Pali zochitika pamene anthu omwe timakambirana nawo komanso omwe timawakonda amachititsa zolakwika, koma samafuna kuvomereza zolakwitsa zawo ndikuyamba ndi zifukwa zikwi za kutsutsana kulikonse. Kodi ndi motani momwe tiyenera kukhalira ndi njira ziti zokopa zomwe tingagwiritse ntchito kuti tibweretse kwa munthu yemwe akulakwitsa kwenikweni ndipo sitiyenera kuchita zimenezi mtsogolomu motero?
Osasamala
Munthu akayesera kudzilungamitsa yekha, komabe mumtima mwake amamvetsetsa kuti akulakwitsa, koma amadzikweza yekha ndikuchita zonse kuti akukhudzeni. Ntchito yake ndiyo kuponyera kukayikira m'maganizo mwanu. Choyamba, musayambe kudziganizira nokha, koma makamaka ngati mdaniyo akuyankhula molondola, ndiwe amene mungakhale wolakwika. Choncho, pokambirana, musalole kuti munthu adzilungamitse yekha. Muyenera kungolongosola malingaliro anu potsindika kuti ndiko kulimbikitsidwa komwe kuli koyenera, ndikuti akuchita zomwe zimadzilungamitsa yekha ndipo kenako, pakapita kanthawi, amangopuma pantchito. Kumbukirani kuti anthu oterewa sazindikira zolakwa zawo nthawi yomweyo, kotero mumayenera kumupatsa nthawi yoganizira mawu anu. Koma zokambiranazo ziyenera kumalizidwa kuti amvetsetse: simunalandire zifukwa zake ndipo mudzaima nokha mpaka womaliza.
Kugawana nawo
Kwa anthu oterowo ndi ofunika kwambiri ndi malingaliro a mabwenzi ndi odziwa, kapena kuti, mgwirizano wawo ndi zochita zake. Choncho, ngati muli ndi abwenzi omwe amavomereza nanu, osakhala naye, onetsetsani kuti mumayankhula naye palimodzi. Pamene malingaliro akufotokozedwa ndi inu nokha, amadzipangitsa nokha kuti mukuwanyengerera kapena kuyang'ana pazochitikazo molakwika. Koma pamene anthu ena ochepa angayankhule nawo ndipo maganizo awo adzalumikizana ndi anu, oumawo adzachita mwachangu kuti aganizire za zochita zake. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti apange vuto limene adzayenera kudzidziyimira mwini yekha ndi kudziteteza yekha. Kumbukirani kuti zokambiranazo ziyenera kupitirira m'njira yoti anthu sayenera munthu aliyense mlandu pa machimo awo, koma yesetsani kufotokoza zolakwitsa zake, chifukwa amamukonda ndikufuna kuti akhale wosangalala. Kumbukirani kuti pa zokambiranazi munthu akhoza kudzitsogolera m'njira zosiyana siyana: kudziyesa kuti amavomereza, akudzudzula aliyense chifukwa chokhala mabwenzi oipa, kungopereka zifukwa, monga momwe anachitira poyamba. Mulimonsemo, musayambe "kutsogolera" pa zovuta zake ndikukonzekera kukangana. Ngati munthuyu akuchitadi, muyenera kulekerera khalidwe lake. Ngakhale, ngati zinthu zonse zikuyamba kupitirira, mungamuuze kuti anthu amamukonda, koma ngati samayamba kuchita monga wamkulu, munthu wokwanira, ndiye kuti kulankhulana kudzatha.
