Kodi chikondi n'chiyani?
N'zovuta kumvetsa chikondi chomwe chiri. Winawake amachitcha kuti ndi matenda, wina amachititsa mankhwala. Koma iwo ndi ena sagwirizana kuti chikondi chimapangitsa chikhumbo cholimba kukhala pafupi ndi munthu yemwe anakhala ngati theka labwino kwambiri. Kwa chiyani? Kuti mupereke gawo la nokha kapena kubwezeretsanso gawo lachiwiri losowa? Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti chikhumbo chokhala munthu wokondwa kukhala ndi munthu wina sikutanthauza kuti munthu ali wodzichepetsa, kukhalapo kwa mavuto osiyanasiyana omwe angathe ndipo ayenera kuthetsedwa.
Chikondi chosatheka.
Pali lingaliro lakuti chilakolako chopeza chikondi chanu chosatheka, kuchipereka ndi zosakhalapo zimachokera ku mfundo yakuti palibe zokhutira zokwanira za moyo weniweni m'moyo. Kumbukirani nthawi zovuta, pamene malingaliro ndi moyo ali otanganidwa ndi yankho la ntchito zofunika, chikondi chimapita kumbuyo, sikumakhala kofunikira. Choncho, imodzi mwa njira zoyamba kutsogolera kuzunzidwa chifukwa chosatheka chikondi ndi maphunziro a chikondi pawekha. Muyenera kudzipereka nokha chikondi chanu, kuti mukhale ndi ufulu wokhala ndi moyo wachimwemwe ndi wokhutira, kuti mukhale omasuka ku chirichonse, kuphatikizapo kudalira chikondi chosatheka.
Kuvutika mu chimwemwe?
Nkhani zambiri za moyo waphunzitsa anthu kuti chimwemwe chimatheka kokha pamene pali wokondedwa pafupi. Ndipo ngati pali vuto pamene kupezeka kumeneku sikungatheke, iwo amayamba kuvutika ndikudzimva okha kuti ali otsika, osasangalala. Akatswiri a zamaganizo nthawi zambiri amadziwa zomwe zimachitika pamene munthu amasangalala ndi kuzunzika kwake, m'malo mwa chikondi chosatheka ndi chifundo cha anthu oyandikana nawo. Kotero iwo amapeza chisamaliro chomwe iwo ankachifuna kwa wokondedwa. Ndipotu, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa ndi kumvetsetsa zomwe zimapangitsa munthu wamphawi kumva. Chikondi chenicheni kapena chilakolako chokopa chidwi, kumadzaza moyo wopanda kanthu, kuphatikizapo kuzunzidwa, kumangidwa mu chipembedzo?
Si chinsinsi choti akuluakulu, ngakhale ali ndi zaka, apitirize kusewera masewera. Ngakhale ambiri a maseŵerawa sakhala achilendo. Ndi kusakayika konse, iwo, pokhala akuluakulu, amagwera pansi pa kudalira machitidwe a makolo, kutsanzira iwo mosadziŵa komanso pokhala akuluakulu. Ngati mwanayo anakulira, akuyang'ana mavuto ndi zosangalatsa za chikondi chosasangalatsa, ndiye kuti pokhala wamkulu, sangathe kuzindikira malingaliro enieni, ndipo adzachita zochitika pamtima zokhudzana ndi chikondi chosatheka pamene mwayi umenewu umapezeka. Mwinamwake, panalibe chikondi chenicheni, ndipo chochitikacho chidzakhala. Pachifukwa ichi, kusagwirizana ndikutenganso ndi chiganizo cha wokondedwa. Kutha kwathunthu kwa zolakwitsa za mnzanu, chikondi chomwe sichitha, kumapangitsa kuti chikhale chosavuta kufikapo, pomwe chimwemwe chidzasokonezeka ndi mutu ndikupatsa chisangalalo chosasangalatsa. Komabe, pafupifupi nthawi zonse pamoyo weniweni, ubale pakati pa anthu awiri achikondi uli ndi mavuto. N'zotheka kuti, ndi mikhalidwe yabwino, chikondi chanu chenicheni sichidzatha ngati mutangokhala ndi maganizo osatheka. Izi zikusonyeza kuti munthu amakumana ndi chinthu chomwe sichinachitikepo ndipo sichikanakhoza kukhalapo, ndiko kuti, iye mwiniyo akuganiza chifukwa cha zomwe zimamuchitikira ndi kuzunzika kwake, ndipo kenako mwiniwake (ndi chisangalalo) amapereka kumverera kotereku.
