Oyendayenda ndi akalulu
Mu Buddhism, pali mawu omveka bwino akuti: "Kalulu amapereka nsembe chifukwa cha munthu woyenda, koma osati woyendayenda - chifukwa cha kalulu". Tonsefe tinamva nkhani zomvetsa chisoni za momwe mkazi adaperekera ntchito za sayansi, zizoloŵezi, chitonthozo, thanzi labwino ndi kukhalamo, anasandulika mandimu yosakanizika, wowotcha, kavalo wotayika, namwino, ndipo munthu waulesi sanadzutse pa bedi. Zina zowonjezereka zikutheka: chifukwa chachisanu iye waduka ndi bizinesi yake, akupitiriza kusintha ndi kuyenda, kumwa ndi kusewera pa makina opanga, akudzifunira yekha ndikupeza zopanda pake, kulumbira, kulumbira komanso kusunga ndalama iliyonse phindu. Iye ndi wamanjenje, amakalamba, amawoneka woipa ndipo amadwala. Ndipo ife tikuganiza: "Ndizoopsya bwanji! Mayi wosauka, kutaya kwambiri ndi kuzunzika - komanso opanda pake! "Iye si wosawuka. Iye, pepani chifukwa cha nkhanza, ndizoipa, chifukwa amadzipereka yekha chifukwa cha "kalulu" wina, ngakhale womvetsa chisoni ndi womvetsa chisoni, koma osakhala wopanda pake ndi wosasamala kwa iye yekha ndi umunthu. Tili ndi machitidwe obadwa kuti tidzipereke kwa ofooka. Chifukwa cha ana - chifukwa ali ndi mwayi waukulu komanso tsogolo lawo; chifukwa cha odwala - pali chiyembekezo chakuti adzachira; chifukwa cha umunthu wapadera ndi matalente - zidzabweretsa malingaliro, kuziletsa ndi kupulumutsa dziko, liti lidzatsegulira ndi kulenga ntchito makumi awiri. Koma chifukwa cha zamorochek athu azimayi mu gawoli nthawi zonse amagwa mitundu yonse yosafunika komanso psychos. Kapena anthu abwino kwambiri, omwe ulemu wawo ndi wochepa kwambiri kuposa wathu, ndipo chifukwa cha yemwe adzipereka nsembe ndi zopusa ngati kusintha masentimita zana kufika khumi.
Kuyeza kwa Zolemera
Musanapereke nsembe, muyenera kuphatikizapo malingaliro ndi kuyamikira ulemu wa munthu amene mukufuna kumupereka. Iye ayenera kukhala wamkulu kuposa inu mu chinachake kapena mu chirichonse. Apo ayi nsembe yanu idzakhala yopanda phindu ndipo ingakhale yovulaza kwa inu nonse. Ndizo zonse zokhumudwitsa basi. Anna Snitkina, mnyamata wojambula zithunzi, adayamba kubwera ku ofesi ya Fyodor Dostoevsky ndikunjenjemera kuti amuthandize kuntchito, anakumbukira mabuku ake ndi mtima wonse ndipo adadziwa kuti iye ndi mlembi wamkulu. Pa ntchito yogwirizanitsa mtsikanayo anamuyang'ana ndipo adasanthula khalidwe lake, adayankhula nawo ndi abwenzi ake. Ndinadzifunsa ngati angagwirizane naye. Ndipo adagwirizana kuti akhale mkazi wake ndikumuperekera mtendere wa uzimu ndi kudzidalira, osati chifukwa cha uzimu - denga linachotsa chilakolako, koma molingana ndi kuwerengera kosavuta: "Iye ndi wamkulu, ndipo ine sindiri." Ndipo apa pali nkhani ina - mnzanga Olga, wogwira ntchito ku bungwe loyendayenda. Sitinawonane wina ndi mzake kwa miyezi itatu. Ndipo panthawiyi, mwamuna wake Daniel anasiya ntchito ku banki ndikugona pa sofa. Akudandaula kuti ali ndi nthawi yovuta yozindikira zakale ndi kukhazikitsa zolinga zatsopano-moyo umadutsa, palibe chochita, kuphatikizapo ntchito ku banki. Akusowa nthawi, mtendere mu nyumba ndi dzanja labwino la mkazi wake wokondedwa pamphumi pake. Kuti amuthandize, Olga ayenera kukhala ndi iye, kukana maulendo ochititsa chidwi a bizinesi ndi chiyembekezo chilichonse chokweza ntchito kuntchito, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo atenge maofesi apamwamba - ndalama zimasowa. Adzayenera kukana njira yake yamoyo, maulendo ndi maphwando, komanso maloto a mwana. Ndipo adzaponyera mphamvu ndi mphamvu zake kukhala mwamuna wake, mpaka atangokhala ndi ululu wotsitsimutsa, wopanda pake komanso osayanjanitsa, kuphatikizapo iye mwini. Mwamuna wake sikuti ndi Dostoevsky. Ndipo asanadzipereke nsembe, Olga anabwera kwa ine ndikuganiza mozama za zomwe wokondedwa wake adakwanitsa zaka 38. Tinayamba kukonza ma diplomas ndi ma polojekiti omwe anali nawo muzinthu zake. Inde, adamaliza maphunziro a magistri ku England, amatha kugwira ntchito pamalo amodzi kwa chaka chimodzi, amadziwa momwe angaperekere mitima ya anthu ndi zolankhula komanso anthu akale komanso ana amapita kwa iye. Olga amakumbukira kuti mwadzidzidzi anakumba mayi ake munda kuyambira m'mawa mpaka madzulo, nthawi zonse amati zikomo chifukwa cha mathalauza ndikumpsompsona m'mawa. Kuleza mtima, khama ndi chidwi kwa okondedwa zinapitanso ku chuma cha makhalidwe abwino. Olga adavomereza kuti akufuna kulandira. Pambuyo pa zonse, timapereka nsembe chifukwa cha cholinga china: Azimayi a ku Africa amawotcha mwana chifukwa cha mvula ndipo amawafinya ndi mafuta kuti azisaka bwino. Akuyembekeza kuti apulumutse mnyamatayo ku zowawa, akuyembekezera kuti adzalumikiza ndikuyamika, atsegula bizinesi yatsopano, nyumbayo idzakhala chikho chonse ndipo padzakhala chimwemwe mmenemo. Ndipo iye akufuna ponychitsya pang'ono naye, mpaka iye alibe ana. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, Olga anapita kunyumba moganizira. Zikuwoneka kuti Daniel ali ndi phindu. Tsopano akudziyerekezera ndi mwamuna wake ndikusankha kuti ndi yani. Ngati kulibe iye sapereka chirichonse: ndi chopanda nzeru. Ngati iye akufuna kusankha angelo omwe amamuteteza ndi angelo okhwima ali okonzeka kugawana naye.
Inu ndi ena
Poyerekeza, palibe malangizo ena kunja. Mukudziwa, iyi ndi nthawi yochenjera kwambiri komanso yofunika kwambiri: mumadziyesa nokha ndikuyerekezera subjectively, motsogozedwa ndi kumverera komweko. Ndipo inu simumamvetsera kwa wina aliyense kupatula nokha. Mkazi wa Osip Mandelstam, Nadezhda, ankadziona kuti ndi wojambula, ndipo mwamuna wake ndi wolemba ndakatulo. Amakhala ndi moyo wochuluka komanso wowala kuposa iyeyo. Ndipo iye anasiya kujambula ndi kupereka nsembe zake zaluso chifukwa cha munthu wokondedwa. Anna Akhmatova adapeza mphatso yake ya ndakatulo yayikulu ndipo sanadzipatulire yekha chifukwa cha chitonthozo ndi chimwemwe cha mwamuna wake, Nikolai Gumilev - komanso wolemba ndakatulo wabwino. Ziribe kanthu kuti simuli Akhmatova ndipo mulibe luso lapadera. Palibe chofunikira, kupatula malingaliro anu: kodi mungathe kusiya gawo lanu kapena ayi. Ngati mwakonzeka kunyalanyaza chinthu china chofunikira kwambiri kwa inu - chitukuko kapena kunyada, ntchito kapena abwenzi, zaka za moyo - ndipo musagwedezeke, musayese ndi kupereka nsembe. Kukaikira - pekani. Paunyamata, kupereka nsembe chifukwa cha wina ndi kophweka, popeza tili ndi mwayi wochepa - mwayi chabe, zizolowezi zina, maloto ndi mapulani a tsogolo. Ndipo nthawi yochuluka patsogolo. Pa zaka zakubadwa, zimakhala zopweteka kwambiri kupereka nsembe: mwapeza zikhulupiliro zambiri ndi zowonjezera, kuphunzira bwino, chisangalalo cha kulenga. Ndipo nthawi yanu ikuthamanga ndi liwiro lopenga, likukhala laling'ono, ndipo mtengo ukukwera.
Kodi wina akusowa izi?
