Kodi mukukumbukira kuti agogo anga anali abwino bwanji? Amapatsa maapulo, nthano za usiku, kutentha kwakukulu kwa thukuta lalikulu ndi mawu a nyimbo ya "agogo aakazi akale, makutu pa vertex ..." Zonse zinali zapadera, tastier ndi zofooka kuposa za makolo. Koma lero makolo akuthamanga kuchoka kwa agogo awo aakazi, ngati mdierekezi wofukiza, osayankhula momveka za mwana wawo. N'chiyani chatsintha?
Chifukwa chachikulu ndi ichi: tasintha - agogo aakazi adasintha. Agogo aamunawa salinso "mzimayi pamunda wapambali ali ndi kamba, nsalu ya tebulo ndi cheesecake", akubwera kwa ife mu kukumbukira kwa ana. Malinga ndi ziwerengero, agogo aamuna amakono sali amayi akale. Ali ndi zaka zopitirira 50, ali ndi nthawi yokwanira yotanganidwa, ndi zofuna zambiri, ndipo agogo awo amatha kutchulidwa mwakuya kwambiri, pangozi yokhala ndi chilakolako kwa moyo wawo wonse. Mmalo mwa mayi wachikulire wachikulire, wokonzeka kumpsompsona mdzukulu wake nthawi iliyonse, ife timakumana ndi mayi wachikulire yemwe alibe zolinga zenizeni zenizeni. Ngakhale iye amasunga "makutu pa korona" monga poyamba. Agogo aakaziwa akhoza kukana sabata ndi mdzukulu wake chifukwa chakuti alibe nthawi ya izi, kapena, mwachitsanzo, chifukwa cha kutopa kwachizoloŵezi pambuyo pa ntchito yovuta ya tsiku.
Chifukwa chachiwiri chimakhala mwa ife tokha. Chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri kukhalapo kwa banja la masiku ano ndizolekanitsa kolekanitsa kwa ana kuchokera kwa makolo awo kwathunthu. Timayesetsa kumanga nyumba zathu zokha, kuyang'ana mitundu yonse ya zosankha kuti tipeze njira, ndipo, popatukana, timachepetsa kulankhulana ndi mafoni osawerengeka kapena maulendo ambiri omwe sapezeka pa Lamlungu. Pofuna kudziimira okha, amayi aang'ono safunanso malangizo a m'badwo wokalamba kuti alere mwana, chifukwa ku utumiki wawo mabuku ofunika, TV, makanema ndi Internet. Pazifukwa izi, kusowa kwa agogo kumatulukamo palokha: Amayi yekha "amadziwa", ndipo ngati akusowa nthawi, amadzipangire yekha ndi kuitana mwana.
Ndiye vuto ndi chiyani? Amayi ali odziimira, agogo amamanga moyo waumwini, ndipo ngati palibe wina akuvutika. Izi siziri zoona. Inde, ana amakula bwino popanda agogo aakazi, koma ngati alipo, ndi zopusa kusiya ntchito zawo. Chowonadi n'chakuti agogo aakazi amakhala ndi mphamvu yaikulu pa kukula kwa maganizo kwa mwanayo. Ngakhale makolo ali ndi nkhawa zambiri - kuchokera pa maphunziro osaphunzira kuti agula thumba latsopano la nsapato zowonjezera, agogo amayamba kudandaula za "zinthu zosavuta" - kaya mwanayo adya, akusangalala kapena akukhumudwa, komanso ngati pali dzenje mu sock yake. Chifukwa chokhala ndi udindo waukulu wa makolo, agogo aakazi nthawi zambiri amakhala ovuta kulankhula ndi achinyamata. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, zomwe makolo awo amakumana nazo zimakhudzanso: pambuyo pake, makompyuta ndi makompyuta, ndipo adatikweza ngakhale panthawi imeneyo, pamene m'malo opanda waya tinkachita zinthu zambiri. Ndipo ngakhale kuyesedwa, kuchepetsa kuchepa kwa moyo wa agogo aakazi kumapindulitsa mwana wanu. Choncho, ngati makolo nthawi zambiri amamvetsera mavuto omwe mwanayo akukumana nazo, agogowo sangaphonye ngakhale mfundo zochepa kwambiri monga zingwe zomangidwa bwino.
Agogo kapena agogo?