Zili choncho kuti zokhudzana ndi chikondi chosatheka - izi sizikukondedwa. Dzikani nokha, chifukwa cha chikhumbo chanu, cha moyo. Kumverera kwenizeni kwa chikondi ndi kukhoza kupereka, osati kufunikira koti mutenge. Ngati chidziwitso chimene mumabweretsa sichikukwanira kuti muchotse malingaliro amenewa, ndibwino kuti mutembenuzire njira zina zingapo.
Malangizo a zamaganizo.
- Yang'anani nkhani yanu kuchokera kumbali. Kuti muchite izi, dziwani bwino nkhani zofanana za anthu ena ndipo yesetsani kumvetsetsa momwe munthu wina wathandizira kugonjetsedwa. Mukhoza kusanthula tsogolo la anthu otchuka, ojambula, ojambula.
- Kodi kudzidzimvera nokha. Kwa ichi, m'mawa ndi madzulo, tsiku lirilonse liyenera kubwereza ziganizo zochepa, zomwe zimaphatikizapo nthawi zabwino: "Ndine wokondwa. Ndine mfulu. Ndatsegula moyo. " Yesetsani kungotchula mawuwo, koma kuti mumve. Ndikumverera kuti ndilole nthawi yayitali, yaifupi, komabe chimwemwe, ufulu, chiyero cha moyo.
- Kuchita nawo zosangalatsa. Izo zidzakuthandizani kuthetsa mtolo wa zochitika, pumulani. Kuti muchite izi, mukhoza kulingalira kuti mkati mwako muli ofunda ndi ofatsa. Poganizira, m'pofunikira kukwaniritsa kukula kwa luminescence. Panthawiyi, mungathe kugwira boma lomwe silingathe kuitanitsa chikondi, ndi kulipereka.
- Kuphunzira kupereka chikondi chako sikungoganizire, osati kwenikweni chilakolako, koma kwa anthu ena, ana, achibale, okondedwa. Perekani chikondi, chimasulireni ku dziko lapansi, ndipo chidzabwereranso kwa inu. Munthu wachikondi ali ndi mphamvu zamphamvu, izi ndikumverera kwachilengedwe.
Ngati zikukuvutani kupirira zochitika zanu nokha, funsani katswiri wa zamaganizo. Moyo uli ndi zambiri, wokongola komanso wodabwitsa. Ikupitirira. Kungakhale kulakwitsa kwakukulu kuti tipewe zokhazokha zokhazokha za moyo kokha chifukwa cha kumverera kosatheka kosatheka. Pambuyo pake, kwa munthu nthawi zonse kumakhala ndi chikondi, ndikofunika kuti mutsegule kwa iye, musiyeni ululu ndikudzipangitsa kukhala wosangalala ndi kusangalala ndi moyo. Tsopano inu mukudziwa chomwe chikondi chenicheni chiri, ndipo malangizo a akatswiri a zamaganizo akuyenera kukuthandizani ngati malingaliro anu sakupeza kulondola.
Pomaliza, tiyenera kukumbukira kuti chikondi ndi chowala, ichi ndi chisangalalo chenicheni. Sizingatheke kukhala "zosatheka", chifukwa palibe amene angathe kukuletsani kukonda ndikupereka chikondi. Zoona, chikondi chowala chimalimbikitsa munthu ngakhale pamene chikondi cha chikondi chimenechi chikhalabe chosatheka.