Koma ndani amene ali ndi chiwerewere? Aliyense amaika tanthawuzo lake mu lingaliro limeneli. Kwa ena, ntchentche ndi mkazi akuponya mphamvu ndi ndalama kuchokera mwa mwamuna, ena amamuona kuti ndi wokongola seductress, ndipo ena amaganiza kuti izi ndizo zongopeka, kuti zinangokhalako zokhazokha, akazi achimuna. Nanga bwanji izi? Ndipotu, palibe.
Pofuna kukhala phokoso lenileni m'dziko lamakono, mayi ayenera kukhala wochenjera, wokongola, ayenera kukondana ndi anthu: amuna ndi akazi. Zovuta zimasiyanitsa ndi zosakhala zachilendo komanso zosiyana ndi zonse, amanyansidwa ndi mitundu yonse ya ziwonetsero, ali ndi kukoma kwake, chikhalidwe chojambula, mawonekedwe apadera komanso okongola. Mwa njira ya "bitch" mungasankhe mawu ofanana monga "mkazi weniweni" kapena "dona". Lingaliro la chidutswa chimaphatikizapo utsogoleri, kuthekera kutetezera wekha. Pa nthawi imodzimodziyo, mkazi amakhalabe mkazi mulimonse, amakonda kwambiri okondedwa ake komanso anthu, amatha kukhala mayi wabwino, koma ali wodziimira yekha ndi wokwanira. Phokoso lenileni silingalole kuti adzichititse manyazi, nthawi zonse amamupeza. Koma mzimayi aliyense ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti pokhala ntchentche sikukutanthauza kukweza mutu wanu ndikuyang'ana aliyense ndikunyoza pamaso panu, "sadzawona mwamuna wake", ziribe kanthu momwe analiri. Phokoso lenileni silinayambe kulongosola pang'ono.
Adzatchedwa mkazi weniweni, wokondedwa, wosamvetseka, wofunidwa, wachifundo, wofunikira kwambiri. Ndi kwa amayi ngati amenewa omwe abambo amachoka ku "macheka" omwe amatchedwa abambo. Kukhala ntchentche nthawi zonse kumapindulitsa. Aliyense ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti dziko lamakono liri nkhanza, kuti pali mpikisano waukulu pa malo alionse m'moyo. Kuyambira ndi mzere mu sitolo ndikutha ndi moyo wa banja losangalala. M'dziko lamakono lino, mkazi amayenera kulamulira mbali zonse za moyo wake, kuti akwaniritse zonse, kuti ayang'ane zonse mwakamodzi, popanda kutaya ulemu wake, ayenera kuchita chirichonse. Mayi aliyense amafuna kuti mwamuna amutamande, abambo amalemekezedwa ndi kuyamikiridwa, ndipo abwenzi ake amamvetsetsa ndi kudzipereka. Koma izi zingatheke bwanji?
Musachedwe. Ngati wina akuganiza kuti kukhala chithunzithunzi chenicheni mu dziko lamakono ndi kosavuta, ndiye akulakwitsa kwambiri. Kodi mukufuna kutsimikizira chikondi cha mwamuna? Koma ogula amuna samangolemekezedwa, koma amadedwa. Ngati mkazi sakudziwa kukhala chete ndikulephera, sizeng'onoting'ono. Nthenda yeniyeni ikhoza kumupangitsa munthu kukhulupirira mukhumba wake kuti amutsatire iye. Mayi ali ndi zofunikira zinayi zokha: kukonda, kukondedwa, kulera ana komanso kumva bwino. Komabe, pa zonsezi, amuna amafunika. Ndizofunikira kwa iwo ndipo zimapangidwa ndi khalidwe la "khalidwe". Komabe, ngati mumamuuza kuti mkaziyo ndi ntchentche, ndiye kuti sangakhulupirire, koma adzakwiya kwambiri.
Kodi mkazi wake wokoma mtima, wachikondi ndi wokoma mtima angakhale bwanji chingwe ?! Amuna amangosokoneza bodza kapena wopusa ali ndi zilonda, zomwe ziri m'manja mwa okondedwa awo. Nthiti yeniyeni yomwe imakhala mu dziko lamakono imamvetsetsa kuti iye wakhalabe wosunga malo, ndipo amamutenga kuti akhale ngati chitsimikizo cha chisangalalo cha munthu. Ukazi wake ndi wamphamvu kuposa kudzilemekeza, ndipo amapeza ulemu kuchokera kwa anthu. Mzimayi weniweni amadziwa kuti mwa kupereka chikondi, akhoza kupeza chilichonse chobwezera. Phokoso lenileni ndi mkazi wokongola amene mwamuna wake pa ngodya iliyonse amatsimikizira momwe mkazi wake aliri wanzeru.