Pali amuna omwe amawononga okondedwa awo, ndikuwapangitsa kukhala akazi opsinjika maganizo, otchuka. Amatchulidwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana: "amazunza kwambiri psychopaths", "misogynists", "misogynists" kapena "anthu olakwika", omwe ndi abwino kwambiri kupewa mbali. Koma momwe mungawerengere mitunduyi pa siteji ya chibwenzi? Ndipo iwe ukudziwa bwanji munthu yemwe ali patsogolo pako ndi wokondana kwambiri kapena wozunza kwenikweni? Mayi aliyense ayenera kudziwa izi.
Amatha kukhala ndi moyo wabwino, kukhala okongola kunja, komanso nthawi zambiri mkazi, kukwatira munthu woteroyo, amaganiza kuti walandira mphotho ya moyo. Ndipo patangopita kanthawi, pali zinthu zochititsa mantha. Izi ndizomwe zikutuluka mwadzidzidzi, ndipo zimatsatiridwa ndi nthawi yaitali. Izi zimatsutsa nthawi zonse zochita zanu - ndipo nthawi zambiri poyera ("Musamamvetsetse, nthawi zonse chinachake sichidzasokoneza"). Ndikuteteza mopanda mphamvu pa chilichonse chimene mumachita, kunyoza maganizo anu, malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu. Munthu wotereyo amapindula chinthu chimodzi: kuthetsa kukondweretsa mkazi ndi udindo wake payekha. Popeza osowa mtendere - anthu amakhala ochenjera, zimachitika mosazindikira. Ndipo tsiku lina mkazi amadzipeza yekha ataphwanyidwa: ali ndi matenda ambiri a psychosomatic, amadalira pa mowa kapena mapiritsi, sangathe kugwira ntchito, sangathe kuyenda popanda uphungu kwa mwamuna wake.
Chikondi chotsiriza
Chodabwitsa, munthu wotere pachiyambi cha maubwenzi ndi wachikondi kwambiri. Chirichonse chikuchitika mofulumira kwambiri: kuyang'ana koopsa, kulengeza mwamsanga chikondi ndi pafupifupi usiku woyamba kupereka kwa dzanja ndi mtima. Zikuwoneka kuti uyu ndi munthu weniweni wa maloto anu: amaletsa misonkhano yake kwa inu, akulonjeza kuthetsa mavuto anu pa nthawi, akufulumira kukuuzani makolo ake ndi abwenzi ake. Tinakulira m'mabuku ndi mafilimu a amayi, ambiri a ife tiri basi ndipo ndicho chisangalalo.
Amuna awa amachita mwanjira imeneyi, osati chifukwa chakuti adziwa zomwe "tikugula". Kugonjetsa kotereku n'kofunikira kwa iwo kuti maubwenzi anu asadutse mwachitukuko cha chitukuko, pomwe makhalidwe awo osadziwika amatha kuwonekera.
ZIMENE MUNGACHITE?
Ngati mwamuna ayesa kuthetsa nthawi ya chibwenzi, funsani kuti achepetse chitukuko cha zochitika: "Tifunika kupita pati? Pambuyo pake, takhala pamodzi ndipo tili bwino ». Munthu wamba amamvera chisoni izi, wowononga, makamaka, adzatha.
"Ine ndi iwe ndife amodzi"
Inde, munthu wamtundu uwu amasankha mkazi wina. Osati yemwe, powona chikondi chake, amadzimangiriza yekha: "Zoonadi, tsopano ndikusiya chirichonse ndikukwatirana ndi munthu wina." Iye akuyang'ana munthu yemwe akulota kugwirizana mosangalala ndi wokondedwa wake. Poyamba, kuzindikira kwa "I" mwini wake kumbuyo kumabwerera kumbuyo. Mphamvu yonse ya mphamvu imagwiritsidwa ntchito pokonda, kukondedwa, kufunafuna kuvomerezedwa ndi kusokonezeka maganizo mwa wina ndi mnzake. Inde, nthawi yotereyo yaperekedwa ndi onse okwatirana, koma mtundu uwu sudzalekerera kuti wasokonezedwa ndi abwenzi, abambo, ngakhale kuntchito muyenera kuganizira za izo.
