Pazandale , kusintha kwa moyo ndi kutembenuka kwa nyenyezi zamalonda ku Hollywood ndi mafilimu a Hollywood, za miyambo yomwe ikupezeka muutumiki, khalidwe la anzawo komanso zotsutsana ndi mfumu. Koma makamaka, simungathe kutaya mawu kuchokera mu nyimbo, timakonda kukambirana ndi anthu omwe timacheza nawo, anzathu komanso achibale athu. Ziwerengero zimati timapereka pafupi 65% ya zokambirana zathu ku mutu wodalitsika! Kumbali imodzi, popeza ambiri a ife timakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi izi, zikutanthauza kuti tikuzifuna ndikubweretsa phindu lina. Koma mbali ina, tonse timaphunzitsidwa kuyambira masiku oyambirira kuti sikuli bwino kukambirana ndi munthu wina, koma kuti tipeze miseche kapena "osavulaza" akazi "ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi" ovuta kwambiri! Ndipo palibe ngakhale munthu wokonda kwambiri miseche "za nthawi ndi miyambo" saganizira tanthauzo la msampha wa "miseche". Ndiye mumapeza bwanji pakati pa zonse za mphekesera ndi miseche?
Nthawi yabwino . Malinga ndi asayansi, miseche inalipo ngakhale pansi pa dongosolo lachimake lachigawo. Amaonedwa kuti ndi njira imodzi yopititsira patsogolo kulankhula. Chabwino, tsopano chinenero chathu ndi cholemera komanso cholingalira, koma tidakalibe miseche. Chifukwa chiyani? Mphuno imakhala ndi mphindi imodzi yabwino: imanena za malamulo omwe muyenera kusewera ndi za malire omwe simuyenera kuwoloka. Mwachitsanzo, mudasuntha. Ndipo oyandikana nawo pamakwerero pamene akukumana kukambilana ndi olemba aja aja: "Ndibwino kuti iwo asamuke. Nthawi zonse ankasewera nyimbo, ndipo matumba a zonyansa kwa masiku angapo anaima pakhomo la nyumbayo. " Ndi chithandizo cha miseche iyi, oyandikana nawo akudziwitsani: simuyenera kuchita izi.
Ndipo ife tiri pano kumalankhula kapena "akazi osayenerera" "chizoloŵezi". Mwambi wotchuka umanena kuti miseche imapha onse atatu: wolemba, womvetsera ndi "woweruzidwa." Ndipo iye sali kutali ndi choonadi. Mwachitsanzo, mwakhala mukufufuza ntchito kwa nthawi yaitali, osagwirizana ndi zosankha zomwe munali "zovuta". Ndipo kusankha kwanu kumadzilungamitsa palokha: munapatsidwa mwayi woyenera, womwe, womwewo, unaperekedwa mopanda malire. Kupitirira nokha ndi chimwemwe, munagawana uthenga wabwino ndi amzanga angapo. Koma iwo sanakonde kukula kwanu kwa ntchito. Ndipo mkati mwa masiku angapo, pakati pa anzanu, munali mphekesera kuti malipiro otero anali kuyembekezera zaka zitatu kuti munalandira malowa chifukwa cha chidziwitso chosadziwika ndi kuti simungathe kuchita izo. Afika poti, mutakumana ndi achibale anu, gomushki anali okondwereranso pomwepo, akugwirabe ntchito? Mukuganiza bwanji, izi zidzatha bwanji? Mwezi ingapo, malo anu akhoza kudula. Inde, wina anganene kuti vuto liri lonse lolakwa, koma pazifukwa zina zikuwoneka kuti mawu a ena, owonjezera, amatchulidwa mwachizoloŵezi, adzachitanso gawo lawo. Pali miseche ndipo imodzi imasiyanso. Malingaliro a akatswiri a zamaganizo, nthawi zambiri munthu amakambirana momveka bwino za kusowa kwa wina zomwe zimamuvuta kuti adziyanjanitse.
Uwu ndiwo mtundu wotetezeka wa maganizo, womwe umakhala ndi nthabwala yoopsa ndi miseche. Pambuyo poima ndikukweza mawu a mkati mwa nthawi, kunena kuti "Ndinu opanda ungwiro!", Munthuyo amasowa chofunikira kwambiri: vuto lake, vuto silinachoke, chifukwa sanagwire ntchito pa iye, choncho sagwira ntchito.
Musatengeke! Monga mukuonera, mphekesera ndi miseche zili ndi pluses (omwe angaganize?), Komanso nkhanza. Ndibwino kuti mukambirane wina kapena ayi? Ngati ndi za achibale anu kapena abwenzi anu, nthawi zonse muzitsatira lamuloli: "Ndikukambirana nkhani zabwino zokha. Ngati sindingathe kunena chilichonse chabwino, ndibwino kuti ndisanene chilichonse. " "Kutuluka" kumatha, kunena, kukambirana ndi abwenzi, chovala chodabwitsa Julia Roberts anachiyika pa mwambo wa "Oscar" kapena ngati Zhanna Friske adzakwatira. Koma bwanji ngati mukuganizabe kuti mukukambirana nkhani yowopsya, koma osakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi munthu wina amene mukufuna?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo pa nkhaniyi amapereka uphungu. Sungani nokha mmene mumamvera. Khalani owona mtima ndi inu nokha. Yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe zimakupangitsani kufuna kuumba. Mukuganiza bwanji za munthu amene mukufuna kumukambirana? Chifundo? Mkwiyo? Nsanje? N'zotheka kuti muwonetsetse bwino, mumvetsetsa: chofunika cha vuto sikumeneko, koma mwa inu nokha. Ganizirani za zomwe zimadza ndi miseche kwa munthu uyu. Zidzakhudza bwanji moyo wanu, pakuyamba, mawu osayera. Pambuyo pake, popanda kufuna, mungathe kuvulaza kwambiri. Ndipo ngati "Zikomo" mungakhale ndi mphekesera zomwe zingasokoneze mbiri ya munthu kapena zimakhudza moyo wanu? N'zosatheka kuti mufunikire kunyamula udindo wotero. Zikuchitika kuti timalankhula chabe chifukwa palibe chochita, chifukwa cha mawu ofiira. Ndife palibe chomwe chimachitika, koma moyo wa anthu ena ukuwotcha. Lembani zochitika ndi moyo wanu: kupeza zosangalatsa zatsopano, lembani padziwe, pitani ku maphunziro oyendetsa galimoto. Mukhoza kukhala otsimikiza kuti nthawi ya "Kodi mumadziwa mphatso yoopsya yomwe mwamuna wanu adaipereka kwa Angela?" Sitikhalabe konse.