1. Mukupezeka ndi mapulani a tsogolo lanu
Ukwati ndi sitepe yaikulu, ndipo umafuna gawo lalikulu la udindo. Ngati mtsogoleri wamakhalidwe abwino atenga udindo kwa inu ndi ana a mtsogolo, ayenera kukonzekera tsogolo lomwe mumakhalapo. Pamene munthu akufuna kuti azikhala ndi iwe, ndi zachilendo kuti nthawi ndi nthawi amatha kukonzekera kukonzekera kwa miyezi kapena chaka kutsogolo. Ngati, polongosola tsogolo lake labwino, nthawi zambiri amatchula "ife" kusiyana ndi "Ine", mukhoza kuyembekezera kuti ubale wanu udzakhala ukwati.
Fufuzani momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito nthawi yanu. Ngati muyenda limodzi pa tchuthi, kambiranani sabata loyambira limodzi, konzekerani kukhala pamodzi kapena kukhala ndi denga limodzi pamutu panu, kapena mwinamwake mukuganiza kuti wina awoneka ngati ana anu, ndiye izi zikhoza kusonyeza kuti mwamuna wanu ali wokonzeka kuika moyo wake pamodzi ndi banja.
2. Akufuna kukudziwitsani kwa banja lake ndi abwenzi ake
Ngati ndinu mwamuna wa munthu yemwe ali wokonzeka kufotokozera moyo wake, adzayesetsa kuti mutsimikizire kuti muli momwemo. Poyamba amakudziŵitsani ndi abwenzi ake ndikuyesera kukupangitsani kuti mukhale woyenera. Zoonadi, kudziwana ndi makolo kumasonyezanso kuti amayesetsa kukhala paubwenzi ndi inu. Mwachibadwa, amafuna kuti adziŵe achibale anu komanso ngati iwo. Kotero ngati kwa picnic, mitundu yonse ya zikondwerero, ndi masiku okumbukira, komwe ankakonda kupita yekha, chibwenzi chanu tsopano chidzawoneka mukupita kwanu, ndiye ichi ndi chizindikiro chotsimikizirika kuti ali wokonzeka kukutsogolerani ku korona. Ndipotu, nkokayikitsa kuti iye adzawatsogolera ku phwando la banja la mkazi yemwe amamuona ngati fade.
3. Mu moyo wake sejchastakoy nthawi yomwe ntchito ikuyenda bwino
Zili bwino kwambiri kuti anthu amadziona kuti ndi opeza ndipo ngati mnyamata amalingalira kuti sangathe kukhala ndi mkazi ndi mwana, amapewa kukwatirana m'njira iliyonse. Malingaliro mu khalidwe ili alipo, koma pambali inayo ya ndalama, zomwe sizikuchitika kwambiri, ndi kuchuluka koyenera, komabe, sizingatheke konse. Kumverera kwa kukhazikika kwachuma kumaperekedwa ndi ntchito yolipidwa bwino ndi kukwezedwa kwa msinkhu wa ntchito. Kotero ngati mnyamata wanu ali wokondwa ndi wopambana kuntchito, ngati mokondwa akugawana zomwe akukwaniritsa ndi inu, ndiye kuti mwinamwake ali okhoza kwambiri kuganiza za kulenga banja.
4. Ambiri mwa abwenzi ake ali okwatira.
Chofunika kwambiri pa chidziwitso cha munthu chimaperekedwa ndi chilengedwe chake. Choncho, sizodabwitsa kufunsa momwe zinthu zilili ndi abwenzi ake komanso mabwenzi awo.
Yang'anirani mmene amachitira atadziŵa kuti munthu amene wakwatirayo wakwatira. Ngati chithunzi chaukwati, chotumizidwa pa intaneti, chimachititsa kuti anthu asamangokhalira kumvetsera komanso kusokoneza maganizo, izi zingasonyeze kuti iye sali okonzeka kukwatira. Ngakhale izo zimadalira, ndithudi, ndi ocharaktera: mwinamwake iye ali mwachibadwa chodabwitsa. Komabe, ngati mukuganiza chithunzichi kuchokera ku ulendo waukwati wa mnzanu, iye akuganiza kuti mukhoza kupita kwinakwake panthawi yaukwati, zingakhale bwino kuti mwamsanga mutalandira pempho la dzanja ndi mtima.
Ngati ambiri mwa anthu omwe osankhidwa anu akulankhula, ali kale okwatira, ndiye chochitika ichi sichinthu chachilendo kwa iye. Mwinamwake, mkatikati mwa moyo, iye amawachitira nsanje. Koma ngati abwenzi ake ambiri sali pa banja, akhoza kuwopa kuti azikhala ndi ufulu.
Mulimonsemo, amuna, monga amayi, amayesetsanso kupanga banja. Ndipo ngati mnzako sali wokonzeka kuti akwaniritse chiganizo chotere tsopano, ndiye kuti sangachite khama ndikukwatirana naye nokha, mudzakhala ndi banja losangalala. Inde, mwinamwake iye analibe mphamvu zokwanira, ndipo inu mumamukakamiza ku zomwe iye ankafuna, pakapita nthawi, koma zimachitika kuti munthu sangathe kudziyanjanitsa ndi udindo wake watsopano. Pachifukwa ichi, mwamunayo kapena mosadziwa adzalanda ubale wanu, ndipo pamapeto pake simungathe kukhala limodzi, muyenera kuthetsa banja. Nchifukwa chiyani muyenera kuyesetsa kukwaniritsa zoterezi? Ndibwino kuti mwamsanga muzisiye olemba omwewo ndikupeza omwe alidi woyenera kukugwiritsani ntchito zaka zambiri. Musataye mtima, ndipo mudzapeza chimwemwe chanu choyembekezeredwa.