa. Ngakhale izi, kuopa matenda kumateteza thanzi lanu. Amamvetsera nthawi zambiri za thanzi lake, ayendere madotolo abwino, ayese mayesero, athandizidwe. Pa moyo umakhala wotopetsa ndipo patatha chaka chimodzi mukhoza kubwereza kafukufukuyo. Kusamala kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino, mosakayikira, ndibwino. Zimakhala zoipa pamene kuopa matenda kumasanduka maonekedwe ndipo kumalepheretsa kukhala moyo wabwino.
Azimayi mwachilengedwe amapatsidwa chizoloŵezi chodandaula kwambiri za kukhala ndi thanzi labwino. Malingana ndi chiwerengero, moyo wa mkazi ndi wamkulu kuposa wa mwamuna. Amuna monga oimira kugonana amphamvu amakhala ndi chizoloŵezi chochita zachiwawa, zovuta kwambiri zimatha kupanga mikangano yosiyana. Choncho ali ndi chiopsezo chachikulu chofa chifukwa cha imfa yamantha. Akazi, mosiyana, kawirikawiri alibe chizoloŵezi choterocho. Iwo ali ochepetsetsa, ofooka komanso opindulitsa kwambiri.
Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti mantha a matendawa amasonyezedwa kuti amve chifundo, kuthandizira ndikukopa chidwi kwa ena. Akufunsidwa ndi funso "Kodi matenda ndi chiyani?" Ife timabwerera ku yankho la funso lakuti "Kodi kuopa mimba ndi chiyani?".
Zikuwoneka kuti nthawi zambiri mantha awa ali ndi mkazi yemwe ali ndi moyo wake wosasokonezeka. Choncho, ndi bwino kuganiziranso mgwirizano pakati pa anthu omwe akugwiritsira ntchito mobisa komanso kumanga moyo wanu. Ndiye mantha a matenda adzatha.