Ubale wabwino ndi apongozi ake ndizotheka, zovuta, ndi ah, ngati mukukhala mosiyana. Koma nanga bwanji ngati pali malo amodzi okha komanso mwini nyumbayo? Zonse zanu "maloto a pinki" zokhudzana ndi moyo wa banja zingagwe mu mphindi, ngati amayi anu akufuna kuchita izo.
Njira yabwino yosungira banja losangalala ndi maubwenzi abwino ikusamukira ku nyumba yogona. Uwu ndiwo kusankha ambiri mabanja omwe akhala pansi pa denga limodzi ndi makolo awo kwa miyezi yambiri.
Inde, pali amayi abwino kwambiri omwe sangasokoneze miyoyo ya ana, "osaphunzira kukhala ndi moyo" samakwera ndi malangizo awo ndipo musalowe m'chipinda popanda kugogoda. Koma ichi ndi njira yabwino, ife, tikukambirana za momwe zinthu ziliri bwino.
Mu miyezi yoyamba ya moyo wanu pamodzi, apongozi anu adzakutsatani mwatcheru. Tidzawona zolephera zonse, zozizwitsa ndi zolakwa. Ngati simukudziwa kuphika, osakonda kutuluka kapena osadziwa kusokera mabatani, konzekerani kuti "amayi" ayambe kukuphunzitsani.
Mlamu anga apanga kale maganizo ake pa inu. Mwinamwake, amakhulupirira kuti "siwe mwana wake wokondedwa." Koma popeza mwanayo anasankha mkwatibwi, zikutanthauza kuti adzayenera kuukitsidwa. Mwachidziwikire, iwe, munthu wamkulu, izi zidzayamba kukwiyitsa. Mwayamba kale kuchokera ku "msungwana" wamng'ono, omwe mungathe shpynayat, ndipo mumakumbukira zolakwa zake.
Amatsogoleredwa ndi zolinga zabwino, apongozi ake amayamba kukutsutsani ndikukuphunzitsani, pang'onopang'ono ayamba kulamulira moyo wa banja lanu. Ndikoyenera kutchula "amayi anga" kuti: "njira yabwino ... mumadziwa komwe." Mwinamwake kudzudzula koteroko kumachepetsetsa mpongozi wa apongozi ake kwa nthawi ndithu.
Musati mutha kusintha kwa "Amayi"! Muli ndi banja lanu, malingaliro anu, malamulo anu ndipo muli ndi ufulu wokhala momwe mukuonera. "Kuvina kuipi ya wina" ndizolakwika. Pang'onopang'ono, kusakhutira kwanu, kusatheka kudzizindikira nokha ndi kukwiyitsa kudzafika pamapeto, ndipo mudzasiya mwamuna wanu amene mumamukonda kwambiri.
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mwamuna agwirizane ndi ubale wanu ndi apongozi ake. Iye, ngati munthu wapafupi ndi amayi awiriwo, ayenera kusamala zolakwika zonse, kupeza zosamvana ndi kumvetsa kuti banja lanu liyenera kukhala mosiyana, ndikuchitapo kanthu. Ngati mwamuna wanu alola zinthu kupita ndipo sakufuna kutenga nawo mbali pazomwe akuwonetserako, yesani kuganizira. Mwinamwake, musanakhale woimira gululo "Mwana wamwamuna" kapena munthu wofooka. Kukhala ndi mwamuna woteroyo ndi kwa inu.
Chifukwa chimene apongozi ndi apongozi awo sangathe kukhalira pamodzi nthawi zonse ndi mikangano iwiri yosatha: mkangano wa zofuna ndi kusamvana kwa mibadwo. N'zotheka kuti apongozi ako amakwambanso anali mpongozi mnyumba ya mwamuna wake, kumene amayi ake ankangomunyodola. Chikhumbo chobwezera, nthawizina, sichitha ndi anthu onse miyoyo yawo. Ndipo tsopano inu mumawoneka mnyumba yake. Kodi si njira iti yabwino yokhalira kutsanulira nkhanza ndi mkwiyo kwa nthawi yaitali?
Mphatso yathu ndi yosiyana kwambiri ndi nthawi yomwe makolo athu ankakhala. Sagwiritsidwa ntchito ndipo sadziwa momwe munthu angagwire ntchito zina, zomwe zimakhala kwa ife - zinthu za tsiku ndi tsiku. Kuyesera kulandira ndi kumvetsa malamulo a moyo wa anthu ena kumayambanso kulephera. Lolani lirilonse likhale ndi maziko ake ndipo osakwera kwinakwake ndi malangizo ake.
Kusemphana maganizo kumachitika pamene apongozi ake amadziwa kuti iye wasiya kukhala wamkulu kwa mwana wake wamwamuna. Tsopano mu moyo wake mulipo, ndipo ndi kwa inu, tsopano akulipira nthawi yake yonse yaulere, chikondi chake chonse ndi chikondi chake. Yesetsani kufotokozera kwa mwamuna wanu kuti ayenera kukhala mwana wa mayi ake, kumumvetsera, kusamala ndi kukhala ndi chidwi pa moyo wake. Mwinamwake njira zoterezi zingakuthandizeni kuti mukhalebe ndi ubale wabwino ndi apongozi anu.
Chifukwa chofunika kwambiri pa moyo wa banja laling'ono ndi makolo ndi chikhumbo chogula nyumba yawo. Inde, mitengo ya nyumba tsopano ndi yopusa, ndipo zimatenga nthawi yaitali kuti ipeze ndalama zokwanira. Ngati mumvetsa kuti mwamuna wanu akukhutira ndi kukhala ndi chipinda chimodzi ndi makolo ake, ndipo sangagule kapena kubwereka nyumba yake, ndibwino kuganizira. Kodi mwakonzeka zaka 15 zotsatira kuti muone apongozi anu tsiku ndi tsiku.
Ngakhale pali mavuto onse, mikangano yomwe ingabwere, ngati mukukhala ndi amayi a mwamuna wanu, muyenera kukumbukira kuti mumakonda mwamuna wanu komanso palibe mavuto, ndipo zowonjezera, malingaliro a munthu sangathe kuwononga banja losangalala.