ZIMENE MUNGACHITE?
Aliyense yemwe anali patsogolo panu anali, ngakhale kuti chikondi chanu chili cholimba bwanji, yesetsani kuti musasokoneze kwathunthu mwa munthu wanu. Pitirizani ubale wina - ndi abwenzi, banja. Tawonani momwe mwamuna wanu angayankhire ngati mukufunitsitsa kulankhula za ntchito yanu kapena zokondweretsa. Ngati atakhala ndi maganizo oipa kapena ngati akunena kuti mukuchita zopanda pake, samalani. Mwina m'maganizo mwake "osati zachabechabe" ndi chikondi chokhacho kwa iye komanso kumumvera kwathunthu.
Pulumutsani madzi
Izi zowononga maganizo a psychopaths zimakhudza chilakolako chathu chofuna kukhala wina, kuthandiza, kusamala. "Nditakumana ndi Nicholas, anandiuza moona mtima kuti anataya ntchito ndipo anapanga ngongole zambiri. Ndinakondwera ndi izi moona mtima. Ndipo ndinkangokondwa kuti ndingamuthandize. Nicholas anadabwa kwambiri ndi kuyankha kwanga. Ndipo kwa ine kuyamikira kwake kumakhala mphoto yabwino kwambiri, "adatero Lidia. Poyamba zikuwoneka kuti ndi zophweka kumuthandiza munthu uyu, koma ndiye kuti ntchito imodzi ili kutali ndi kwawo, wina sagwirizana ndi zopempha zake, wachitatu ndi bwana woyipa. Ndipo kuti sangapeze malo m'moyo, kusiya zizolowezi zake (kumwa mowa, kutchova njuga), ndiye kuti ndiwe wolakwa.
ZIMENE MUNGACHITE?
Yesetsani kumuthandiza kamodzi ndikuwona mmene amachitira. Ngati atagwira mwamphamvu mpatawo ndipo iye mwiniyo adzachitapo kanthu kuti apulumuke, "zonse ziri mu dongosolo. Ngati zifukwa zimayambira kapena patapita nthawi, munthu amadzipezanso kuti ali ndi vuto limene akufuna kuthandizira, limatanthauza kuti izi ndizo kapangidwe ka moyo wake.
Ndipo chinthu chinanso chochititsa chidwi: pamene mupereka chithandizo kwa munthu wokwanira, mumamva, monga lamulo, chidaliro ndi bata. Ngati ndinu wosokonezeka, mumakhala wamantha komanso wokonzeka kuchita zinthu zopanda pake. Ichi ndicho kusiyana kwakukulu.
Wopwetekedwa ndi mkazi wonyansa
Chinthu chinanso cha wosokonezeka - sadali ndi mwayi ndi akazi. Iwo anali odzikonda okha, oumirira kwambiri, ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, amatsenga, omwe amachititsa scandals nthawi iliyonse. Izi ziyeneranso kukuchenjezani.
Kotero, tsopano akuyang'ana mkazi wodzichepetsa, wodalira mtima, wofooka, ndipo mwa iwe amawona zoterozo. Ndipotu, sizowona kuti akazi akale a mwamunayu anali okhudzika kwambiri kuchokera pa kubadwa. Mwachidule, mutaphunzira kuti mwamuna ndi wamtundu wanji, inu mwamunayo mumakhala mkazi wonyansa.
ZIMENE MUNGACHITE?
Mufunseni kuti akambirane za moyo wake, chifukwa chake amathana ndi akazi ake amzake. Ngati iye akukana mwamphamvu, tenga alamu: mwina akufuna kuti abise chinachake kwa iwe. Amayi onse "sanamvetse" iye, anali "amwano", "amatsenga"? Makamaka athamangire kuchokera kwa iye, kuti asakhale mzere wawo (ndipo ngati mutakhala - mudzakhalapo pamenepo). Ndiwe woyenera chikondi ndi ulemu wa munthu wamba, osati munthu amene angakugwiritseni ntchito pazinthu zanu. Si choncho?