Palibe yankho lachidziwitso ku funso ili - mochuluka kumadalira pachinthu chilichonse. Chinthu chachikulu cha agogo ake ndi "ufulu wa ntchito zake". Ngati katswiri wa nanny akhoza kugwirizana ndi makolo ake khofi yokongola, agogo adzakhalanso ndi mwanayo mosadzikonda. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, agogo ake - "ake" ndipo, mosiyana ndi wogwira ntchito, amene ali ndi nanny, amakonda mphoto yake chifukwa chakuti ndi mdzukulu wake. Pa chifukwa chomwecho, amayi akudandaula za kuti agogo adzapweteka kapena kuvulaza mwanayo ali ochepa kwambiri kuposa momwe aliri ndi mwana wamwamuna. Koma ndi "zosakhudzidwa" ndi "ufulu" wachisanu ndi chiwiri zomwe zimakhala zovuta kubisala ndi agogo aakazi ...
"NDASINTHA MOYO WANU"
Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti makolo achichepere akugonjera ndi agogo awo. Zonsezi zimayamba ndi mawu akuti "Ndasintha moyo wanga wonse chifukwa cha inu", ayi, ayi, ndikudumpha ndikukambirana, ndikutha ndi ngongole ina yomwe sindinalipire kuchokera kwa mayi anga, amene adafuna kupempha thandizo kwa "agogo aakazi akale - makutu pa vertex". Zotsatira zake n'zochuluka: Kuchokera pamtima chifukwa chodzimva chisoni ndi makolo komanso momwe agogo amayamba kulowerera mu moyo wa banja lachinyamata. Ndipo amati mu nkhaniyi simungasonyeze, chifukwa chifukwa cha mwana wanu, agogo ake amamupereka nthawi yake yaulere, zosangalatsa zirizonse kapena mapulani ndipo anachitadi mwamtheradi kwaulere. Ndiye ndikuganiza kwenikweni, koma si kosavuta kutenga nthano.
Momwe mungakhalire: Pachifukwa ichi, pali njira imodzi yokha yomwe mungaperekerere, kuti musapangitse mkhalidwewu kukhala wovuta. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti agogo azimvetsera mwatsatanetsatane malangizo ake, kuti asamayang'ane zovuta zazing'ono pa nkhani yokweza ana, ndipo nthawi ndi nthawi amalowetsa agogo awo aakazi - ichi ndicho chinsinsi cha ubale wabwino. Kuyankhulana ndi mwanayo sikuyenera kulemetsa, koma ndithudi chimwemwe. Potsirizira pake, dzichekeni nokha m'malo a agogo aakazi: sikuti munangokhalira kudabwa, koma simunalole kutenga nawo mbali pa kulera kwake, nthawi zonse akulongosola "momwe zinalili zofunikira." Ndi chisangalalo chotani cha kuyankhulana komwe tingakambirane?
"Ndimasokonezeka ndi maswiti ndipo sindinauze mayi anga"
Vuto lina lodziwika bwino ndi lingaliro la chikondi.
"Ichi ndi mtundu wina wa mantha! Loma ndi mnyamata, ngati mnyamata, koma mumubweretsa yekha kuchokera kwa agogo anu - ngati kuti munasintha. Akuponya zidole zake, sakufuna, samvera aliyense! "- Anatero Olga, mayi wa Cyril wazaka 4.
Gwirizanani, nkhani zoterezi zingakwaniritsidwe pa sitepe iliyonse. Ndipo nthawi zonse zimakhala kuti agogo aakazi amakhudza makamaka mwanayo ngakhale makolo. Ndipotu, agogo aakazi sakhala ndi vuto lililonse. Monga momwe chiwonetsero chimasonyezera, kuphunzitsa zilakolako za ana n'kosavuta, m'malo mofotokozera mwana chifukwa chake sizingatheke kuchita izi kapena zinthu zina. Mwachitsanzo, ngati amayi amaletsa mwana kuti adye zokoma, agogo ake akhoza kukhala okhulupirika kwambiri pa nkhaniyi, chifukwa sakuyenera kulipira dokotala ndipo amapeza mphindi zosautsa ku ofesi ya mano. Nthawi zambiri mwanayo amabwera kwa agogo aakazi kwa nthawi yochepa, ndipo nthawi zambiri samaganizira zomwe zidzachitike, mdzukulu akamapita kwawo. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, khalidweli limangokhala "wabwino" kuchokera kwa agogo anga (mosiyana ndi mayi wolimba, amalola chilichonse), ndipo, monga momwe amadziwira, "okonda" ngati ena.