Nchifukwa chiyani nthawi zina nsembe zathu siziyamikira? Tidzaulula chinsinsi choopsya: nthawi zambiri chifukwa timabweretsa nsembe yolakwika komanso yosafunikira. Nditapeza buku la nthano limene nyanga yowopsya inaperekedwa ndi anamwali. Mwinamwake, namwaliyo angakhale othandiza kwa wolemba nkhaniyo. Koma chochita ndi nsomba yake - sichidziwika bwino. Osagona kapena kudya - chifukwa cha zenizeni za thupi lake. Adzakhala ndi matani atatu a plankton, makamaka opangidwa kale. Ndipo ngati mupereka munthu wina, fufuzani, zomwe, zomwe munthuyo akusowa! Ndiyeno mudzafika pamalo opusa, omwe nthawi zambiri amachitika ndi makolo omwe amapereka chinachake chifukwa cha ana. Mwana wamwamuna wosudzulana sangamvetsetse chifukwa chake abambo ake okalamba alibe mwayi kwa iye ndipo ayenera kumthokoza chifukwa cha izi. Tsopano, ngati chilimwe chili chonse m'malo mopuma pa gombe ku Turkey adayendayenda ndi mapiri pamodzi ndi iye (zomwe zinali zofunika kwambiri kwa iye), ndipo ngati atapereka nthawi yake yaulere, mwana wamwamuna wamkuluyo amakumbukira ndi chikondi ndi chiyamiko. Ndipo ngati mwaganiza zopereka chinachake chifukwa cha mwamuna wanu, funsani kuti: "Kodi mukufuna kuti ndidikire kubwerera kwanu ntchito usiku uliwonse ndikugona? Kapena simusamala ngati pali wina aliyense panyumba, ndipo mumangoganizira momwe mungagwere mwamsanga? Kodi mukufuna kuti ine ndisiye ntchito yanga, kusiya mwana wanga wamkazi ndi amayi anga ndikupita nanu kumanga moyo watsopano ku Norway? Kapena mungakonde kupita nokha, kukonzekera chirichonse ndikuitanira ife ndi mwana? "Ndipo sipadzakhalanso sewero la nsembe zopanda phindu m'banja mwanu.
Nsembe yanu ndi yolondola
Ngati amene mumasunga, nthawi ndi nthawi, amalola kuti apulumutsidwe - amasiya kusewera monga Dostoevsky, kapena kumwa monga Ozzy Osbourne, amachokera mwachisoni ndikuthokoza chifukwa cha khama lanu. Amapeza zomwe ali nazo, ndikukhala ndi mtendere kapena mtendere zikupezeka m'nyumba mwanu - kapena kutchuka kwake ndi ulemerero kukukhudzani ndi mapiko ake.
Nsembe yanu ndi yopanda phindu
Nthawi imapita, koma palibe kusintha. Chaka chatha, mwamuna wanga adakhalabe akuzungulira ndikudikirira, atayikidwa pa kama, mpaka "diso lake lachitatu likuyamba." Sali wodzazidwa ndi chiyamiko ndi kutentha kwa inu, osasangalatsa, samayimba komanso samayamika, iye samavala. Ndipo samutcha mngelo, koma ntchentche - chifukwa mumamukakamiza kuti agwire ntchito ndipo asafunse kuyera ndi kusalumbira.
Kuti asapite mwamisala
Nthawi zina wokondedwa amapereka cholepheretsa ndipo amachitapo kanthu kosavomerezeka. Ndiye palibe chimene chiyenera kuchitidwa ndi icho - mwinamwake inu mudzataya malingaliro anu kuchoka mu zochulukirapo zotere kapena kukhala okhumudwa akudandaula. Tatiana Lappa, mkazi woyamba wa mlembi Mikhail Bulgakov, adagwira naye ntchito kuchipatala cha Zemstvo monga namwino - kuti asakhale wovuta, wokhumudwa komanso wosungulumwa, ndipo panthawi ya nkhondo yoyamba ya padziko lonse, anapita patsogolo. Anamuthandiza mwamuna wake kuti amuchotse, ndipo atataya mtima, adamuwombera pachifuwa. Anamuchiritsa ku vuto la morphine, adatsutsa zonse zomwe adachita ndikulira. Wathandizira kubwerera kumoyo wamba. Potsirizira pake adalemba "White Guard" ndipo adatchuka kwambiri. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo anasintha Tanya ndi Lyubov Belozerskaya wonyenga, ndipo kenako mwamunayo adapereka ukwati kwa mkazi wa atatuwa: "Kodi Lyuba angakhale ndi ife pang'ono? Chabwino? "" Ndizoipa! "Tanya adanena kuti adamusiya. Iye sanamukhululukire iye chifukwa cha chiwembu. Iye anali wokonzeka kupereka nsembe kwa iye - koma osati monga choncho! Mikhail Bulgakov asanamwalire mwa delirium anamupempha kumutcha Tatiana ndipo adakumbukira kuti anali ndi mlandu pamaso pake. Ndipo Tatiana anakwatiwa kwambiri kachiwiri ndipo anakhala ndi zaka makumi asanu ndi anayi. Zoona, zimachitika kuti mitsempha yonse imatha kupirira, koma thanzi lidzasokoneza, mphepo yamkuntho ndi mavutowo amayamba, osasunthika migraines, kuthamanga kwa magazi kapena matenda opatsirana. Pachifukwa ichi nkofunika kuti muzitha kuchiritsidwa, kuti muchite bwino kwambiri nokha. Ndipo kusintha njira ya moyo.