Ulamuliro
Mwamwayi, munthu aliyense ali ndi ulamuliro. Izi zikhoza kugwiritsidwa ntchito mwaluso m'mikhalidwe yotereyi. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti muyenera kukhala otsimikiza kuti munthuyu ndi wovomerezeka kwa wokondedwa wanu. Musanayambe kukambirana ndi munthuyu, kambiranani naye ndikumufotokozera chimene chiri vuto ndi zomwe mukufuna kuchita. Ulamuliro uyenera kudziwa kuti ndi mfundo ziti zomwe zingamukakamize ndi njira zomwe angagwiritse ntchito. Musamaope kufunafuna thandizo kwa munthu woteroyo, ngakhale ndi wina wochokera kwa akulu: bambo, amalume. Anthu ambiri amadandaula kuti ndingabise zobisika za munthu ndipo amakhumudwa. Ndipotu, ngati muwona kuti zochita zake zikuyambitsa ena ndi iye mwini, muyenera kutero. Inde, poyamba angakwiyire iwe. Koma m'kupita kwa nthawi zidzatsimikizika kwa iye kuti izi ndizochita maphwando a matchmaker omwe anali okhulupirika kwambiri, mwinamwake adzakuthokozani. Choncho, kunena za kavtoriteu musabise kalikonse, kuti amvetsetse vutoli. Ngati mulipo pa zokambiranazi, ndibwino kuti musanene chilichonse ndipo muzimvetsera. Chowonadi ndi chakuti pamene munthu alankhula kwa yemwe amamumvetsera, malingaliro ena onse ochokera kwa anthu ena amawonedwa ngati kusokoneza munthu wodalirika kwa iye. Choncho apatseni mapewa m'manja, omwe wokondedwa wanu amafanana nawo ndipo apatseni mwayi kuthetsa vutoli pamodzi.
Chifundo
Ngati mwayesapo kale njira zonse ndi njira, koma munthuyo sakuchitapo kanthu, ndiye mungathe kumukhumudwitsa. Zoonadi, njirayi ndi yovuta kwambiri, koma nthawi zina mumayenera kugwiritsa ntchito njira imeneyi ya chikoka pa munthuyo. Zoona, zimagwira ntchito ngati muli wokondedwa kwambiri kwa iye ndipo sakufuna kukutaya. Ngati zinthu zikuchitika motere, ndiye kuti mukhoza kumangokhalira kumangokhalira kumangokhalira kunyoza, kumufuula ndi kulira. M'malo mwake, ndikofunikira kulankhula momasuka komanso mopanda malire. Muyenera kumufotokozera kuti sakumvetsa mawu anu ndipo sakufuna kuti mumvetsere. Chifukwa chake, simukukondwera ndi zosayenera m'zochita zake nthawi zina. Vypoprostu amakhumudwa kwambiri mwa iye ndipo sakudziwa momwe angalankhulire naye kwambiri, ngati sakufuna kukonza chirichonse. Ndipo popeza mulibe ufulu womuuza momwe angakhalire komanso zomwe mungasankhe, koma panthawi yomweyi simungathe kupirira zochitika zomwe zikuchitika, ndiye kuti simungalankhule kwa kanthaŵi, ndipo mwinamwake muyaya. Zoonadi, khalidweli likuwoneka ngati lokhwima ndipo mungagwiritse ntchito njira zomwezo ngati mukuwona kuti munthu amapanga zolakwika zazikulu, zomwe ayenera kupulumutsidwa mwa njira iliyonse, mwinamwake onse adzavutika. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kukhala ndi chidaliro chonse mu zomwe mumanena, kuti wokondedwa wanu asamakayikire kuti izi ndi masewera. Zikatero, nthawi zambiri mantha amawathandiza kwambiri. Izi zimapangitsa kuganiziranso zinthu zonse ndikuyang'ana mmbali kuchokera kumanja. Munthuyo amangoyamba kumvetsetsa kuti kunyada kwake, komwe nthawi zambiri kumayambitsa chilakolako chosavomereze zolakwitsa, sikofunikira monga munthu wapafupi amene angathenso pakali pano. Kuphatikizanso, poika munthu pamalingaliro ofanana, mungathe kukwaniritsa zotsatira zake, chifukwa chifukwa cha mphamvu, anthu amadziwa zolakwa zawo. Ngati ali muwuni ya vinyo amangoyerekezera kuti zonse zikuzindikiritsidwa, kenako nkuyenda mofanana, ndikuopa kutaya mnzako, amasankha kuti asapange zolakwa zambiri. Komabe ndizosayenera kugwiritsa ntchito njira imeneyi, chifukwa anthu ayenera kuzindikira zolakwa zawo popanda, komanso osawagwira ndi mantha. Pokhapokha ngati mwadzidzidzi mwadzidzidzi mwadzidzidzi, mwayi woti munthu sangatenge zolakwa zawo m'tsogolomu wachepa kwambiri. Chifukwa cha mantha, amadziwa kuti ali ndi vuto, koma m'tsogolomu zonse zikhoza kuchitika kachiwiri.