Momwe mungakhalire: Popewera zochitika zoterozo ndi zovuta zomwe zimayambitsidwa ndi iwo, wina ayesetse kulongosola agogo osati mfundo zokhazokha za kulera kwanu, komanso kufotokozera chifukwa chake mukuwamatira. Choncho, ngati zili zotsekemera, sizodabwitsa kudziŵa agogo awo ndi ndemanga zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi dokotala wa menyu: ndalama yokhala ndi ndalama zowonjezereka zidzakondweretsa "chokoleti".
"MADZI AWIRI AWIRI"
Maphunziro a mbiri ndizo zomwe amai agogo amalephera kuchita nawo mbali zonse. Mwatsoka, pakati pa chikondi cha mwanayo ndi kumusangalatsa kapena kuphunzitsa chinachake, palibe kusiyana. Agogo angakhale ndi chibwenzi chokhalitsa ndi mwana, koma nthawi yomweyo satha kumudziwitsa zinthu zofunika kwambiri. Ndipo ngakhalenso agogo aakazi ali ndi maphunziro ophunzitsa, izi sizinali zowonjezera. Kwa nthawi yatha, kusintha kwakukulu kwakhala kochitika ndipo njira zatsopano za maphunziro a ana zaonekera, zomwe amayi anu sangathe kuzidziwa. Chifukwa chakuti kukula koyambirira kwa ana tsopano kuli kofunika kwambiri, zochitika zino sizingakhale zabwino kwa mwana wanu.
Momwe mungakhalire: Mipingo ya chitukuko choyambirira, magawo onse a magawo ndi magulu, magulu a nthawi yochepa mu sukulu ya kindergartens - ndicho chimene chingathetse vutoli. Ndipo pakadali pano, agogo amatha kubwera mogwira mtima - ndi ndani amene angamuyendetse mwanayo kudera lonse la maphunziro?
Kuphatikiza mwachidule zonsezi, n'zosavuta kufika kumapeto kuti pa chitukuko ndi kulera kwa mwanayo njira yabwino ndiyo kukhalapo kwa agogo ndi aakazi nthawi imodzi. Inde, nthawi zambiri nthawi zambiri zimagwirizanitsa ntchito za amayi, choncho nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kupeza chinenero chimodzi. Koma zinyumba zakuthambo, chidaliro ndi chitetezo, zomwe agogo amapatsa ana, sangathe kugula ndalama iliyonse. Ndipo sizinthu zochuluka kwambiri mu nkhani za maphunziro, kutsutsirana pakati ndi chitukuko choyambirira. Timakumbukira ma pie apulo, nthano zachinyama komanso masewera osangalatsa kwambiri. Ndipo ndani akukumbukira kuti agogo ake adabweretsa chinachake "cholakwika"? Kodi ndiye amayi athu.
CHITSANZO CHA OPENDA
Ksenia MERENKOVA, Institute of Practical Psychology "Terra", Voronezh, katswiri wamaganizo
Nthawi zambiri, chifukwa chokana ntchito za agogo aakazi sichidziŵa kuwerenga ndi kulemba kapena zidzukulu zopanda malire (monga popanda, ndiye agogo ndi agogo!), Ndipo ubale wathu ndi agogo ake. Ife tiri kutali kwambiri kuchokera ku mibadwo yakale, kuyesera kuti tidzipange mwamsanga, ndipo tsopano kubwerera kungaoneke ngati kudzipeleka. Ngati zinthu zikuwoneka ngati izi, ganizirani za momwe mudakhalira okhaokha, kuti mpaka tsopano mukuwopa kubwerera kwa agogo anu, omwe sali aphunzitsi anu, koma wothandizira wanu. Ndipo agogo awo ndi ndani? Uyu ndi Amayi. Wanu kapena mnzanu. Mwina kuyesa kugwiritsa ntchito ntchito zake si chifukwa cha kusagwirizana pa malingaliro okhudza kulera kwa ana, koma ndi mikangano yakale, zovuta zakale? Inde, ngati mutalowa m'nyumba, adzakhala agogo osati kwa mwana wanu yekha, koma kwa inu, koma ngati mungakwanitse kumanga ubale wanu, ubwino wa mgwirizano uwu ukhoza kupambana kwambiri ndi zovuta.